Post Edited (fatherjohn) : 11/6/2009 11:34:06 PM (GMT-7)
Post Edited (White Beard) : 11/7/2009 12:34:08 AM (GMT-7)
You've done it again...you have a way with words that really makes us think!
Tina, its easy for us to be empathetic, caring, loving to others because thats our nature. We are nurturers, caregivers and the people that others have come to depend on for words of wisdom, encouragement and LOVE. In life that is the role we chose......so now along comes an illness, injury, accident or emotional trauma that causes us to be in need of the very things we have given to everyone in our path. We don't fit that role very well, although, we profess to need it. We beat ourselves up for not being able to conquer this thing this CP that has come to take away our control. We start to question ourselves...why can't I beat this? Whats wrong with me? Why did this happen to me? Our family and friends feel the same, they don't know how to handle US always the strong one, suddenly on our knees in a situation where we are in need! These people we love with everything we have are suddenly in our roles (as caregiver), they aren't us so they don't know how to offer what we truly need! They aren't like us they care but they don't know how to nurture, care or be empathetic with the intensity that we do. We are our own worst enemies.....in my opinion we don't view ourselves as brave and courageous because we just do what we do because we are who we are!!!!!!!
Look at how we support each other here, we always have a word and a hug and lots of genuine love for each other....NO ONE unless they live in CP can truly grasp what we live each day and so we have each other to remind us how brave and courageous we are!! AND WE CERTAINLY ARE!
Have you noticed that on the days you think you just can't make it through the day, you meet someone or hear of someone whose situation is much worse then yours? It amazes me, it happens to me alot and it humbles me and I am grateful for who I am even in this situation.
Hope this makes sense, I think I lost the point I was trying to make but I'm going with it looking forward to more words of wisdom from my HW family!!
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,And sorry I could not travel bothAnd be one traveler, long I stood
I was knocked off my feet, after the fusion surgery I expected to be back to work and fixed in 6 weeks! I had no idea what was to come! I fought it, tried to be strong, put on a happy face and BAM I couldn't pretend anymore! So I'm thinking that most if not all of us have had that moment.
I am sending lots of LOVE and BIG GIANT HUGS to all of my HW Family!
((((((((((((((Fatherjohn, PALADY, Whitebeard, Straydog, Dani, Tina, Skeye, Gretchen, ALL))))))))))))))))
Fatherjohn, did you follow through on your day yesterday with no interruption from the workplace?
Just one more comment, regarding that we are the strong ones.....like PALady says everyone assumes we will make it through! I can only speak for me but it is an inner battle for me as well, sometimes I just want to cry to someone with no judgements or advice, I want to feel the understanding, concern and love. Most of my family is uncomfortable in this role because its me that is always there for them when they need exactly that! Its a gift, sad to say that we are the ones that are dealt the toughest deck of cards throughout our lives! You know the saying "we are never given more than we can handle". Hard to believe isn't it??