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snobrdgrl321
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   Posted 3/9/2010 7:53 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so D.O.N.E!
 
First off, my work is "out to get me"
I am not being paranoid...my boss is trying to build a case against me so she can fire me without involving my FMLA. I am so upset & stressed!! All the sudden my work is now disapearing!! So I have started keeping copies, but there is nothing I can do about the stuff b4.
 
And now, I am back to not sleeping again,,ugh, last night was 2 hours. I only have 3 pain pills left untill my refill and will end up being short. (I know, I know, my fault) but this is SO bad. I just wanna give up.
 
Thanks for listening again!
Donna
 
Donna
Tethered Spinal Cord~1.5x1.2 cm spinal cord cyst at L5/S1  (Lumbar Laminectemy completed 9/10/09)~Scolosis~Migrains~Leg Deformity~Foot Deformity~Knee, Hip, Back, Neck Pain~Severe Depression~Insomenia~DDD~Artheritis (Spine)~Spinal Bone Spurs~NEW: Herniated Disc T5/T6 
"I'm not going to vacuum 'till Sears makes one
you can ride on"
~Roseane Barr~
 


Retired Mom
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   Posted 3/9/2010 8:10 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry you are going through this. I understand!!!!

Please keep records and notes about the things that go on. I had the same problem with my last job and it was no joke. They got my closest friend first, then me. Thankfully we were both on the level. She received her retirement a month before I did, but they were for very different reasons.

My boss even tried to claim that I intentionally attempted to sabatoge a comprehensive audit (after I was out for emergency surgery on my back)!!?!!?!??!?! How would you even do that????? Not true!!!! It still upset me really badly, though.

I do not think you are paranoid, just observant. Is there a possiblity of transfer, career change, or retirement?
DDD, CPS, TLIF L5-S1 2009 (failed), FIBRO, MINEYER'S (SP?), MIGRAINES, GERD, NISSEN FUNDOPLICATION (failed), GAD, DEPRESSION, EXTREME ANXIETY DISORDER, OCD, PSTD, CHRONIC MUSCLE SPASMS, HUMAN GROWTH HORMONE DEFICIENCY, VITAMIN D DEFICIENCY and much, much more...


snobrdgrl321
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   Posted 3/9/2010 8:35 AM (GMT -7)   
My hubby keeps telling me I cant leave the job because of the pay and insurance. (He got laid off last October)
And I am too young to retire. I could possibly switch jobs, but I would take a $5 hour pay decrease and he wont let me do that either.
Donna
Tethered Spinal Cord~1.5x1.2 cm spinal cord cyst at L5/S1  (Lumbar Laminectemy completed 9/10/09)~Scolosis~Migrains~Leg Deformity~Foot Deformity~Knee, Hip, Back, Neck Pain~Severe Depression~Insomenia~DDD~Artheritis (Spine)~Spinal Bone Spurs~NEW: Herniated Disc T5/T6 
"I'm not going to vacuum 'till Sears makes one
you can ride on"
~Roseane Barr~
 


Chartreux
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   Posted 3/9/2010 8:49 AM (GMT -7)   
Wish I knew how to help you, I think it's aweful what they are putting you thruogh..
Maybe think about getting an attorney..or at least consult one as to what you could do.
Please know we care...
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hugz
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IsThereAnEnd?
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   Posted 3/9/2010 10:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh Donna....I am SO sorry for what you are going through.......your story rings home for me.....please do keep an eye open......and truly do everything you can do (the 'ole cya) to keep things close to normal - go about your day pleasantly (a smile makes everyone wonder what you are up to!) and most importantly, take care of YOU. I feel so bad for you....I know how work problems are a nightmare ~ if you need to talk ANYTIME, my email addy is: mesquiteccfarm at gmail dot com (trying to keep bots from grabbing it!) ;) Hope things look up for you Hun ~ hang in there! :-) I am sending prayers and love your way.
((((((((Donna)))))))))))

Huuugggggssss!
Cardiomyopathy, Celiac Disease, High Blood Pressure, 2 Failed Fusions @ L4, L5, S1, 2 Failed Fusions @ C7 & C8, Implantible bone growth stimulator cervically, and soon to have Neurostimulation Therapy to treat lumbar area, Chronic Pain Sufferer for 8 years, take several meds daily to survive! Praying for a miracle and fighting through the pain daily ~


Stella Marie
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   Posted 3/9/2010 12:11 PM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry to here about your situation.  I know you are not crazy.  Just before I decided to leave work and apply for perm. disability, I had the same problem with my boss.  Document, document, copy everything.  about your pain, maybe it is time to have a candid talk with your Pain Management specialist about pain control.  I sounds like you main medication is not holding you.  Do you have any Rx for break thru situations?  If not, maybe you need one.
 
I you have to keep on working, you want to try and be in the least stressful position.  If you could financially survive on the $5 less job, would you be happier?  How is you husband's job search going.  Once he is back employed, will that take some stress off you.  Once he is back in the market, can you since to the other job.  You can not stay in a pressure cooker forever.  Being emloyed at the lower paying job with insurance might be better than no job a all.
 
Please keep us posted.

Stella Marie 

Chronic Pain Forum Moderator

Progressive neurodegenerative disease called Multiple System Atroph;  muscle spasms, muscle pain, neuropathy  & neuropathic pain, central sleep apnea, osteoarthritis, and 2 pain implants – an  intrathecal pain medication pump and an SCS (spinal cord stimulator).  Extra fun little toys and gadgets; O2 generator and assorted wheelchairs, walkers, canes, and orthotic braces.  Meds - too many too list or even care about!

 

 



Retired Mom
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   Posted 3/9/2010 1:48 PM (GMT -7)   
$5.00 less per hour is significant, especially in today's economy. It is peanuts, however, if there is another family member working.

I don't know your home situation and why your husband is not currently employed. It is extremely sad that you have to work for insurance, but many of us do. Thankfully my husband understood and has supported me 100% since my surgery.

Please do not give out identifiers, but perhaps we can help if you give us more details. Many of us are former/present law enforcement, attorneys, or have just been through similar situations. It really does help to vent sometimes.

If your company or agency has a computer program that dates and times logged information, that may be a valid way of notetaking. Some have "self notes" on performance plans.

Just an idea.....and a willing ear!
DDD, CPS, TLIF L5-S1 2009 (failed), FIBRO, MINEYER'S (SP?), MIGRAINES, GERD, NISSEN FUNDOPLICATION (failed), GAD, DEPRESSION, EXTREME ANXIETY DISORDER, OCD, PSTD, CHRONIC MUSCLE SPASMS, HUMAN GROWTH HORMONE DEFICIENCY, VITAMIN D DEFICIENCY and much, much more...


White Beard
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   Posted 3/9/2010 11:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Donna

I am sorry about your situation, but if your employer is trying to get you fired, or other wise get you out of your job, just make sure that you document every thing, not only about your own health and pain and all that. But also what goes on at work, how your health problems affect your job and job performance! What has been said to you, by your superiors and co-workers. anything and everything. In other words, CYA Cover your behind! Make it as difficult as possible for them to let you go! If your doing your job, and doing it right and have the documentation to prove it well you are that much better off. I am sorry that your husband got layed off, is he able to do any other type of job, is he getting any type of income at all?.Has he tried to find other employment, even if it is not in his chosen field? I do not want to sound critical of your husband, but if he is telling you that you can't lose your job and can't take a different job because of a pay cut, well.........all I can say is .......It hardly seems fair that you have to bare the entire burden of supplying the family income and insurance and all the stress that this is causing you, and yet you are the one with all the medical problems. I do hope that your husband is supporting you in other way, keeping up the house or what ever! Keep hanging in there! and share your frustrations with us as often and you want! You definitely have my support and I am sure everyone elses too! I do wish you all the best Donna.

Good Luck to You!


White Beard

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   Posted 3/10/2010 2:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Donna,
It's late and although I've read all the posts in this thread I may not be remembering everything accurately so please forgive any slip ups. I wonder if a consult with an attorney who specializes in employment law and disability (American's with Disability's Act) protections might benefit you. It's so stressful trying to CYA with every move at a workplace, especially if you're not feeling well to begin with, that it may not be hard for them to eventually find something. Maybe getting the protection of the ADA via your doctor's could protect you some. Plus I know there are some states that are "at will" employment so an employer can, I believe, discharge you "at will" without necessarily having a reason. But I'm not an attorney, it's just the experience I ran into. If someone is really trying to get rid of you, unless you take proactive steps they just might do it, and you want to at least make sure it's a lay off and not a firing so you can collect unemployment. Best yet might be another job, but I do know they're not easy to come by.

I hope your husband is seriously involved in a job search so that maybe he can get something that could at least have benefits to take that pressure off you.

I wish you the best with this!

Hugs,

PaLady

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 3/10/2010 2:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Gosh Donna this rings so true. For most of us who can't do their jobs we are forced to either quit, like I did; or take early retirement if we are old enough, or worse we are forced from our only income! Lucky for me I do have a supportive husband and that might have made the difference, but in your circumstance....I just don't know what to tell you to try. Everyone here has had some wonderful ideas and maybe even contacting the state employment and wages board might help a bit.

Sending hugs and prayers for better times hun.

Scarred
I live to "Tame My Pain!" 

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