FatherJohn where are you??????

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straydog
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   Posted 12/26/2009 11:07 AM (GMT -7)   
FJ what is going on in your world lately. I know you are busy and what not with work and family. But, you have sure been MIA from the forum in the last few months. Please let us know how you and the family are doing.
 
I miss your late night posts as thats usually when I am online here. Take care and update us please.
 

crohns disease dx 2002 & small bowel resection, still looking for remission whatever that is, chronic pain 22 yrs, added ulcerative colitis 6-05 to the mix, high blood pressure 28 yrs, aortic heart valve insuffiency, depression, osteoarthritis, osteoporosis lumbar spine, scoliosis lumbar spine, peripheral neuropathy hands & feet, COPD & on oxygen therapy, lupus & psoriasis and psoratic arthritis. Several other health issues just not enough room to list it all. Too many surgeries to list and too many medications to list. Currently on 17 different daily medications. Intrathecal pain pump implanted June 05.


skeye
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   Posted 12/26/2009 12:53 PM (GMT -7)   
We miss you fatherjohn! I hope you & your family had a wonderful Christmas!

hugs,
Skeye

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   Posted 12/26/2009 1:27 PM (GMT -7)   
FatherJohn,
Merry Christmas and hope you can take it easy soon, many hugz....
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fatherjohn
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   Posted 12/27/2009 12:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Greetings all. I am still around. As some know, the job has been stressful for some time and I was beginning to look elsewhere. Long story, I have put the job search on hold for family reasons but the stress of the job has increased. I end up fighting depression but can't allow it to show. It has been taking a toll on me. My wife finally had two days off and she asked me to leave town with her for a break. We are on the coast in Oregon for a short rest. I have another meeting set up with corporate the fist week of January which hopefully will end the pressure one way or the other. Of course the pain increases with the stress and each day is a new start hoping for relief. Blessings to all and I will drop in later.

edt
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   Posted 12/27/2009 1:08 PM (GMT -7)   

Fatherjohn,

You are in my prayers.....hopefully the ball and chain created by people in your workplace will soon be released!  Make 2010 the year you put yourself first!!

XXOO
Patti


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   Posted 12/27/2009 1:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Fatherjohn! Good of you to check in with us! We always have a concern for members that have not checked in for a while. Trust me, you have a rather larger following here, and your absence is noted. I hope things go well for you, and for that fact all of us here this next year. I think 2009 has been a rough one for many of the members, and one I would not like to see repeated any time soon. Take care my friend!

Michael

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   Posted 12/27/2009 1:57 PM (GMT -7)   
FJ glad to hear from you but sad to hear you have put the job hunt on hold. Hopefully soon that can be at the top of the priority list again, something that is badly needed by you. Wow. I really don't know what to say except I hope you are successful in starting a new career in the very near future. Many of us here feel that until you make this change your health will continue to decline and quite frankly our health is much more important than any job. It took me numerous yrs to figure that one out, lol. Best move I ever made was leaving a job of 18 yrs. Should have done it 18 yrs earlier, lol.

Please take care and keep in touch.
 

crohns disease dx 2002 & small bowel resection, still looking for remission whatever that is, chronic pain 22 yrs, added ulcerative colitis 6-05 to the mix, high blood pressure 28 yrs, aortic heart valve insuffiency, depression, osteoarthritis, osteoporosis lumbar spine, scoliosis lumbar spine, peripheral neuropathy hands & feet, COPD & on oxygen therapy, lupus & psoriasis and psoratic arthritis. Several other health issues just not enough room to list it all. Too many surgeries to list and too many medications to list. Currently on 17 different daily medications. Intrathecal pain pump implanted June 05.


fatherjohn
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   Posted 12/27/2009 5:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Susie, Thanks for starting this thread. I did feel isolated and that goes with the depression. I did have a job opportunity but did not feel it was the right decision. Then, after talking things over with the family, my wife wanted to wait to look any further. Our son became engaged at the end of November, he picked my birthday, what was he thinking. My wife did not want to be seperated from him and his bride to be so we wait. As far as work, I believe they are trying to put the pressure on for me to quit so they don't have to pay unemployment. Since there is less than two weeks to the big meeting, I am going to try and take as much time off and wait to see what they do.
 
Christmas was low key but it was good to have our kids together. Our son called from Iraq and we played pass the phone around. I will try a little better to keep connected. Thanks Michael, Patti, Char and Skeye for the encouragement.

skeye
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   Posted 12/27/2009 6:22 PM (GMT -7)   
Prayers & Blessings! Have a nice relaxing mini-vacation! The coast is gorgeous smilewinkgrin!

Skeye

straydog
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   Posted 12/27/2009 9:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Some days my brain works some days it don't, lol. I always try to keep a mental note of missing peeps here at the forum and then I forget till it resurfaces again. I use to have one of the very best memories around. At work we relied alot on what I could remember on cases and clients. Compared to then and now I am brain dead. Sometimes I do get a little aggravated because I can't remember things well. My daughter hits me with, mom, thats old news don't you remember me telling you that.

Yes, I do remember your son getting engaged in November. Is this the son in Iraq? Seems his girl had a miscarriage if I remember correctly. Hope all is well there.

Yes, depression does seem to make us want to crawl in a hole doesn't it. Well, when the idiots have their meeting In Jan whatever you do-don't quit as they would like for you to do. I am sure you are right they really don't want to see you on unemployment-but do the idiots not know that is why they pay for it. People never fail to amaze me at times. I am thinking it will get really nasty and I hope you are up for the battle, if nothing else sort of mentally prepare yourself for it. But, I just believe with all my heart there is work out there for you that will be every bit as meaningful as what you are doing now, only difference is you will work like a normal person would, not some super charged die hard. Lordy, how you have managed to pull it off thus far is just beyond me. But, all those years of work like you have will catch up with you eventually and none of them wil be around to help pick up the pieces. Just not worth it. Your family and you are worth much more than any job could possibly ever be, let them be first for a change. It will be a hard habit to change no doubt, but well worth it. You have a let the job become a personal thing, don't do that please on your new job. Stop & smell the coffee or flowers, which ever you like the best, lol. Glad you are resting. Keep us posted please.
 

crohns disease dx 2002 & small bowel resection, still looking for remission whatever that is, chronic pain 22 yrs, added ulcerative colitis 6-05 to the mix, high blood pressure 28 yrs, aortic heart valve insuffiency, depression, osteoarthritis, osteoporosis lumbar spine, scoliosis lumbar spine, peripheral neuropathy hands & feet, COPD & on oxygen therapy, lupus & psoriasis and psoratic arthritis. Several other health issues just not enough room to list it all. Too many surgeries to list and too many medications to list. Currently on 17 different daily medications. Intrathecal pain pump implanted June 05.


PAlady
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   Posted 12/30/2009 12:25 AM (GMT -7)   
Fatherjohn,
I've not been posting a lot lately myself - due to computer problems. So I'll try to get in another post before this machine crashes!

I can't give you more advice than what others, esp. Susie, already have. I have a feeling if they do let you go they'll fight unemployment, or try to claim it's for "cause" and esp. use your medical issues against you. So like Susie said, fortify yourself. But I'm concerned that you say it's getting MORE stressful - I didn't think that was possible at that job!

I don't know what to say excet to send you hugs and support! And if you don't see me post it's purely for technical reasons!

Hugs,

PaLady

fatherjohn
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   Posted 12/30/2009 1:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks PAlady for the post. There is not much that can be done at this point. I am just waiting but in the mean time, I am on a working vacation. That means that I am on vacation but since there is no one else to take the urgent and emergency calls I still handle them. Since I fired my wife (just jpoking) I have had to go in and handle finances especially as we reach the end of the year. All deposits have to be made in accord with tax exempt laws and tax laws. Did I mention that we have increased our student population by over 30 percent. That means more students to get settled.
 
My wife looked at me as we drove back from the coast today and she said for the first time since she could remember, I looked rested. I am going to still try and take as much of the rest of this week off as possible. If I am still working after next week it will be with new terms. I will reduce my hours and someone else will have to be on call during my days off. For the first time in 6 years I will not be teaching a single class. I am planning on going into the meeting with a few items of my own that will need to be discussed.
 
Take care and we will keep updating. Thanks

fatherjohn
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   Posted 12/30/2009 3:22 AM (GMT -7)   
Susie, my son who was going to get married, whose GF had a miscarriage, ended up breaking up. The long rane relationship took a heavy toll and they did not have enough to fall back on. Number 2 son is the one engaged. They are planning a long engagement at the request of her parents. She is in college and want her to finish. Number one son has about 4 months left in Iraq and then will return home. He has made a decision at this point that he is coming home for 3 months and the volunteering to head to Afganistan. Makes his mom a little nervous but they have to make their own decisions.

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   Posted 12/30/2009 5:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey FJ,
I'm soooo glad to here you are finally rested up some what, Please take care of yourself and don't let them bully you (I'm sure you wont!) in the upcoming meeting. I hope everything works out to your favor like you want, you deserve it old boy!!!
Much love & man Hugs!!!
Your Old Buddy,
Pete
PS> did you get the Christmas video's I sent you?
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