I'm sorry to hear about your brother. He's still so young and it does hurt to lose a family member, especially a sibling. I'll say extra prayers for you, your brother and your family. My dad had in home hospice and it was so much nicer than him being in an institution. None of us were very skilled at what to do but the Hospice nurses and other people who work with the family were so wonderful. The one thing I will always remember with my dad...he was 82...is that he seemed to keep on struggling and dragging on longer than any of us expected. In the man time the prostate cancer that was destroying his body was causing more and more pain. We were at the point of praying he would go quickly since the pain was so bad.
One day when the hospice nurse was there she said we each needed to give dad permission to let go and reassure him that we would take care of mom...since that was what he worried about. So over that day each of us, at some point,told him that. He did seem to relax and it was about another 48 hours and he was gone...very peacefully. Hospice people are amazing!
"Knowledge is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, but Wisdom is knowing not to put it in a fruit salad."
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