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MIKEL99
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   Posted 4/4/2010 3:13 AM (GMT -7)   

THANKS

Post Edited (MIKEL99) : 4/5/2010 12:46:28 AM (GMT-6)


Screaming Eagle
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   Posted 4/4/2010 5:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Hum! Well Mikel, I know this sounds odd, but it sounds like it is time to start counting your blessings. From way over here, I can see some of your blessings.

You have a lot on your mind, as many of us do with our health problems, so that can work on your mind all of the time. One thing that stood out to me in your statement was that your Girlfriend made some sort of Commitment to be with you. I'm guessing that this is important to you giving your health situation. I don't mean to pry, but is there a commitment on your part to her as well? Is this what is bothering you?

Maybe it will be helpful to write down the items that bother you, and then write down the Blessings that you have as well.

You are well liked here on the forum, so that can be your first item of Blessings to write down. If you think about, when you have a worry or a question, you come here with it, so you value the members here. That is a good thing in your life, and you can count it as a very valuable blessing.

You might even want to check with your Dr to see if maybe you need some medication for this. Your nerves may be on edge, with all that you have going on in your life right now.

SE
DDD (Degenerative Disk Disease) S1-L4-L5, Heart Attack 2002, Angioplasty to clear blocked Artery and to implant Stent. Six Epidurals, Disocgram, Melanoma Cancer 07, Lumbar Fusion March of 2010, Four cortisone injections Tendinitis in Elbow.


Retired Mom
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   Posted 4/4/2010 5:34 AM (GMT -7)   
Mikel,

My mother and her high-school sweetheart married 8 years ago. My father passed away nine years ago and she waited the "respectable" year after his passing. She had not seen this man in many, many years and he offered her a LIFE. He knew she was way beyond BROKE and still loved my father very much. He also realized she had changed with the years, as had he. One of my sisters likes him, the other doesn't. I really do very much and he spends a great deal of time with me. My mother and he are very happy together and have pooled resources and intellect. They are now world traveling mulit-millionaires and she still runs an old small run-down family business. The LOVE each other, very much! They have both had heart problems with surgery, joint problems, emotional ups and downs, children issues (the both have children/grandchildren/even one great-grandchild) and found that they need each other and love each other "warts and all'.

What I'm trying to say is that you have something wonderful to offer this person or they would not be with you. With your openness, I'm sure they are aware of you medical problems and accept that....or they wouldn't be in your bed and making committments. If you love this person, please don't doubt what you have to offer or if you are going to burden them. You will not. Love is a very strong bond that heals us all in some way. If you have that (and of course only you can know), give it your all.


All my best on this bright Easter Morning!
Formerly PrayingForRealRelief...
 
DDD, CHRONIC PAIN SYNDROME, TLIF L5-S1 2009 (failed), FIBRO, MINEYER'S (SP?), VERTIGO, MIGRAINES, GERD, SLEEP DISORDER, NISSEN FUNDOPLICATION (failed), DEPRESSION, EXTREME ANXIETY DISORDER, OCPD, PTSD, CHRONIC MUSCLE SPASMS, HUMAN GROWTH HORMONE DEFICIENCY, VITAMIN D DEFICIENCY, CARPLE TUNNEL SYNDROME, EXTREME IDIOPATHIC HYPOGLYCEMIA FROM AGE 12
 
 
 
 


MsBunky
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   Posted 4/4/2010 7:39 AM (GMT -7)   
Good Morning Mikel,

Congratulations on having what appears to be a sweet, wise and loving lady in your life. She obviously sees and loves the real you, with all your foibles and warts as well as all your wonderful, loving traits. Do you feel the same way about her? If you do, then don't let this treasure slip away because of your own personal doubts about yourself, your health, etc.

There are times in our life Mikel where it pays to really analyze a situation before going further..but this is not one of them. Life is short and you never know what's around the corner. Take the chance for real happiness that is being offered to you and jump in with both feet (carefully!) so you can enjoy.

Mikel, your sweetheart has made her feelings for you clear in my opinion. By wandering your apartment and wrestling with your "doubts", you're not giving her much credit for her intelligence. You are a kind and wonderful person with qualities many would fall in love with. She knows about all the other stuff and it isn't stopping her, so open up your heart and your arms and embrace this wonderful new beginning.

Hugs,
Pam
Conditions: Fibromyalgia, Chronic Pelvic Pain, FAI, Reynauds, IBS, Interstitial Cystitis, Surgical Adhesions, Ophthalmic Migraines, Severe Hot Flashes (Surgical Menopause and drug related), plus physically unable to vomit due to Nissen, and I have extremely tiny veins...a joy for blood work or IV's)
Surgeries: Appendix, Uterus, Nissen Fundoplication for GERD, Left Ovary, Gallbladder, Right Ovary, TVT
Medications: Oxycontin, Tramacet, Cymbalta, Flexeril, Clonidine plus Vitamin D and Multi-Vitamin daily


Blessedx8
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   Posted 4/4/2010 8:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Mikel...

The last three posts said everything that I could say and more... especially the last sentence in Pam's post.

Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you today... :)

--Tina
Main Health Problems: Dysautonomia/POTS; CFS/Fibromyalgia; Severe Hypertension; Hypothyroidism; Hypoadrenalism; Mixed (Obstructive/Central) Sleep Apnea - on Auto BiPap; Depression/Anxiety; Severe Vitamin D Deficiency

Pain Issues: Cervical/Thoracic back pain; migraines; carpal tunnel syndrome; widespread joint/muscle pain, nerve pain in hands/arms/feet; Future Plans: Intrathecal Pain Pump; already completed trial (Sept, 2008); awaiting my decision for implantation


Stac/Catz4
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   Posted 4/4/2010 9:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Mikel, you are my brother and I love you very much. You know that. I even said yesterday that I was praying she'd be there to have breakfast with you this morning! Now, sweet, sweet man, go directly to bed, hold that wonderful woman in your arms and thank your lucky stars!!! You DESERVE this! It's o.k., you really do! And about the pain? Look at Randy, Mikel! He puts up with all this mess from me and all my hurts and sickness! He not only puts up with it, he encourages me and helps me. Let her do the same for you as it is very obvious she wants to!
Stac-Cat
I'm called Cat, but as there are few other Cat's on here, I put the number of cats I have and combined it to spell out Catz4
DXed-Syringomyelia C-1 to T-1, Hypothyroidism, Diabetes Type II, IBS, Panic Disorder, ICC , Fibromyalgia, Migraines, Bipolar Disorder, Chronic Muscle Spasms, Torn Rotator Cuff in Left Shoulder, Had emergency surgery for ruptured bowel in '05 w/colostomy and takedown in '06.
Too many meds to name/Too many allergic reactions/sensitivities to too many drugs to name. Meds for Panic Disorder, Pain, Bipolar, IBS, Hypothroidism, Diabetes, Insomnia and then some.
 
 


flower123
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   Posted 4/4/2010 10:34 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm thinking of you, too!

Hugs,

Flower

Potsie
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   Posted 4/4/2010 10:42 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm thinking of you too sweetie!! yeah

Screaming Eagle
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   Posted 4/4/2010 10:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Mikel! You should not be feeling any pain, after all these comments! :)

SE
DDD (Degenerative Disk Disease) S1-L4-L5, Heart Attack 2002, Angioplasty to clear blocked Artery and to implant Stent. Six Epidurals, Disocgram, Melanoma Cancer 07, Lumbar Fusion March of 2010, Four cortisone injections Tendinitis in Elbow.


MIKEL99
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   Posted 4/4/2010 6:40 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks eagle ,mom , Pam , Tina and Sister Stace , flower and Potsie .We had a great day , woke up went to the diner and had brunch , then went to the movies and saw ''Clash of the Titans ''it was great and so was she . She opened doors was patient , attentive and loving it was great , amazing .I haven't taken a pain med yet today which is truly amazing .It hurts in some positions more than others and I need rolator still to walk but , I guess I'm on a natural high right now 'We don't no what will happen in the future but right now this was a great weekend for me .
HIV+ also Hep c , need hip replacement surgery on hold because of unknown but cellulitus-like ailment  .most pain from hip condition and cellulitus-like ailment .hands numb may have carpal tunnel syndrome now . Great frustration because doctors unable to diagnos ailment              .Medecines -    ,viracept,truvada, lasix .  oxicontin  '                                                                                                                         


Snowbunny21
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   Posted 4/4/2010 6:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Wow Mikel...I got the gist of your last post! Sounds like it was a wonderful time:) Giving and receiving patience, love, care, respect, and empathy is the best health medicine in the world!

Trust in yourself and your girl...and try to not worry or project too far ahead and enjoy one minute/day at a time...

Big Hugs (( ))
SB and "the pup who snores loudly" 
 
ACDF C5-C7, (no hardware), with autograft bone Nov. 2001
(reabsorption of bone 2 years later...still lost in body..expect to burp it out at anytime..haha")) 
ACDF with hardware, allograft bone Nov. 2005 
Anterior and Posterior CDF, allograft bone with BMP, removal of old hardware, use of titanium plates, rods, screws, & kitchen sink (lol) Dec 2006
 
 


Screaming Eagle
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   Posted 4/4/2010 6:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Mikel, I'm glad to hear that you had a great day. You certainly have needed it for a very long time. Now please tell me that your still hitting the juicer and eating like your supposed to right? :)

SE
DDD (Degenerative Disk Disease) S1-L4-L5, Heart Attack 2002, Angioplasty to clear blocked Artery and to implant Stent. Six Epidurals, Disocgram, Melanoma Cancer 07, Lumbar Fusion March of 2010, Four cortisone injections Tendinitis in Elbow.


MIKEL99
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   Posted 4/4/2010 11:40 PM (GMT -7)   
Yes definatly juicing !!! thanks for asking .
HIV+ also Hep c , need hip replacement surgery on hold because of unknown but cellulitus-like ailment  .most pain from hip condition and cellulitus-like ailment .hands numb may have carpal tunnel syndrome now . Great frustration because doctors unable to diagnos ailment              .Medecines -    ,viracept,truvada, lasix .  oxicontin  '                                                                                                                         


tmjpain
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   Posted 4/5/2010 12:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Mikel
I don't know the whole story but I think I am safe to say," Don't be so hard on yourself", she is there because she loves you tons and wants to be with you. Count your self lucky. I hope I read these posts correctly.
 
Hugs my friend.
   
SUZANE
      
 Chronic, severe and continuous bilateral temporal headaches since April 2000.
 Poor prognosis, seen thousands of doctors, been on dozens of meds and tried all forms of treatment with no success.
 Currently Feb 2010: cycles of IV Ketamine infusion via a PICC line and pump at home with some success.
 Meds: oxycodone for breakthrough, cymbalta, vitamin D, B12, magnesium, omega 3, melatonin
 Profession: Part time registered nurse on Long term disability and applying for permanent disability thru CPP
 52 yrs old, female, married, two boys 19 & 21, live in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
 
           


MIKEL99
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   Posted 4/5/2010 4:27 AM (GMT -7)   
I just felt like a jerk and that I wasted enough of everyones time on me , But again I thank you all , and I love you all much
HIV+ also Hep c , need hip replacement surgery on hold because of unknown but cellulitus-like ailment  .most pain from hip condition and cellulitus-like ailment .hands numb may have carpal tunnel syndrome now . Great frustration because doctors unable to diagnos ailment              .Medecines -    ,viracept,truvada, lasix .  oxicontin  '                                                                                                                         


Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 4/5/2010 10:14 AM (GMT -7)   
 
 
   Dear Mike,
 
      I feel like I missed something important! I hope you are doing well today. Many huggs, dear friend!
 
*hugg*
  dani

 

 

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood

 

 

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