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Splashdancer
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   Posted 8/22/2009 1:19 AM (GMT -7)   
First, I don't want to "bring anyone down", so please just ignore this post if you are in a good place   :-)  .  I apologize for my second post that is off the topic of chronic pain, but I have no one to "vent" to and I need to do just that. And also to ask for prayers or positive thoughts and energy. I realize that no one here knows me and vice versa, but maybe that's even better. Come to think of it, this isn't really off-topic too much, because as I am sure most of you know - severe stress = increased pain. Anyway, here goes. My family is on the verge of losing everything and for the first time in my life, I am scared. I have been strong all of my life, a survivor. I guess that can be a good thing, but it is so hard being strong all the time. No one really worries about me because I have always been strong and resilient, the "cheerleader" of the family. I'm the one who always says that: "everything will be alright", "think positive", "we've survived worse", "it always works out in the end" - blah, blah, blah. I never seem to have a shoulder to lean on, because I am always the shoulder for everyone else. Well, sometimes even strong people get weak (and I hate feeling weak). My fiance was injured on the job over a year ago. He fell off a faulty scaffolding and injured his back. Long story short, he has recovered as much as he is going to and we settled our Worker's Comp case early this year. He can't go back to laying block, but he is still capable of doing any other type of masonry, remodeling, etc. Unfortunately, the building industry in Florida has tanked and there simply is not any work. We drive around every day (that we have gas), looking for job sites and I have applied for exactly 32 jobs - and still nothing. We are a month and a half behind on our rent, our power will  be shut off Monday, with our cable/phone following shortly thereafter. School starts on Tuesday and my boys have absolutley NOTHING - no clothes, supplies, and literally no shoes. They wore out their sneaks from last year. Our church has helped us as much as they can over the past few months, but there are others who need their help too. I have been to other churches (most cannot help unless you are a member of their congregation), charities, etc., but so many people are hurting right now, there just isn't enough to go around. I am just SO scared. I am feeling completely hopeless, helpless, and scared (there's that word again!). People look at me and have no idea. I'm a really good actress and can put up a very good front. My mom taught me when I was young that no matter how bad you feel inside, let the outside world see a smile. I'm not a "people pleaser", but I like to see people happy. I'm the kind of person that, if I see someone with a nice outfit on, or a pretty hairstyle, I'll tell them how nice they look. If I see someone with a beautiful car, I'll tell them, "Great car!". Sorry for rambling, but my point is; I try to be nice to people, I don't complain about my problems, I help anyone who needs help. No matter how crappy I'm feeling, when someone asks me how I'm doing, I always answer, "Great, how 'bout you?" The problem is, I'm NOT ok and I feel like my life is spiraling into a dark, bottomless pit.
 
I'm going to apologize now. I am sorry for sounding so pathetic. I just really needed to vent like this - I won't do it again. My physical pain is out of control right now - I need to get my stress level down or I'll end up back in the hospital. And I can't let that happen, because my household would be reduced to a large, smoldering heap! I don't mean that literally, of course. It's just that my two sons and my fiance wouldn't know what to do with themselves...the dishes...the laundry...the cats...meals - wow, I just got a visual of what this place would look like without me. smhair
 
Just please, for those that do - please say a prayer for my family. Or just send out some positive thoughts. I don't care about me, it's my boys who deserve so much better than this. I should probably just delete this, but I'm going to go ahead and hit "submit".

Hara
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   Posted 8/22/2009 1:47 AM (GMT -7)   

My prayers are with you and your family at this time of need.

Ask around and see if there is something you can do for your kids and to get them their supplies. Dollar Stores, Thrift Stores, ect. Sometimes you can find things for free. Ask your church if you go to one. Some churches do help parents with kids out right before shool with stuff.

HARA

 


bsjaguar
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   Posted 8/22/2009 3:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Have you contacted Job & Family services in your area? They should be able to help you with financial aide and food especially for your children. Are you able to work Splash? I hope some relief comes soon for your family.
---Jag---
 
DDD, osteoarthritis, fusion surgeries C-5/7 & L-4/5 both in 2006, torn meniscus left knee 2000 & 2002, buldging disc L-2/3


cbear
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   Posted 8/22/2009 9:52 AM (GMT -7)   
welcome splashdancer! im so sorry for your very difficult situation. may i say a few things jumped out at me as i read your post. first of all there is no need to apologize for venting or needing to complain about your problems. thats what this site is all about. we listen to each other and when one of us is down the ones who are "up" can step in and try to help. sometime when you are "up" you can help support someone else. its very much give and take. im still fairly new, but that is what i have experienced. 2nd, you said you didnt care about yourself. if you dont take care of yourself first, you will have nothing left to give to those who truly need you. please, take care of yourself! im glad you r willing to ask for help from agencies who are there for that purpose. i know its a tough time bcause there are so many others in need right now. theres not enough help to go around. dont give up. you may be able to get your landlord to give you more time and utilities cos. sometimed have programs set up to help those in need. it doesnt hurt to try. it sounds like you have the weight of the world on your back. i wish i could help you with your load. if someone offers you help, take it! it makes people feel good to be able to help someone else.( you should know!). i hope you get the things you need and deserve for you and your family. i will definately keep you in my prayers. good luck and please dont ever feel badly about coming on this site to get support when you need it. thats what its here for.

Chartreux
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   Posted 8/22/2009 11:36 AM (GMT -7)   
I read your posts and had to answer, try the American Red Cross,United Way, WIC :Woman's, Infant, Children, and continue with getting help from the church
the church understands, never be afraid to post here, we all need to vent and your going through such a hard time...
and of course you have my prayers and lots and lots of soft hugz.........
hugz...
((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((SplashDancer)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm sorry for the typos' but it's so hard for me to type, the rf ablation procedure, I just had done has
me in a bad way...I will says prayers to you and for you and your family..

hugz and lots of soft ones, you can always, lean on my shoulders.......................
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PAlady
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   Posted 8/22/2009 11:40 AM (GMT -7)   
Dear Splashdancer,
Please, do not apologize for sharing with us. And I don't think one word of your post is off topic! Not one!

As I read the first half I thought I was reading something I had written myself. The main difference is I live alone and have no children to worry about. And that's a huge difference. I also know that while asking for help is hard (it's cuts to the quick for those of us who are used to being strong, doesn't it, but I'm trying to learn the lesson in this for me) it is necessary. And you're doing that. Yet you're right that there are so many in need now that agencies and churches and everyone who usually helps is stretched. Still, Dani (and I know others here) has some good suggestions and sometimes people on this board pop up with things I've never heard of. Chutz often suggests the Red Cross, and although I know they are overloaded they may have new resource lists for you to contact.

Have you applied for all the state and federal assistance you can get? I know it's a pittance. Also, I wonder if your landlord would be willing to consider becoming a Section 8 landlord, if there are any openings. I'm not sure how all this works, but you could call your local Housing Authority. I know some landlords are relieved to get part of their rent from the government (and government programs aren't all bad, sorry if I often anyone but they're the safety net for many of us!). I will keep trying to think of things.

And I'm not formally religious but I will definitely send positive thoughts and energy your way.

Please, please, don't restrain yourself from posting these topics. They ARE related to pain. This is what happens to our lives when we can no longer work because of CP and other health problems. Never feel this is off topic!

((((((((Splashdancer))))))))))

PaLady

Splashdancer
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   Posted 8/22/2009 12:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you everyone. When it rains, it pours - literally! I got to sleep around 5am and woke up at around 9am to a tremendous BOOM! Lightning struck nearby and the power went out immediately. They just got it back on about 1/2 hour ago, but we were told that they basically had to "rig" it (I don't even want to know what that means   smhair  ! They said that the main underground line coming into our development was fried and they will have to install a new one sometime next week and that our development will have no power for at least 2 days! Of course that doesn't matter a whole lot to me cause my power's supposed to be shut off on Monday anyway.
 
I so appreciate all of the suggestions - thank you! And yes, I have tried just about everything mentioned. We have a "211" service here. You enter what you need and it then lists all of the appropriate organizations that may be able to help. Here is what I found out. One organization helps with a months rent, however, they have no more funds available. The Red Cross will only assist in a disaster (hurricane, flooding, fire, etc.). The Salvation Army (and several others) will help with the LAST $50 of an electric bill and you have to show proof that is all you owe. Well, my electric bill is $296. My children are too old to receive W.I.C. (they are 11 and 16). The United Way referred me to 211. Several of the jobs I applied for came from the Agency for Workforce Innovation (our state employment service) - no luck. I have gone to MANY churches, and the vast majority can't help us; they can barely afford to help members of their own congregation. Our church has done everything they can, but they also have others they need to help. I have gone to food banks (F.E.A.S.T., RCS, etc.). Now don't get me wrong, I totally appreciate and am grateful for all that they do. But the past 3 times we got food (none have meats available), I have had to throw away 15+ items that were expired. And it wasn't the first time, so I finally called one of the places and told them what happened. They lady actually told me that they don't have time to check expiration dates! I could not believe she said that. I may be poor right now, and I am not expecting to receive steak and lobster, but I think asking for "pre-expired" food is not too much to ask. I have already been to my son's school and right now, they just don't have anything. My landlord (who is one of the kindest and nicest person I have ever known) is in a bad way herself. Her husband was recently in a terrible car accident and has been unable to work. They depend on our rent money to pay the mortgage and association fees (which was just raised from $115/month to over $300!). I have also applied for all government assistance. My children qualified for Medicaid, but I only qualified for "Medically Needy". My share of cost is $764/month. What that means is after I pay that amount, they will cover the rest - every month! The problem for me is my student grants and loans - they consider that income. We did finally qualify for some food stamps and received the funds last week. It's not much, but I am extremely thankful for it. It just breaks my heart every time my 11 year old opens the fridge and has to close it because there is nothing in there to snack on, because everything has to be saved for meals. He DESERVES BETTER than this! My older son is a trooper and ends up comforting me. He tells me, "It's ok mom, I can afford to lose a couple of pounds - gotta get my weight down for wrestling anyway!" God, I love my kids.
 
So as you can see, I have been doing EVERYTHING I possibly can to try and survive. I am not strongly religious, but I am spiritual and all I can ask for now is faith, prayer, and/or positive thoughts/energy. I am just so da*n scared. I really am a good person and my family are good people. We don't hurt anyone. We help everyone we can. We don't pray to win the lottery, we pray for enough to live our lives. I want to thank everyone for the kindness you have shown to someone you don't even know - it does make a difference. :-)

Post Edited (Splashdancer) : 8/22/2009 2:09:37 PM (GMT-6)


PAlady
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   Posted 8/22/2009 1:14 PM (GMT -7)   
Slplashdancer,
I kind of figured you had tried all angles. Sometimes unless you have you don't realize what you run into, but I am doing the same thing and I do know there are limits everywhere. And not everyone can help, even the agencies designed to do that. They're out of money.

I'm guessing you or your husband weren't eligible for unemployment. Here in PA because of our high rates (tho' not as high as Michigan) we have had several extension of UE insurance, and just got another 7 weeks. Also, has your husband tried to file for SSD? Is that even a possibility (although you say he can work, so that can be a problem).

It is scarey. Sometimes it comes down to just what you're saying - fear, anxiety, and faith of some sort. And then clinging to whatever lifelines you can find. Are there any family you can stay with? I'm guessing you've tried that, too, but being the strong one you describe yourself as, a lot of friends or family may not "hear" you when you tell them how bad it is. That's been my experience. My one cousin "gets it" only because she's now divorced and lives alone. But my other cousin, who I know would help a stranger in my position, is only now beginning to "get it" - get how bad it is for me. And that's because I've finally had to ask her to help with money with this dental thing. And with selling whatever we can find of family stuff that has any value that really, we don't need to keep. I have to learn to let go of some of my mother's things, although I will keep those that are most precious to me - and those aren't worth much anyway. Everyone is selling stuff. So you don't necessarily get much.

You're doing all you can, but look hard at anyone you've been reluctant to ask for help until now - and these are probably people in your personal life. Maybe it's not for money, maybe someone can offer you shelter for awhile.

I keep thinking there are a lot of people out there trying to keep larger, older homes but barely hanging on, and they have room and could probably use a handyman/woman in exchange for sharing the house. I bet more and more of that is going to start happening. If my house was larger (it's very small) I would be doing that myself. And I am keeping my eyes open for a relative or friend that might have an extra bedroom or two, so I could have a space to be "me", and yet share some expenses. I guess all we can do is be as creative as possible, and keep some faith.

The one thing that has given me solace, besides this forum, is knowing I'm not alone. Mind you, I'm not wishing this kind of desperate situation on anyone else, but knowing that I'm not the only one who's in the process of losing everything I ever worked for, plus - and most importantly - my health, does somehow help me feel like less of a failure.

Many, many hugs,

PaLady

skeye
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   Posted 8/22/2009 1:45 PM (GMT -7)   
((((((Splashdancer)))))))). My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family.

Skeye

Chartreux
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   Posted 8/22/2009 1:57 PM (GMT -7)   
((((((((((((((((((((((((SplashDancer)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Prayers and lots and lots of soft hugz....
will also keep finger's crossed....
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Splashdancer
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   Posted 8/22/2009 2:10 PM (GMT -7)   
PaLady - thank you. I am so sorry for your own situation, but it does help in some weird way to know that there is someone else who knows the fear. I'll try to answer some of your questions. I have very little family. My mom lives here, but for several reasons, moving in with her is unfortunately not an option. My dad passed away last year and besides the personal devastation of losing him, my mom lost most of her income when he left (large pension). She helped us financially until recently (it's what my dad wanted), but she is now fairly broke. My dad (who was my absolute hero) wanted more than anything for me to get a college degree. He wanted me to concentrate on that so he helped out so I wouldn't have to work. Then the ceiling caved in on our lives, my fiance got hurt, everything snowballed and here we are. And now that I need to work so badly, I can't find anything - the recession keeps pushing my face back down in the dirt. I have applied for all types of jobs, from those I have experience in to those I know nothing about. I am a fast learner so even if I don't think I have a snowball's chance in h*ll of getting it, I still apply! Unemployment Compensation is not an option because of the settlement agreement we reached with the company my fiance was injured with. He had to agree to relinquish all rights to Unemployment. We settled for a paltry amount because we had no choice, we needed the money and the W.C. benefits just were not cutting it - not even close. But that money is long gone. By the time we paid up on all of our overdue bills and bought a car (ours had literally blown up), the money was gone. You're right, SSD won't work because he is still able to work, just not doing the exact work he did before. We are looking into Vocational Rehabilitation through the state, but it's very hard now to get it. And it doesn't do anything for our "now" situation. But once we can get on our feet (or at least one foot!), he may go that route for the long term solution. We have pawned or sold everything we had of value. I even had to pawn my father's guns, which absolutely broke my heart. I know to most people they are "just guns", but to me they are a direct connection to my dad - we used to target shoot together and those are some of my best memories. I also had to pawn his fishing gear - more happy memories. I miss him so much and I want him back. Why did he have to leave me?? Sorry about that, didn't mean to swerve off! Oh, and my younger son's father is 6 months behind in child support! Ok, I am rambling all over the place now, so I'll stop for now. PAlady - thank you for your kindness. :-) :-)

White Beard
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   Posted 8/22/2009 7:00 PM (GMT -7)   
Very Good Dani yeah
 
 
Splashdancer
 
I am sorry for what you are going through! I will keep you and your family in my prayers! You know splashdancer there are all kinds of things that can cause us pain, don't ever feel bad about venting and sharing your problems with us here! That is what makes this forum so great, is that we can share our pain here and people understand.  And maybe by venting or sharing your problems with us here, ....well.... maybe in some small way it will lighten your burden that weights you down! Times are so difficult, right now for so many people.
 
I wish you and your family well, and do hope that better times are ahead for you!
 
White Beard
 
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I'm Retired USAF, went back to school and became an RN, and now am on full disalbility!--Degenerative Disc (affecting mostly the thorasic disc but all levels involved), C6/7 laminectomy/diskectomy& fusion, Osteoarthritis, Ulcerative colitis, Chronic Pain, Fibromyalgia, Complex Sleep Apnea, and host of other things to spice up my life!(NOT!) Medications: Oxycontin, Percocet, Baclofen, Sulfasalazine, Metoprolol, Folic Acid, Supplemental O2 at 3lpm with VPAP Adapt SV


PAlady
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   Posted 8/22/2009 8:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Dani,
Maybe I'm missing something, but it doesn't seem to me that story/joke belongs here on Splashdancer's thread. But I'll let her speak for herself.

PaLady

mrsm123
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   Posted 8/22/2009 8:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Splashdancer,
It seems that everyone else has suggested anything that I could have suggested as well. Do keep checking with the school district. They may not have supplies right now, but they may get some just before or as school starts. Check with the local Boy and Girl Scout Councils as well. Usually , boys and girls who are working on some of the higher awards in those organizations choose projects such as getting school supplies, and bookbags to local schools.
Check with the Recreation Department in your town. Sometimes, they also have food banks or can send to some that may not be as readily advertised as others. Also, they may have some ideas about clothing and where you can locate some decent, clean almost new clothes for the boys for school.
And I am sending up good thoughts for you and your family as well......blessings to you all,
Sandi
PLIF/TLIF Fusion w/Instrumentation L4-5 Spondololysthesis L4-5.Laminectomies L4-5, foraminal stenosis L3-4, L4-5, L5-S1, herniations L3-4, L4-5, L5-S1, central canal stenosis L3-4, L4-5 and L5-S1
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Neurogenic Bladder and Bowel, bilateral numbness legs and feet
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On going back pain and neuropathic pain, failed back surgery, consult for scs, decided not to do that at this point.
Adhesive Arachnoiditis also......just what I didn't need..9/08- adding bilateral ulnar neuropathy with severe compression to the mix. They want me to see a surgeon for ulnar nerve surgery, but I'm not biting.
I've seen enough surgeons over the last few years.
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Splashdancer
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   Posted 8/23/2009 12:57 AM (GMT -7)   
Sandi - the Boy and Girl Scouts, I never would have thought of that. Thank you, it's definitely somthing for me to try! I remember when I was in Girl Scouts, we did different kinds of community service. I'll call them on Monday. I just feel like I'm such a failure to my boys. I mean I've gone through my share of really hard times, but this is by far the worst. Asking for (and accepting) help is VERY difficult for me, but there is no room for pride when you have children. I would do anything for them. Like I mentioned earlier, my older son is a real trooper - he's kind of my rock. But my 11 year old is not handling this well. He has been through alot in his young life and it crushes my heart to see him hurting. Thank you for caring about my family. :-)

PAlady
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   Posted 8/23/2009 1:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Splashdancer,
I wonder if any of the Family Service type agencies are running small groups for children going through these hard times. The school might also do something (or you could even make that suggestion, as I'm sure your children aren't the only ones, and it would make good use of a school counselor's time).

As for the pride, it kind of gets ripped away layer by layer even if you don't have children, although I think mine would have gone out the window much quicker if I had children. I am finding lately that I'm hardly noticing the pride thing anymore. I feel like I've been stripped naked in many ways, so many people and organizations, etc. know about my situation, or have my financial information, and I'm sure you feel the same.

It's a huge adjustment for those of us who have been the strong ones, but I guess in the long run a learning experience. I guess. I'm sure we both would have preferred learning other things instead!

Hugs,

PaLady

Splashdancer
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   Posted 8/23/2009 2:17 AM (GMT -7)   
PAlady: it seems like you really understand what I'm feeling and I want you to know that it really does help - thank you so much! :-)   And yes, I have been in touch with the school counselor (at the elementary school of my younger son). We have known each other for years, as my two youngest boys attended all 6 years there (well my youngest is now in the 5th grade). The school system here in Florida has taken a tremendous hit this year - major budget cuts. Each teacher is alloted $250 for the ENTIRE school year and once that is spent, everything else comes out of their own pockets. To me, that is beyond ridiculous and it ticks me of! mad These teachers work SO hard, with so little and I have the greatest admiration for them. Ok, I swerved a bit there. Anyway, the school counselor simply has no funds to help anyone right now, but she will do all that she can to try and get my son at least some basic supplies. She is the greatest and I love her to death. Also, I did attend 2 school supply "giveaways", along with about 200-300 other people. Each time, they ran out of supplies long before I got to the front of the line. Thank you again for your kindness - it is appreciated more than you know. :-)

Splashdancer
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   Posted 8/23/2009 2:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Dani - I was not offended by your joke - honest! I'm sure you were just trying to make me laugh. To be honest, I wasn't sure if you meant to post it here or not, but either way, it's ok, it did not upset me! :-)   Thank you for the {{{hugs}}}!

Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 8/23/2009 9:55 AM (GMT -7)   
 
 
   Miss Splash!
 
     Was just a joke about 4 girls friends hanging out. And yes, I often post recipes and jokes .. I just wanted you to smile. You have had thing s so hard. Oh and x3 links to National resources. Bot I can send via email if you want?  :-)   I really think you would like angelfood ministries. I used them and have been a big help with the hitts to our funds. (i have to repair bone loss stuff next weeks total is 22K- were hit pretty hard with only one income). Sometimes I send ecards?  I love you to peices! You ve got the biggest heart ive ever seen and wanted so much for you to smile. *warm huggs*
 
*huggs*
    dani
 
ps.s sending a lil sunshine you way!


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And sorry I could not travel both  
And be one traveler, long I stood

Post Edited (Dani Henson) : 8/23/2009 11:27:17 AM (GMT-6)


Splashdancer
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   Posted 8/24/2009 12:45 AM (GMT -7)   
PAlady: so much of what you have said to me rings so true to my situation! When you said how you feel "stripped naked" because so many people know about your issues, I SO identify with that. I am not the kind of person that likes telling other people about my problems, especially when they are so deeply personal. I'm also not the type of person who worries about what other people think of me - I am who I am. But it is embarrassing to have to admit to others details of the mess that is my life. But when you are trying to get help, you have to lay all your cards on the table, so to speak. And I get SO tired of explaining it over and over again - each time I feel like more of a loser and more pathetic. I hate that feeling sad mad . And especially when you deal with government agencies, so many of the caseworkers/employees don't treat you too kindly - at least in my experience. If they can't handle the pressures of their job or if they lack the simple human trait of compassion, they need to make a career change. Even some supposed "Christians" have treated me like I have a disease or something. I hate to be the one to break it to them, but they could very easily be me. No one is immune from poverty - it can happen to anyone. I treat people with respect and I expect no less in return. I stand up for myself and I have no problem with letting someone know that I won't tolerate being treated with disrepect. No one has the right to look down on me or my family. Oh geez, I'm off on one of my rants again - sorry 'bout that! rolleyes   Well, since I've already veered off the exit ramp, here's some more. Everyday I remind myself that many people are worse off than me. You know that old saying: "I cried because I had no shoes, until I met a man who had no feet." I try hard to remember that and heck, I'VE been through worse (although not financially). I was attacked when I was 14, my firstborn son died when he was 2 days old, my two older sons were abducted by my ex-husband and disappeared for 10 years, and my oldest son came close to dying twice before he was 4 years old - once from superventricular tachycardia and once from transverse myelitis. Ok, there I go again - too much information. Guess I should have posted a warning - I usually hold things in, but when I vent, I REALLY vent  smhair ! After all of that, it is probably hard for you to believe that I actually don't like to tell people my problems (and I very rarely do) - I would much rather lend an ear to someone else. I will give you all a break now, I'm pretty sure most of you are tired of hearing my rants! I just want everyone to know how much I appreciate all of your responses to me. I can't explain it, but hearing from all of you seems to lighten my load a bit - even if it's just for a few minutes while I am reading them. You all are great - thank you! smilewinkgrin
 
I will end this with a bit of good news. One of the church elders paid our past due electric bill - NO SHUT-OFF TOMORROW! Huge relief. He told us there is nothing more he can do right now and he was like "apologizing" for that. I couldn't beleive it. I was in tears. This wonderful man just prevented us from being without power and he's apologizing to me!  Ok, this time I mean it - I will stop whimpering for the nite! Please everyone, have a peaceful day.  :-)

Splashdancer
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   Posted 8/24/2009 12:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Dani: I feel the sunshine - thank you!  :-)   And yes, send me those resources you mentioned. You are a very sweet person and thank you for trying to lift my spirits. You have NO idea how much I appreciate it! Have a very peaceful day, Dani! smilewinkgrin

PAlady
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   Posted 8/24/2009 11:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Splashdancer,
You certainly have been through so many, many HUGE challenges in your life! No wonder you've become so strong and such a survivor. I am so sorry for what's happened with you and your children, but you've somehow healed (not forgotten, but healed). Hopefully, we'll one day heal from all this emotional and physical wounding. Poverty and desperation have a lot of side effects, don't they?

As far as the elder that helped you, reminds me of my "good" dentist. The one who's doing some services for free and others at an enormous low price. I found that one gesture to be so healing. It wasn't even so much about the money (although that helped); it's that someone offers. Somemone who has at least a little more than we do at the moment reaches out and shares. Like helping you keep power (which is a big deal when you think about NOT having it). Those gestures help heal the heart and the soul. Should be a lot more of them going around, IMHO, but I also know lots of people are hurting.

Hugs,

PaLady

merrygirl
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   Posted 8/24/2009 12:30 PM (GMT -7)   
splashdancer-

could you email me what school supplies your kids need and I might be able to help?? Walmart had kid supplies so cheap. glue sticks for 25 cents and notebooks for 15 scents..

southshorelyme at hotmail dot com
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Chartreux
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   Posted 8/24/2009 1:17 PM (GMT -7)   
SplashDancer,
I'm glad the church came through for you and I'm glad you still will have power, one small leap at a time!
I have prayed for you and will continue, I sure wish those agencies I mentioned could've helped you...
more prayers and well wishes and please forgive my typo's...
lotz and lotz of soft hugz
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AngMichelle
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   Posted 8/24/2009 6:10 PM (GMT -7)   
go to your department of human services. I am getting food stamps, that at least you should qualify for. THey also have something called Family First...wich helps with other stuff, at least they do here in TN. But I would def. check into it if you haven't already. I'm so sorry your doing through this.
Do you qaulify for disability? I am 24 and got it on my first try w/out an attourney, just a really smart Mom.
Can your realitives help you any? Justt thinking.
saying a prayer right now.
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Migraines, Ovarian Cyst, repeat and multiple jaw dislocations, depression/anxiety, PTSD, and the list goes on
On Jan 17th 2008 I had a very traumatic situation ending in a colostomy. had the reversal which put me through months of hell, but better now. I have had over 12 pretty major surgeries, 100's of "procedures", my immune system is a NO GO. I've been in and out of the hospital for the last 10 years. I have no real Dx's really. I have a lot of "Psuedo" (sp?) symptoms, so they say. This in just 24 years and its just half the story. (Violin's playing yet?)

Meds: Celexa, Klonopin, getting off pain meds.
(to date doing IV home infusions of antibiotics for pneumonia and staph)

May God give you a reason to smile today, an extra reason to laugh, and bring joy to your soul.

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