85 yr old father

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bsjaguar
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   Posted 3/5/2010 5:01 AM (GMT -7)   
My 85 yr old father fell 2 wks ago and is still very sore and has a very bad bruised knee.  He is on 2 blood thinners and I was worried that he may have still been bleeding so I made a doctors appt for him.  The knee is ok but I did talk to his doctor about dad's pain issues from arthritis.
 
My father was placed on SSDI at age 57 with the same back issues as my sister & I, so were all pretty much in the same boat.  You can see the pain in his face everytime he gets up from a chair or when he is putting on his shoes & socks.  Just breaks your heart!
 
Anyway, the doctor couldn't place dad on any nsaids with the drugs he is taking but did suggest giving him a general steroid injection to help with the aching and stiffness he experiences.  Dad had the injection done and hopefully he will be feeling better, I'll check on him today.
 
When I told my sister this she stated that dad didn't need anything that it is just arthritis.  She knows what it is like to have constant daily pain, just like dad and I do.  He is 85 & still active but I unlike her can't see making him just live with it.  I know what I feel like now and hate to think what the pain will be like in 30 yrs.  Surgery is out of the question for dad due to his heart and his bones have become rather brittle.  He's already had 2 back surgeries and a hip replacement.
 
I just needed to rant some after her comment.  I know my sister loves our father but just because she won't take pain meds and chooses to just bear the pain doesn't mean our father has to.
---Jag---
 
DDD, osteoarthritis, facet syndrome, fusion surgeries C-5/7 & L-4/5 both in 2006, torn meniscus surgeries left knee 2000 & 2002, buldging disc L-2/3


Jim1969
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   Posted 3/5/2010 5:43 AM (GMT -7)   
My Mom was of the "grin and bear it" club when it came to pain and illness. She never took anything stronger than Advil for anything, almost never missed work and could not understand people who did or who took strong pain meds all the time.

Eventually she did come to understand it, but only a few weeks before she passed due to cancer.
2 confirmed herniated lumbar discs. Spinal Arthritis. Spinal Stenosis, diabetic peripheral nueropathy.


edt
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   Posted 3/5/2010 5:46 AM (GMT -7)   

Geez Jag, I feel your frustration over your sister's comment. 

Pain at any age needs treatment.  You might want to let your sister know that not only does it interfere with life, pain untreated does damage the other systems.  Starts with the Adrenals which then affects the entire hormone system.  When the neck ruptures occured the shock fried the adrenal function which then caused early menopause.  I gained 35 lbs. in 30 days (not eating).  I thought I was being brave denying I needed pain meds.  Went to the best of the best (worked for one too) M.D.'s, Homeopaths, Naturopaths, Chiro's etc. they all said the same thing CP wears out the body.  10 yrs. later, still trying to get the DHEA level to come to normal.

So there are Health reasons why its best to treat the CP no matter the cause! 

XXOO
Patti


bsjaguar
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   Posted 3/5/2010 7:16 AM (GMT -7)   
I talked to dad this morning and he said he feels a little better but we both agreed that mornings is not a good time to judge since he hasn't been up very long. I told him it may take a few days to kick in.

Jim, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I lost my mother to Alzheimers and it just broke my heart.

Patti, dad lives alone but I did get him Lifeline. He is also becoming less stable on his legs thus the fall and I thought that maybe if we could get him limbered up some it would help. Going to restaurants where the chairs don't have arms on them to assist him in getting up is a challenge for him. He does have a contraption to assist him getting his socks on but we had to get him velcro shoes because he couldn't bend over well enough to tie his shoes anymore. I do hope this injection helps him.
---Jag---
 
DDD, osteoarthritis, facet syndrome, fusion surgeries C-5/7 & L-4/5 both in 2006, torn meniscus surgeries left knee 2000 & 2002, buldging disc L-2/3


PAlady
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   Posted 3/5/2010 2:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Jag,
I think people have even worse attitudes about pain management for the elderly (well, maybe not always but it was something I experienced with my mother when she was dying). I found with my Mom there was this underlying attitude about "suffering" being a "good" thing - which my mother contributed to herself via some distorted religious beliefs (won't go into those - against forum rules which is fine with me!). Anyway, I'm glad you're helping your Dad out with the pain.

When my mom was in the nursing home, I had to get a family friend who was also a doctor to go in and help co-manage her case with the in-house doctor. He gave her a lot of "prn" options, and you wouldn't believe the attitudes of many of the nurses about that. I kept hearing comments like "gee, your Mom sure has a lot of prn meds on her chart." My view was when is it a better time to use whatever medications that may help someone? Why not help your Dad to get the best quality of life he can? You're doing the right thing IMHO!

PaLady

Stella Marie
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   Posted 3/5/2010 7:03 PM (GMT -7)   
How scarry is that when someone else is making or trying to make serious quality of life changing decisions for someone else. It sounds like you father is capable of making his own decisions regarding how much pain management he needs to have the best quality of life. It is so sad that your Dad is allowing you sister to make these decisions for him. I can see where this must just break your heart.

Stella Marie 

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Progressive neurodegenerative disease called Multiple System Atroph;  muscle spasms, muscle pain, neuropathy  & neuropathic pain, central sleep apnea, osteoarthritis, and 2 pain implants – an  intrathecal pain medication pump and an SCS (spinal cord stimulator).  Extra fun little toys and gadgets; O2 generator and assorted wheelchairs, walkers, canes, and orthotic braces.  Meds - too many too list or even care about!

 

 



bsjaguar
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   Posted 3/6/2010 5:17 AM (GMT -7)   
My husband stopped at my dad's yesterday when he got off of work and dad said his hip & overall body aches are feeling better. Thanks for all of your replies. My sister just happens to live in the town that dad's docs are in so she normally goes to the appts. with him.
---Jag---
 
DDD, osteoarthritis, facet syndrome, fusion surgeries C-5/7 & L-4/5 both in 2006, torn meniscus surgeries left knee 2000 & 2002, buldging disc L-2/3

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