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PAlady
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   Posted 9/10/2009 2:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi, family & friends,
Many of you know one of the few (if not the only) treats I have had right now in my life is visiting the Humane Society every couple of weeks, taking in some treats, and going around and distributing them to the cats. And that a couple of months ago I had fallen in love with a couple of cats who had been abused, and were being kept in the manager's office, and was given permission (by the shelter manager) that I go could into her office to visit them and give them treats. I was also given permission to give the cats in their enclosures treats (although I do not open the enclosure doors or take them out). I was also given permission - again, by the shelter manager, to go into the "cat lounge" where several cats are kept and give them treats, even though the sign on the door says staff only. I would never have done these things without permission.

Now I buy some cat (and now dog) treats every couple of weeks to do this and, although it's not much, on a severely limited income even that $5 is all I can afford. I can't afford to donate to the shelter, or to go to their fundraisers (they're having one in a couple of weeks that costs $25/ticket). But this is kind of beside the point. No one has ever pressured me for donations, so don't get that idea.

But a couple of months ago one of the staff handed me a volunteer application and said if I filled it out I could then open any of the cages I wanted and take out any of the cats on my own. I took the application home and on the first page it asks for the schedule times you can commit to. Well, I can't do that. The shelter is 45 minutes away from my home, and I only stop by when I'm already in that area for something else. Gas is expensive, as well all know. And then there's a series of activities you're asked to check to see how you'd be interested in volunteering. Now if I had my health I'd LOVE to volunteer to do more, but we all know what it's like to be limited by CP. I don't even dare pick up the heavier cats, or bend in certain ways to pick up even a kitten. And I certainly can't walk dogs. I actually never went in there with the idea of committing to anything because if I was doing that it should be somewhere I could make some money!

Last week I was in there and saw a cat come in in a crate, and e-mailed the shelter over the weekend that I'd like to know if/when that cat came up for adoption. Well today I received a response that has had me in tears all day. I was basically told that they couldn't give out information about cats that aren't up for adoption (I wasn't asking for that) and that while they appreciate my conccern for the cats, they really want people to focus on the cats that ARE up for adoption. THEN the second paragraph of the e-mail said the shelter director (different from the manager - I've never met the director) was concerned about my interaction with the cats because I had not filled out a volunteer application and signed the liability waiver contained in the application. Now I understand about liability issues, but there is no liability waiver on the application I received. I would gladly sign that, but I can't commit to the volunteer stuff.

I'm really just venting here - NOT looking for solutions, just some understanding and TLC. It was more in the way the e-mail was worded that stung. It made it seem like I was doing something wrong without having been given permission - and yes, I know I can write them back about this, and maybe I will but right now I'm just hurting.

Others don't realize that with all we have on our shoulders, sometimes that one SEEMINGLY tiny thing to them is a BIG DEAL to us. I've said here many times that taking those animals treats was as much a treat for me as it was for them (maybe more!) and now it just feels like it's been tainted, ya know? Those of us with health and financial problems and especially living alone don't have very much good stuff in our lives, and the little taste we get from time to time....well, when that's tampered with it hurts a lot.

I'm crying as I write this so I'd better stop rambling.

Thanks for listening!

PaLady cry

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/10/2009 2:42 PM (GMT -7)   
is it possible they misunderstood you. were you intending on adopting that cat or wanting to. i would email them back and explain the situation and see if there was a mix up
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Chartreux
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   Posted 9/10/2009 3:29 PM (GMT -7)   
Usually the form you fill out is so they can do a background check on you before you volunteer...
it's for the safety of the staff and animals, so fill it out and leave the days and times blank and give it to
the manager that knows you...
Hope this clears things up, go back when you can with the forms and talk to them, things will work out...
it hurts me that your crying over this and I'm very sure you'll be able to continue to see those kitties...
hugz
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PAlady
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   Posted 9/10/2009 3:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks,
The TLC is much appreciated.

I DO understand about liability and forms and such. That's why I said I wasn't looking for a solution, just TLC and some understanding of how this tainted it for me. There is not one thing - not one - I ever did there without asking for and being granted permission, but this was not acknowledged at all in the e-mail. Made it seem like I was doing these things on my own. To me, they should have at least acknowledged that THEY were in the wrong for granting permission in the first place. Especially since it was the shelter manager herself who gave me permission, and I even have it in an e-mail, to go into the cat lounge. And in that e-mail she never said a word, not one word, about a liability form or anything.

So please, I don't need solutions suggested. It's just that sometimes when something is pure and it gets tainted it feels like it's ruined. The purity IS ruined for me. And is so hurts right now. The one tiny thing I had in my life at this point in time.

PaLady (still sad)

skeye
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   Posted 9/10/2009 4:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Awww ((((((((((Palady))))))))))). How rotten! You'd think that they would take all the help they could get, whether it was on a regular schedule or not (especially from someone so kind & loving)! The more people that come to spend time with the animals, the better! I can understand the need to sign a liability waiver, but I don't see why the rest is such a big deal! You've been going there for a while & clearly you have all the right intentions. Although I do remember a similar system being in place when I volunteered at our local shelter in high school. I actually stopped volunteering there after about a year because the staff were nasty & they wouldn't let you do much. It really is such a shame.

I can understand why you are so upset by this. I would be too (and I am upset for you). Spending time with the cats is something that you really look forward to & that's not something to be taken lightly. It's one of those things that keeps you going. I know you've become close to some of those kitties & that they help you as much as you help them. You have every right to be upset! I wish I could give you a big hug right now & bring you some of the kitties to play with! I do hope that the shelter reconsiders their position or finds a way to work this out! They don't understand how much this means to you!

hugs & more hugs,
Skeye

White Beard
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   Posted 9/10/2009 4:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh PALady
 
Your post has touched me deeply! I do understand your feelings!...........  The hurt that you feel, ...I am sure,... just as I know that you are,.... that it wasn't  intentionally met to be that way!  But they don't know your situation, and they don't have any idea how fragile your feeling are right now! But I know!, .....at least I think I do anyway,.... just as you know  how fragile mine are! In your post I see glimmering strands of your strengths and even even the small bits and pieces of your weaknesses, just as I am sure you do when you read my posts! I am sure we all do, in one way or the other when reading each others posts!     I think I know how fragile you are right now, and going to the shelter and being with the cats was your your reprieve from everything else going on in your life!  I do feel your pain and angst in your post here....................PALady I do so wish I could I could take away your pain and anguish, and make it better for you!
 
All my Best to You!
 
White Beard
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PAlady
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   Posted 9/10/2009 4:54 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you, Skeye and WB and CCL!

White Beard - "fragile" - you hit the nail on the head. I think we all have our fragile spots, and for many of us it does seem to be about our animals, doesn't it?!

CCL - I sure hope you can keep your kitties. That's the one reason I haven't brought one home, is that with my health and finances until things calm down and I know a little bit more of what the future will bring, I don't want to take one home because it would tear my heart apart to have to give it up. So that's why visiting became my only option for now. Yes, CCL, you do understand. Your line about how you just gave up after being turned away from visiting the eldelry really touched my heart.

I know all about the liability. I would GLADLY have signed a release form if I had been asked to. But I can't make any more of a commitment. You would think that these agencies would value even a few hours from one of us.

Oh, I'd better stop for now.

Sting has a song named "Fragile". I'm going to have to dig out the CD and play it so I can remember the words. He sang it for some of the 9/11 memorials, I think on the first anniversary.

How fragile we are.

PaLady

couchtater
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   Posted 9/10/2009 5:04 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm very upset that they would change their minds like that. They should of said something about liability issues the first day.
I'd fill out the form, but leave the days empty. Tell them you can only come when your CP let's you.

Ally, I'd find a better place. Don't give up the babies!

Joy

Chartreux
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   Posted 9/10/2009 6:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Awe PALady,
HUGZ and lots of them...
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White Beard
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   Posted 9/10/2009 6:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Yes PALady for allot of us our fragile spots are our animals, they are so dependent on us, and yet their love is unconditional! Pet and animals can draw out the very best in us. It does hurt so bad when you lose one. I to will not get another pet right now, I want one so bad, but it is just not practical untill I get my life at least some what settled! It would not be fare to the animal, actually I would like to have both a dog and a cat! With fall coming on it sure would be handy to have a mouser in the house! I like cats, I also really like dogs. Heck I even like hamsters! It was funny a number of years ago I was out in the garage working on one of my wood carvings, it was in the late fall and I heard a noise and looked over on one of the tool shelves and there was a feild mouse just sitting there looking at me! I smiled at him and said hello, he just sat there a minute or so I went back to carving, and when I looked back he was gone! My wife thought I was nuts for not trying to kill him! He wasn't bothering me, so?????

I wish you well PALady!

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Angel_Who_Cares
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   Posted 9/10/2009 9:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Dear PALady,

I know what you went through with the cats thing... it hurts... but let me tell you this, do not make others so important that they could change your opinion about yourself. They don't know you.. the sweet person that you are. In all probability, they weren't even trying to hurt you. It was just an official mail for them, something impersonal. Don't let it make you think that you aren't nice or what you did was tainted or something. That was between you and the cats and may be God. You know what you did. You know yourself the best. Don't you love yourself? I think you are a lovable person, even though I don't know much about you. You know what, the world is not worth crying for. All that matters is what you think of yourself. And you are one fine lady, PALady!

Love,
Angel.
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edt
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   Posted 9/10/2009 10:18 PM (GMT -7)   

Ahhhhh PALady,

I'm so sorry this happened to you!  I know from all your posts that the Kitty visits were the highlight of your day whenever you could go.  Don't give up girlie, do what you need to do and keep making those precious sweet little animal visits! 

You are an inspiration to all of us here and those animals need you tongue !  Sending you big giant soft hugs!

XXOO
Patti


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   Posted 9/10/2009 11:09 PM (GMT -7)   

 


Post Edited (mrsm123) : 9/17/2009 9:04:03 PM (GMT-6)


Bandit07
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   Posted 9/11/2009 1:41 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi PALady

I'm so sorry this happened. I totally understand how hurt you must be feeling. The tiniest of things can make such a huge difference - both positively and negatively - when you're dealing with something like CP, and people who've never been there just don't get it. Animals provide such fabulous therapy - my chinchillas always know when I sad and they come over to comfort me! - and to have that taken away, AND be implied that you were doing someting wrong, is horrible.

I wish I could think of something to make you feel better. All I can say is that you always seem to be one of those very supportive people on the forum, always with something to give.  I can see that you have lots of friends and people who respect you on here - I always look out for your posts myself - and I hope that gives you some measure of comfort. (Sorry if that sounds patronising or sycophantic or something, but it's meant in a good way, even if I'm not putting it very well!).

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golitho
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   Posted 9/11/2009 2:31 AM (GMT -7)   
PAlady I can't believe how bureaucratic our world has become. I feel really upset for you, so rotten of the director to send you such a letter with no explanation from the manager, it really makes me annoyed that they can treat you that way when you have brought such love and caring to all those animals. I feel your hurt! But I feel cross at them, how darethey hurt our wonderfully caring, worldly wise PAlady! You always offer such great advice, you're always there to reply to all queries and offer your shoulder to cry on! Best wishes to you, big hugz, golitho

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   Posted 9/11/2009 6:19 AM (GMT -7)   
I am with Skeye on this one and it just burns me. You were doing something totally harmless, yes we understand the liability crap, blah, blah. This is upsetting, those little guys need people like you in their lives, what idiots those people are But, to have total permission as you did is even more disgusting. And these folks wonder why people are not breaking their doors down to volunteer oe whatever. I am just shocked but mad at the same time. Perhaps somethig can be worked out here once you get calmed down.
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Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 9/11/2009 8:37 AM (GMT -7)   
 
We have same policies with our shelters here.
It is a pain for sure. 
 
*huggs*
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PAlady
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   Posted 9/11/2009 11:34 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you, Thank you everyone! Your kind words help soothe the wound.

I'd say more but I'll dissolve into tears again. The sting isn't as bad today, but it's still there. I'll decide what I'm going to do (if anything) somewhere down the line. It's just that I didn't want to have this turn into a mess like everything else in my life. It has been so easy. Just drop in whenever I could. No strings. No nothing but TLC from the kitties and cats and dogs and even the staff I interacted with!

Just thank you...

Hugs,

PaLady

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   Posted 9/11/2009 7:50 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm usually on the fibro forum but saw this post and had to reply.  We decided to adopt a dog from the Humane Society in the late 90's.  I went with my son and we were going to pick one out for the hubby as a surprise birthday present.  On the cages was the date they were going to be euthenized.  I found the saddest mixed breed named Leslie and decided she was the one.  She was going to be killed the next day.  I thought I would just  be able to take her home.  NO.  I had to fill out about ten pages of info...all the way from our income to how big our yard was.  Then they said if there was another member of the family that was going to interact with the dog he had to come and sit with the dog in the 'bonding room'.  I called the hubby and he was teaching a class at the time, ruined the birthday suprise by telling him he had to come in right that moment and 'bond with the dog' or we couldn't have her.  He left his class...thankfully the dog loved him.  I don't understand all of this and realize they have to be careful but it took hours to get this animal that they were going to kill in 12 hours.  I guess better dead than put in the hands of someone without a big yard?  I don't know.
 
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PAlady
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   Posted 9/12/2009 1:29 AM (GMT -7)   
Donna,
Wow, what a story! Even seeing the dates of euthanasia would creep me out. You would think in such an instance any one who had at least some positive qualities would be an option to killing the animal! And to have to drag everyone in the family in? Geesh! I know they have to be careful; no one wants the animal to go to a home where they might be abused and neglected. That being said, there can be many loving homes that are far from "perfect" on the outside - like maybe not having a big yard.

There's another organization in our area called Because You Care. They basically foster animals; they don't have a shelter. I tried once to talk with them about one of the animals I saw on the website, but they have so many strings attached it's pathetic. They demand cats have to be indoor cats, and they insist a cat not be declawed. Now I realize there are a lot of feelings about these issues, but a lot of families can provide a great home and have their cat go outdoors some of the time. I kept my cat indoors because I got tired of paying vet bills when he was a kitten, because he kept getting sick! But my goddaughter has a cat they found at a farm - the cat had been tossed out a car window and the farmer's grandkids saw it - and she brought it home and he loves going outside (they live in a rural area) but comes indoors a lot and is the sweetest lap cat when inside! Anyway, sometimes they go overboard with the rules, IMHO. And it sounds like your situation was one of those times.

I still want to thank everyone for your kind words, but I know if I try to thank each person I'm going to forget someone. I just want you to know your kindness and hugs and support have meant the world to me!

PaLady

Blessedx8
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   Posted 9/12/2009 7:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello PALady :)

Just a quick note to say I've been away dealing with the kids and school, etc. I underestimated how much it would take out of me trying to juggle everyone's schedules while being so limited in what I can do. Somehow, I made it through and things are starting to come together....BUT I wanted you to know that I read through your posts here.

I could SO relate to something you said about how few "pure" things there are....and how it hurt your feelings, etc. Boy, I could relate. I had tears welled up in my eyes as I read through your 1st and 2nd posts. I could literally feel your emotions through your posts! I hope you are feeling a little better....

I never knew about the bond created w/ an animal until we got our puppy at the 1st of this year. She's an adorable maltipoo... She's been the greatest thing for all of us; but she's become such a companion to me because I'm home bound most of the time... Also, I have terrible insomnia/sleep disorders - and she stays up with me! Anyway, I can relate even more to your post now that I have a pet myself.

I'm sorry, PALady, for all the stuff you've been through this year... I wish there was more I could do - I honestly do; but please know you are in my thoughts.
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BionicWoman
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   Posted 9/12/2009 9:15 PM (GMT -7)   
I've been involved in animal rescue for many years and I have to say, there's disproportionate number of jerks working at the pounds and humane societies. I notice it most when potential adopters are treated like they're an inconvenience. It's disappointing because you kinda expect to find more compassionate people in certain environments.. cry

With that said..

I will only adopt cats to indoor-only homes and there is a no declaw clause in my contract. Many people believe that when they declaw, the vet just removes the little claw from the end of the toe, but that's not the case at all. They cut the cats toe off at the first knuckle; a declaw is actually 18 toe amputations. Personally, I classify cutting off a cats toes for non-medical reasons as cruel and inhumane. I know there are people that disagree with me on that topic and they have a right to their opinion, even though they're wrong. wink

As far as the outdoor/indoor thing.. I think a person's perspective changes drastically when you've been the one to try and save so many kitties from totally avoidable situations. I've taken in cats that have been attacked by dogs, lost fights to raccoons and other wildlife, have been hit by cars, sliced open with razor blades, thrown from moving vehicles, and even purposely set on fire. Some have lived and some haven't, but the common bond is that they all suffered immeasurably and that suffering could have been so easily prevented if they'd just been kept safely indoors. I wouldn't be fulfilling my promise to the kitties if I adopted them into homes where they'd be put out the door and left to face all the dangers the outdoor world holds for them. The only exception I make is for people who have a secure outdoor enclosure for their cat(s), along the lines of this:

www.geocities.com/Petsburgh/Park/8353/outdoorenclosure.html


I don't have an outdoor enclosure for my cats and don't really have a desire to, because my babies are perfectly happy in their indoor jungle. I do have big dreams of expanding the cat-centric arrangements in my house, though.

Someday, I want my house to have stuff like this -

www.thecatshouse.com/catshouse/blueprint/tv_01.htm

Here's the beginning of the cat's house tour.. if you want to see their whole house.. it's my inspiration! smilewinkgrin

www.thecatshouse.com/catshouse/index.htm

But I digress.. into a serious cocktail party moment.. redface

PAlady
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   Posted 9/12/2009 9:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Mom,
Thanks so much for taking time out from what must be a hectic time to post. Yes, the "pure" thing came to me just as I was writing. Because that's how it felt about that one seemingly little activity in my life - not tainted by all the financial and health woes, tons of paperwork and applications for low cost health insurance and free medications, dealing with a precancerous condition, and on and on. That one thing was just simple and easy. And now that's changed.

Bionic - you may well be right about humane society employees. I've not spent much time around them because I only adopted one animal from a humane society. Others seem to come into my life "accidentally". All the animals in my adult life have been strays a neighbor or co-worker had except the one I got from the humane society many years back. I've never volunteered in one either formally or informally. And I have to wonder if it is this one employee - and (no offense to the men here!) I think it's the male that floats around. Because he's been the only one who was friendly at first, but seems to be rather abrupt with me. Everyone else smiles and says hello and I'm trying to get to know all their names. I have met the shelter manager a couple of times (the two abused cats I was working with a few months ago were in her office), but not the shelter director.

Anyway, I bit the bullet tonight for purely selfish reasons. I bit my tongue and wrote the calmest e-mail I could muster, apologizing for "my part" in any "confusion", but stating that I had asked for and been granted permission for everything I did there. That I'd be more than willing to sign their volunteer application and liability release forms, but could not commit to anything more than what I was already doing - and could not commit to any regular schedule. I asked if this would be possible and, if not, then I will just go to the shelter at such time that I may be ready and able to seriously consider adoption. There is another shelter in town, but it's in a not very good area, and it's only open a handful of hours a week, so that's why I bit the bullet even though I do feel hurt and angry. It was more the tone of that e-mail than the content itself. And maybe the fact he didn't take any ownership for their granting me permission to do these things. Since he has seen me around, he had ample opportunity to either tell me himself, or have another staff member tell me. In truth, I see it as more their problem than mine, but for now I'll just see what happens. Regardless, it has dampened my excitement, and that I feel is just one more loss in a long, long list. I'm tired of losses. But everyone here knows that feeling.

Thanks again, everyone,

PaLady

Post Edited (PAlady) : 9/13/2009 2:24:53 AM (GMT-6)


Chartreux
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   Posted 9/13/2009 11:25 AM (GMT -7)   
Bionic, I saw that cat house,,,WOW to says the least...
my house isn't big enough for that...but my lil kitties still have fun...

PALady..more soft hugz coming your ways..
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   Posted 9/13/2009 11:53 AM (GMT -7)   
PaLady I am very glad you emailed them simply because you are needed by the little 4 legged's greatly. The hell with the two legged ones, sometimes they don't even get it lol. Perhaps you will get an invite back to do as you were before and if so, I do hope you will return because you are needed there but not by the earthlings so to speak. Many times the ones you petted that day was the only attention they may have gotten.

I saw a show on I think animal planet that showed the cat house, omg, the cats were having a blast living there.
Straydog/Susie
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crohns disease dx 2002 & small bowel resection, still looking for remission whatever that is, chronic pain 22 yrs, added ulcerative colitis 6-05 to the mix, high blood pressure 28 yrs, aortic heart valve insuffiency, depression, osteoarthritis, osteoporosis lumbar spine, scoliosis lumbar spine, peripheral neuropathy hands & feet, COPD & on oxygen therapy, lupus & decreased circulation in both legs. Several other health issues just not enough room to list it all. Too many surgeries to list and too many medications to list. Currently on 16 different daily medications. Intrathecal pain pump implanted June 05.

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