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Retired Mom
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   Posted 4/17/2010 2:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello All,

As many of you know, I recently posted a message of goodbye to my HW friends, logged off, and stayed away for several days (as was suggested “in lieu of my stated permanent departure” by many of you good folks). I also emailed Peter, who is a wonderful person (by the way) and provided insight to my original post. He graciously stated that he hoped I would find time to participate in the forums again and I have taken that to heart.

I do want to clarify, however, that I did not intentionally create disharmony among the members and tried to prevent further discord by not posting a great deal of explanation after the fact. I also wish you to know that I have never been asked to leave or been banned from the board at any time. I was also NOT the one emailing people with vehement negativity. I do not do that.

I found, however, that I could not leave without checking to see how you guys were doing. I was strangely drawn to find out if you were all OK. You have become a part of my life just as surely as if you were here with me.

As so many of us CP patients do, I became overwhelmed by the circumstances around me and responded rashly (as I can now see...since I am calmer and more relaxed). I made a mistake in leaving.

With all of that said, I want to again offer my support and my encouragement.

I also want to say a special thank you to those who gave support even when I was emotionally unable to reciprocate.

All my best to each of you.

RetiredMom


DDD, CPS, TLIF L5-S1 2009, FIBRO, VERTIGO, MIGRAINES, GERD, SLEEP DISORDER, NISSEN FUNDOPLICATION (failed), DEPRESSION, EXTREME ANXIETY DISORDER, OCPD, PTSD, CHRONIC MUSCLE SPASMS, HGH DEFICIENCY, VIT D DEFICIENCY, CARPLE TUNNEL SYNDROME, BLOOD SUGAR ISSUES, THYROID CYSTS, AND SERIOUS MOOD SWINGS :) 
 
 


willowsgrandma
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   Posted 4/17/2010 2:39 PM (GMT -7)   
turn Hi RetiredMom. (Are you really retired?) I never did see any of your posts that were in poor taste or questionable. I have had a GREAT 2 weeks with low pain level (RSD). I am currently taking 2400 mg Gabapentin and 100 mg Savella a day. I also am taking Amitriptyline (150 mg) in the late evening. Is your pain pretty high level? Again I hope you will post as often as you want! Take care, Donna yeah

Snowbunny21
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   Posted 4/17/2010 2:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Retiredmom,

So glad to see you back:)...All of us have had those times where we just want to just say 'blah!' and to heck with everyone...so don't worry about anything....we are just happy to have you back here as you have lots to offer...

I hope that you are able to do something that makes you smile this weekend...we are having such amazing weather! My poor doggy is sick so we are in for the afternoon but hoping he is better tomorrow...

Take care...
SB and "the pup who snores loudly" 
 
ACDF C5-C7, (no hardware), with autograft bone Nov. 2001
(reabsorption of bone 2 years later...still lost in body..expect to burp it out at anytime..haha")) 
ACDF with hardware, allograft bone Nov. 2005 
Anterior and Posterior CDF, allograft bone with BMP, removal of old hardware, use of titanium plates, rods, screws, & kitchen sink (lol) Dec 2006
 
 


straydog
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   Posted 4/17/2010 2:48 PM (GMT -7)   
RetiredMom many times people do have to take a break from forums whether it is this one or some other. Glad you decided to come back. I have done it many times over the years and its really just to get a breath of fresh air, lol.
 

crohns disease dx 2002 & small bowel resection, still looking for remission whatever that is, chronic pain 22 yrs, added ulcerative colitis 6-05 to the mix, high blood pressure 28 yrs, aortic heart valve insuffiency, depression, osteoarthritis, osteoporosis lumbar spine, scoliosis lumbar spine, peripheral neuropathy hands & feet, COPD & on oxygen therapy, lupus & psoriasis and psoratic arthritis. Several other health issues just not enough room to list it all. Too many surgeries to list and too many medications to list. Currently on 17 different daily medications. Intrathecal pain pump implanted June 05.


Retired Mom
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   Posted 4/17/2010 2:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Congratulations on your two weeks with low pain!!!! That is WONDERFUL!!! Mine is worse some days than others, but has responded pretty well to the RFA procedure I had done a few months ago. It's actually helped a great deal and I keep it under control with my meds. I just get really grouchy when I hurt for a long time without much relief. I'm trying to do better in the "stay positive" department.

Thank you for responding. I AM actually retired (medically retired that is) because of complications from my back surgery about a year ago. Thank goodness I came in under the old system where I contributed to a medical retirement plan and have been granted it. I had about 20 years in because I started working at 21, immediately after college graduation. I'm still waiting on SSD, but think it will be quite a while longer before I get this. I've only appealed once and I'm sure I will need a lawyer and all that jaz before they grant it.
DDD, CPS, TLIF L5-S1 2009, FIBRO, VERTIGO, MIGRAINES, GERD, SLEEP DISORDER, NISSEN FUNDOPLICATION (failed), DEPRESSION, EXTREME ANXIETY DISORDER, OCPD, PTSD, CHRONIC MUSCLE SPASMS, HGH DEFICIENCY, VIT D DEFICIENCY, CARPLE TUNNEL SYNDROME, BLOOD SUGAR ISSUES, THYROID CYSTS, AND SERIOUS MOOD SWINGS :) 
 
 


Retired Mom
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   Posted 4/17/2010 2:54 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you guys so much!!! I'm sorry if my response was "out of chronological order" but I wasn't quick enough on the typing.

It really is good to be back for real and not "lurking" to check on you guys. It felt king of wrong not posting and then still keeping up with everyone.

I really appreciate everything!
DDD, CPS, TLIF L5-S1 2009, FIBRO, VERTIGO, MIGRAINES, GERD, SLEEP DISORDER, NISSEN FUNDOPLICATION (failed), DEPRESSION, EXTREME ANXIETY DISORDER, OCPD, PTSD, CHRONIC MUSCLE SPASMS, HGH DEFICIENCY, VIT D DEFICIENCY, CARPLE TUNNEL SYNDROME, BLOOD SUGAR ISSUES, THYROID CYSTS, AND SERIOUS MOOD SWINGS :) 
 
 


Pommom
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   Posted 4/17/2010 3:35 PM (GMT -7)   
thank you for replying to my other post. I hope you are doing ok..glad you are here to post.
julie
 
Diagnosed  Crohn's, 1998..Gangrene Small Bowel,1998..Ostomy Take Down,1999..TPN for 5 1/2 months..Adhesion Removal,1999..Abdominal Hernia Repair,2000..Kidney Artery Bypass,2001..Diabetes,,Sleep Apnea,,Silent Heart Attack,,Blocked Kidney Artery after the Bypass..Bulging Disks, Pinched Nerve..MEDS--,Purinethol,Folic Acid, Fish Oil,Humira,,Bentyl,Anamantle Cream, .and many more. 25 meds..

Screaming Eagle
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   Posted 4/17/2010 3:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello Retiredmom. I'm not sure why you left, and at this point it doesn't make any difference. I believe that Pete, the Moderators, and the membership, all want harmony here. We are glad you are back, and hope that the past will be left in the past. I will be the first to agree that it seems like a chore at times for everyone to get along, but I don't think it is because members don't want to. We all have different views and personality's, and the mix of what we call thin skinned or thick skinned in the mix, can certainly affect the unintended outcome at times.

I don't think members personally try to bend or break the rules either, and I suppose they may seem gray (the rules) at times, and we may need guidance from the Mods or even the veteran members. Lets just do the best we can, and when we see that things are getting a little out of kilter, I suggest we all take a step back and look for a positive solution for all involved. I personally think, we all want to help. Sometimes it just does not turn out the way we thought it might.

I applaud your decision to stay and support the members here, as we all need it. I need it for sure, and it, was the reason I came here in the first place. I still remember my first post here on the forum, and the overwhelming response I received. I had searched the internet everywhere, and this forum had the most harmony and caring members I had ever witnessed. I now believe, that it is due in part, to the rules set forth by the Administrator (Pete), carefully selected and or qualified Moderators, and members who understand the value in keeping it that way.

Again the past is the past as far as I'm concerned and though I can not speak for other members, I'm sure many, if not all, will agree.

Great to have you back!

SE
DDD (Degenerative Disk Disease) S1-L4-L5, Heart Attack 2002, Angioplasty to clear blocked Artery and to implant Stent. Six Epidurals, Disocgram, Melanoma Cancer 07, Lumbar Fusion March of 2010, Four cortisone injections Tendinitis in Elbow.

Post Edited (Screaming Eagle) : 4/17/2010 5:01:03 PM (GMT-6)


PAlady
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   Posted 4/17/2010 4:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Retiredmom,
I am very glad to see you back! And what I am going to say may sound strange, but I am also glad you posted what you did, as it helped several of us see we weren't alone in how we were feeling.

My experience here has generally been that people could respectfully disagree, and sometimes that is very beneficial. It's how we grow and learn. So I hope the forum doesn't become a place where agreement is seen as the only thing that's positive. The viewpoints you shared I believe were very valuable, and perhaps have helped the forum to "re-set" itself a bit.

I am one who doesn't think we need to forget the past, because in not remembering history we're destined to repeat it. So it can be incorporated in a positive way as a learning experience for the future.

I'm glad you returned!

PaLady :-)

Retired Mom
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   Posted 4/17/2010 4:22 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you all again for your acceptance. I do not expect everyone to always agree and I am the first to admit that we have different perspectives and different opinions. I think we learn from each other in many ways and hope we can all continue to do so.

PaLady,

I want to say a special thank you to you! Your support means a great deal to me. I'm glad you found this thread and took the time to post. I also think history is important and can be learned from.
DDD, CPS, TLIF L5-S1 2009, FIBRO, VERTIGO, MIGRAINES, GERD, SLEEP DISORDER, NISSEN FUNDOPLICATION (failed), DEPRESSION, EXTREME ANXIETY DISORDER, OCPD, PTSD, CHRONIC MUSCLE SPASMS, HGH DEFICIENCY, VIT D DEFICIENCY, CARPLE TUNNEL SYNDROME, BLOOD SUGAR ISSUES, THYROID CYSTS, AND SERIOUS MOOD SWINGS :) 
 
 


MsBunky
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   Posted 4/17/2010 4:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Retiredmom, I'm glad we're not losing you here....you help make this forum the special place it is.

hugs,
Pam
Conditions: Fibromyalgia, Chronic Pelvic Pain, FAI, Reynauds, IBS, Interstitial Cystitis, Surgical Adhesions, Ophthalmic Migraines, Severe Hot Flashes (Surgical Menopause and drug related), plus physically unable to vomit due to Nissen, and I have extremely tiny veins...a joy for blood work or IV's)
Surgeries: Appendix, Uterus, Nissen Fundoplication for GERD, Left Ovary, Gallbladder, Right Ovary, TVT
Medications: Oxycontin, Tramacet, Cymbalta, Flexeril, Clonidine, Cesamet, plus Vitamin D and Multi-Vitamin daily


momtofourangels
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   Posted 4/17/2010 4:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Welcome back RetiredMom.  It's good to see you back.  It's good to hear that the procedure you had is helping your pain.
 
hugs
Loretta
Dx:  ddd, spinal stenosis, bone spurs, hypothyroidism, typeII diabetes, asthma, allergies, high blood pressure, polycystic ovary syndrome, PTSD, depression, anxiety


kimber9807
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   Posted 4/17/2010 4:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Welcome Back .
im dxed with  herniated discs,fibromylagia , scolosis,ddd,athritis, spinal stenosis ,gerd,gastric ulcer,gallbladder removal 3/23/10.
 
meds: lunesta, prilosec otc,lortab ,reglan,flonase. ibuprofren, zyrtec and benadryl.
 
Just added today: folic acid supplement  1 mg a day for the next year and also b12 injections increased to once a month. pernicous anemia and  Folic acid anemia.


Chartreux
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   Posted 4/17/2010 6:00 PM (GMT -7)   
Welcome Back and please know we care..
Lots of soft hugz..
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Enlarged Pituitary Gland, Sjogren's, Ocular Migraines, mild carpel tunnel, ect.... "Would be nice if we could use the edit button in real life"...

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PAlady
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   Posted 4/17/2010 6:32 PM (GMT -7)   
Retiredmom,
Thank you - your comments meant a lot to me.

PaLady

Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 4/17/2010 6:57 PM (GMT -7)   
 
 
  Dear Retired,
 
    I was just telling a friend of mine that I was sure you would be back. I am glad I was correct. I hope you find the Chronic Pain forum just as welcoming as it was the last two times. I know that your most recent departure was met with alot of anxieties. I hope more than anything that noone feels their needs or their posts are not wanted. We need you here. We need to know how our fellow family members are doing. Its important. As with all families there are up...and downs. But hopefully we are all a bit wiser and bit more caring when all is said and done.
 
    You know, there are times, especially when chronic pain and depression are present, that we want to toss up our hands and walk away. Times when self refelection and a body "re charge" are needed. But, (I was just telling Pete and Mikel the same thing the other day) we want to hear about you and from you if you are having a good, bad or indifferent day. We just want to know how YOU are because we all feel close to you. And we want you to feel like you can talk to us about anything. But, we also understand if you need a week, month or couple of months to yourself. Many of our members go MIA from the Chronic Pain forum for many reasons, life, time constraints, or the good ole "emotional re-charge".
 
     I do hope you have a good evening. Try to find a moment or two to relax when you can.
 
*hugg*
  dani
 
    

 

 

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And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood

 

 


edt
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   Posted 4/17/2010 8:54 PM (GMT -7)   

Welcome Back Retiredmom!

Glad to hear you are feeling better!

XXOO
Patti

 


purplegdaisy
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   Posted 4/18/2010 12:18 AM (GMT -7)   
I am a chronic lurker, but I am glad you are back as well. We all have those days when we just "throw in the towel". I am glad you came back for support from your friends. Nobody understands pain better than those that suffer it daily!
I have had migraines for 28 years. I have tried so many meds I have forgotten their names... so far, nothing helps. I also have status migraines from time to time... the Never ending pain....

I also have chronic back pain due in part to a car accident in 2005. I have DDD, and pain down my right leg as well....



Currently taking Oxycodone, Fentanyl, Fioricet, Migrainal, Prozac, maxalt, and having repeat injections and nerve ablation. Going for surgical consult end of April...


White Beard
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   Posted 4/18/2010 12:26 AM (GMT -7)   
RetiredMom

You said: ("I found, however, that I could not leave without checking to see how you guys were doing. I was strangely drawn to find out if you were all OK. You have become a part of my life just as surely as if you were here with me.") I also feel like everyone here on this forum have become a part of my life, I feel you are all my family! In a way we are a family here, and you are just as much a part of it as any of the rest of us, I don't feel that you ever really left our family!! But like any member of any family we sometimes need to have our own space! RetiredMom I am glad to see you back posting again!!!

I wish you well!

White Beard

flower123
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   Posted 4/18/2010 1:41 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm happy that you're back and that you're posting!!!

:)


Flower

Pete trips again!
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   Posted 4/18/2010 4:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Retiredmom, Welcome back! I too just came back after saying goodbye and that I wouldn't be posting anymore. I'm not sure if we left for the same reasons but I know we returned for the same! I think I know exactly how you feel! I'm not sure I saw your post when you left but I hope I had nothing to do w/ your leaving, I was acting kinda crazy before I left. If I did I truely appologize! You have been such a vallued member here and your leaving would be a very sad loss!!! So thanks for rethinking and returning!!!
Your Buddy,
Pete

Retired Mom
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   Posted 4/18/2010 6:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi again everyone and thank you for your kind words.

Pete, you never offended me in any way!! I won't go in to any more detail, but issues have worked themselves out now and I'm glad to be back among friends. We all have our ups and downs and sometimes the pot boils over. Then we clean up the mess, but we don't stop cooking because of it.

It was my mistake to make a "forever" type post because of a rash decision. I know better, but sometimes I can't see the forest for the trees.
DDD, CPS, TLIF L5-S1 2009, FIBRO, VERTIGO, MIGRAINES, GERD, SLEEP DISORDER, NISSEN FUNDOPLICATION (failed), DEPRESSION, EXTREME ANXIETY DISORDER, OCPD, PTSD, CHRONIC MUSCLE SPASMS, HGH DEFICIENCY, VIT D DEFICIENCY, CARPLE TUNNEL SYNDROME, BLOOD SUGAR ISSUES, THYROID CYSTS, AND SERIOUS MOOD SWINGS :) 
 
 


MIKEL99
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   Posted 4/18/2010 8:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Don't worry too much about it mom , everyone handles stess differently , no one is above making a mistake .AS far as I'm concerned its the past , but you must have been hurting somehow to act so and I hope we can help you with that or anything else you need to deal with , you don't have to do anything alone now , reach out and someone will reach back to you and stand with you .Welcome friend ! Mikel
HIV+ also Hep c , need hip replacement surgery on hold because of unknown but cellulitus-like ailment  .most pain from hip condition and cellulitus-like ailment .hands numb may have carpal tunnel syndrome now . Great frustration because doctors unable to diagnos ailment              .Medecines -    ,viracept,truvada, l Indomethacin  '                                                                                                                         


bluejet2
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   Posted 4/18/2010 9:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi RetiredMom:

I am so glad you came back!

Lorie
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