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hydrangea
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   Posted 2/1/2010 11:01 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you to everyone who posted a response about upcoming surgery on February 16th. I did tell my employer about my surgery this morning and he was more than understanding. While we do not have to follow the laws of FMLA he told me not to worry about anything. He already knew about my back issues because he has seen me trying to walk if I was having a flare up of any pain. He said he kinda figured it was only a matter of time. He said I have all the support that I need. He knows that it might take longer for me to heal and not to worry. He also said that it was up to me if I decided to take the time off as vacation, or unpaid leave. If I take it as vacation he said i could also just take vacation unpaid later in the year.
All that worry for nothing. Now if I could just stop worrying about the surgery and recovery itself. I will get through it all. Can not wait till I am home recovering in my own bed.

Thanks to all
Diagnosed crohns Disease 07,
Bladder Inflammation
Three Herniated disc; stenosis, facet arthritis,degenerative disc , severe siatica
3 laparoscopies, hysterectomy
p.t. and trigger point injections for severe pelvic pain.
Spinal epidurals for herniated discs and siatica
meds: lyrica, vicodine, amrix
 


MsBunky
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   Posted 2/1/2010 11:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Such a relief to have that talk over, isn't it! I'm so happy your boss was understanding...it sure takes a lot of the stress off your plate. I hope this upcoming surgery is a complete success for you...and that you have a quick and complete recovery!

Pam
Conditions: Fibromyalgia, Chronic Pelvic Pain, FAI, Reynauds, IBS, Surgical Adhesions
Surgeries: Appendix, Uterus, Nissen Fundoplication for GERD, Left Ovary, Gallbladder, Right Ovary, TVT
Medications: Oxycontin, Tramacet, Cymbalta, Nortriptyline
Other: Vitamin D, Multi-Vitamin


Jim1969
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   Posted 2/1/2010 11:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Good to see not all employers and supervisors are butt heads.
2 confirmed herniated lumbar discs. Spinal Arthritis. Spinal Stenosis, diabetic peripheral nueropathy.


PAlady
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   Posted 2/1/2010 1:40 PM (GMT -7)   
Hyndrangea,
That is great news. I know this may sound like overkill, but if I were in your place I would write your boss (is this the owner of the company or just a supervisor?) a nice letter thanking him for his understanding and as part of that include what transpired in the conversation - just so you have something on paper. It may not mean anything legally, but you never know. I guess I'm a little gun shy because of what happened to me (being laid off while out on leave that I thought was approved). At least should something happen this may help if someone decides to fight unemployment.

It can be a very nice letter, a sort of detailed thank you note that just serves as a clarification of the conversation. Then you can send it to him and keep a copy. Even if this is the owner of the company, people can change their minds when it comes to the bottom line, and if it's a small company and you have to be out for an extended time, their view of things may change out of necessity.

At any rate, it's great that you're off to a good start in this area. Can you return to work part time doing some kind of light duty at first if need be?

Good luck with everything!

PaLady

straydog
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   Posted 2/1/2010 7:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Hydrangea, that is terrific news. With it being a small company many times that makes a big difference on how they will react when an employee needs time off for medical reasons. If I remember correctly you have been there for a while and considered a good employee. The fact that your boss acknowledged seeing you having hard days at work yet you were still there pluggin away says something.

I know what PaLady is saying about the thank you note, but from a legal stand point it probably would not hold much water if something were to happen, which from the way your boss talked I doubt anything will. Employers are smart, they know how to terminate people w/o having legal ramifications. One of the best used and quite legal reasons is the job could not be left open without a person filling the position and that employer is home free. If I were to send a thank-you note I would be very careful about my wording, the last thing you want to do is raise a flag that you may be trying to set him/her up for something. The best thing you can do is folllow any rules on reporting in while off. If you have an employee handbook now is the time to be reading it. Ask, if there is any certain things you need to do while off such as repoting in and who do you need to talk to when you report in. If reporting in is a required, I do suggest that you keep notes of the date & time and who you talked to and what was said.

The main thing for you do is to try and calm yourself as much as possible before surgery. Take care.
 

crohns disease dx 2002 & small bowel resection, still looking for remission whatever that is, chronic pain 22 yrs, added ulcerative colitis 6-05 to the mix, high blood pressure 28 yrs, aortic heart valve insuffiency, depression, osteoarthritis, osteoporosis lumbar spine, scoliosis lumbar spine, peripheral neuropathy hands & feet, COPD & on oxygen therapy, lupus & psoriasis and psoratic arthritis. Several other health issues just not enough room to list it all. Too many surgeries to list and too many medications to list. Currently on 17 different daily medications. Intrathecal pain pump implanted June 05.


hydrangea
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   Posted 2/2/2010 6:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you everyone......I did talk to the owner of the company, who is actually who I report to. Good news is, he had my position a few years ago before he became an owner. He will be handling most of my duties while I am out. I do think an acknowledgement of our conversation is a good idea. I do not think anything formal is necessary like straydog said,and it might just make him angry. I think I will send him an informal e mail, thanking him for his understanding about my situation, and that I appreciate it. I will just briefly note what we had talked about. That way he will have it,(he can put in my file if he thinks it is necessary), and I will also have a copy of it in my files. This forum is great, and I thank everyone for their opinions on my situation, it sure helps to talk to people that have gone through the same things. I can talk till I am bluee in the face to my husband, and it is just not the same thing. He just always says "everything will work out just fine" But i guess he has never had to deal with any of this. The man is as healthy as a horse, and has never missed a day of work because he was sick, only to take care of me. LOL

My focus now is getting this over with and moving on to recovery, my goal is to recover from surgery and then get back to the physical shape that I used to be in. I know it will take time but I will get there. I really want to start being active again, and start enjoying time with my family, not just as a spectator like I have been for the last several years.
Thanks again, this forum has given me great info, allot that I would not have thought about on my own.

I hope everyone has a great pain free day.
Diagnosed crohns Disease 07,
Bladder Inflammation
Three Herniated disc; stenosis, facet arthritis,degenerative disc , severe siatica
3 laparoscopies, hysterectomy
p.t. and trigger point injections for severe pelvic pain.
Spinal epidurals for herniated discs and siatica
meds: lyrica, vicodine, amrix
 


Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 2/2/2010 11:15 AM (GMT -7)   
 
 
   Dear Hydra,
 
     What a relief! I am so very glad to hear the good news. One less thing to worry about thank goodness!
 
*hugg*
  dani

 

 

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And sorry I could not travel both
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straydog
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   Posted 2/2/2010 11:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Hydrangea I think you have an excellent idea on the email. Many times people do forget a "simple thank you" can go a very long way. With the work situation out of the way now you can work on other important matters, getting yourself ready for the big day.

There is a lot to be done before surgery in getting prepared. Have magazines and books handy to read while you are taking care of you at home. Have food that can be popped in the microwave, easy to heat & eat. Have snack items on hand.

Above all remember walking is going to be the very best form of exercise in getting your strength and stamina back. Go slow and pace yourself.
 

crohns disease dx 2002 & small bowel resection, still looking for remission whatever that is, chronic pain 22 yrs, added ulcerative colitis 6-05 to the mix, high blood pressure 28 yrs, aortic heart valve insuffiency, depression, osteoarthritis, osteoporosis lumbar spine, scoliosis lumbar spine, peripheral neuropathy hands & feet, COPD & on oxygen therapy, lupus & psoriasis and psoratic arthritis. Several other health issues just not enough room to list it all. Too many surgeries to list and too many medications to list. Currently on 17 different daily medications. Intrathecal pain pump implanted June 05.


PAlady
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   Posted 2/2/2010 1:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Hydrangea,
I agree the e-mail sounds great, and just a nice acknowledgment. It's great he's the owner; you don't have any other layers to deal with. Like Straydog says now it's time to focus on the surgery.

I also found some items to be a godsend to me, as I was home recuperating alone. A raised toilet seat I used for probably a year, but it's a must for the first few weeks and months. I still have a cane propped up by my bed, even though I don't use it except on a really horrible day for help getting out of bed, but right after the surgery it kept me from falling heaven knows how many times. And I still use the shower chair I got. I say this to you now because I was told it was better to have these things ordered from the hospital so you could take them home, and that would make it more likely the insurance would cover it. Well, my insurance covered some others, and laughably called my raised toilet seat a "comfort item" and not medically necessary. Believe me that was a HUGE help. I had one with small handles on each side to make it easier to stand. And I know lots of us have those "grabbers" that help you reach and get things. They can come in handy for many years for lots of things!

I also had community nurses come and they were a godsend. Especially to help with the constipation issue, and they were the ones who picked up on some swelling in my one ankle, so I went in for tests to have that all checked out.

We'll be here to help with whatever we can. Many of us have been through this stuff!

Hugs,

PaLady

Chartreux
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   Posted 2/2/2010 3:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Good Luck on your up and coming surgery, posts when you can and will be hopeing things go well.
lots of soft hugz
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hydrangea
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   Posted 2/3/2010 7:35 AM (GMT -7)   
THANKS EVERYONE.......Goal for the next week and a half is to stay calm. Getting things ready at home. Got a new bed, and great sheets. Want everything to be just right when I get home. Sounds crazy I know, but if things are looking good and everything is in place I will be so much more comfortable. I will even buy myself flowers and put them around house so I feel better. haha crazy hu? Lots to do at work as well, so that things run smoothly while I am gone, don't want to come back to too many problems.
Can't wait till this is over!!
Thanks everyone!!
Diagnosed crohns Disease 07,
Bladder Inflammation
Three Herniated disc; stenosis, facet arthritis,degenerative disc , severe siatica
3 laparoscopies, hysterectomy
p.t. and trigger point injections for severe pelvic pain.
Spinal epidurals for herniated discs and siatica
meds: lyrica, vicodine, amrix
 


Snowbunny21
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   Posted 2/3/2010 8:10 AM (GMT -7)   
I will be praying for a successful surgery for you. I totally understand about wanting a comfortable, pretty, and relaxing atmosphere to recover afterwards.
My favorite candle is the Glade duo of vanilla and apple/cinnamon..YUM!!! It smells like an apple pie and cinnamon rolls together:)
I haven't had the lumbar surgery but 3 cervical ones and having comfy button down shirts/pjs so didn't have to raise my arms changing tops really helped too.
I have access online to my library to 'listen' to my favorite books on my computer for free which is great at night so that I can be in a comfortable position and just lay there with my eyes closed being told a great story...As well as having some great movies ready to watch to help keep your mind off the pain...
SB and "the pup who snores loudly"
 
ACDF C5-C7, (no hardware), with autograft bone Nov. 2001
(reabsorption of bone 2 years later...still lost in body..expect to burp it out at anytime..haha"))
 
ACDF with hardware, allograft bone Nov. 2005
 
Anterior and Posterior CDF, allograft bone with BMP, removal of old hardware, use of titanium plates, rods, screws, & kitchen sink (lol) Dec 2006
 
PM since 2006


PAlady
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   Posted 2/3/2010 2:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Hydrangea,
Not crazy at all! Being relaxed and feeling soothed by things that comfort you is a really important part of healing.

Snowbunny's post reminded me of um, well, this is maybe TMI but I went to the dollar store and bought underwear that was cut lower - around the hips - so it didn't affect my scar. Made sure I had pants that could be slung a bit low, either because they have looser elastic wastes or also got some hip hugger jeans. I know, I know, if I was younger I'd have had these things anyway! LOL

PaLady

Snowbunny21
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   Posted 2/3/2010 3:19 PM (GMT -7)   
And this one is for the ladies...but for me...as soon as I woke up from my surgeries...I asked to grab my lipstick...The rest of me, of course looked awful, but somehow having lipstick on makes me feel better!! LOL...Even when I go camping..and have on hiking boots..I wear lipstick:)..

That and getting my toes painted...tee hee...so I have scars all over my body..but hey...at least lips/toes look pretty:)
SB and "the pup who snores loudly"
 
ACDF C5-C7, (no hardware), with autograft bone Nov. 2001
(reabsorption of bone 2 years later...still lost in body..expect to burp it out at anytime..haha"))
 
ACDF with hardware, allograft bone Nov. 2005
 
Anterior and Posterior CDF, allograft bone with BMP, removal of old hardware, use of titanium plates, rods, screws, & kitchen sink (lol) Dec 2006
 
PM since 2006


golitho
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   Posted 2/3/2010 4:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Hydranger, so pleased to hear your boss was so supportive. It makes such a difference to your stress levels when you know that your workplace is behind you 100%. The thankyou email sounds perfect, lets your boss know he is appreciated and sets in writing your conversation.
I wish you all the best for the surgery now. Get pre cooking some meals and freeze them all up ready to go. Try and organise yourself ahead of time. Lots of easy cook meals etc. Stock up on things.

Best of luck, remember to relax, golitho
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