~Thursday Koffee Klatch (Bending the rules)

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Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 6/23/2010 10:45 PM (GMT -7)   
If you are new to this forum family then you may be wondering what kind of goofy question is that on a health care forum. idea We all suffer with medical conditions and with most of us there is pain involved...sometimes a lot of pain. Or maybe you are the loved one of one of these persons. This forum is all about how we help and support each other, how we gain back more quality to our lives, and how we can learn and share what we gain along the way and hopefully make not only our lives better but the lives of others who come to join us.

     But we need to also remember that there is the other side of life...the side that isn't concentrated on illness and pain. That's why we started the daily Koffee Klatch. This is a time to laugh, reminisce, chit-chat about the silly things in our lives...all fun things and no pain. In fact the 'P' word is not allowed... tongue So each day we share our thoughts or experiences on a different topic. Often it includes food, sometimes we talk about our past, and other times we just get goofy! Laughter is our goal. So, please join us whether this is your very first day on Healing Well or you're a seasoned veteran.
 
      Today I am going to bend the rules a bit and bring up a more serious subject matter....
    
 
     We all come from so many diverse backgrounds. We all have individual histories that shape who we are and how we handle our chronic conditions. As time goes by chronic illness changes who we are as people. How we view life. ...... but there is a "base", if you will. A moment, person or experience that we "draw our strength from". For some it is an unshakable faith. For others it is a loved one. Some the basic need for survival. So, todays question revolves around that "foundation".
 
     What do your draw your strength from? What is it that gives you the will and the strength to keep fighting, to keep adapting and over come your chronic illness?
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
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MIKEL99
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   Posted 6/24/2010 4:43 AM (GMT -7)   
HeY Dani Girl , Well the foundation I draw stength from is my hip problem and health problems and the people I 've met because of these things . As a boy my Dad was a Merchant Marine so I really had no example of what a man was , my Mother was ''I just want you to be happy '' .That became drugs , women and running away from anything that didn't feel good , I ran until my hip stopped me from being able to run .And almost committed suicide when I could no longer run and had to face my fears . The 2 years since have changed me more than the previous 52 , I'm a different man for sure . Coming to HW and meeting you Dani , Tabatha , Tina , Pete and many others has changed me a lot and I had my brother who all along the way stuck by me an beleived in me . And my mens team too , but my health issues brought it to a head , a point where a choice had to be made , I'm so happy I made the right choice . I hope everyone who comes here and posts and shares and supports and cares , sees the effect you have , you no less than help save lives . Mikel

antbuggey
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   Posted 6/24/2010 5:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Wow, great question Dani! I have a few things that keep me fighting and this forum is definitely one of them! The people here are incredible, starting with you and Pete, Suzane, Chutz, Stray Dog, White Beard, Mikel and many more! I am sure I missed people and please know it was not intentional, because everyone here is great and I am just kind of foggy today....plus kind of new and haven't met everyone! I also have my daughter and even though she is 21 and living in Colorado now, she is an only child with a father who is a real loser....so she still needs her mommy! My husband, who is an amazing man that loves me no matter what! At times I try to push him away because I feel like my pain is ruining his life, along with mine....he tells me "You are my life, Beckey!". I am so thankful for him! My sister, (damouthy1) lives with me and keeps me going also! We are very close....fought a lot as kids....but always stayed close and she truly understands the pain, because she is dealing with more then I am! We help each other through the rough times! My nieces and nephews live here too, and they bring a smile to my face daily....sometimes hourly! My husband and I really enjoy having them here! Last, but certainly not least.....My mom, may she rest in peace, was one of the strongest women I know! She had congestive heart failure the first time at 28 years old and was sick her whole life....but you never knew it!! She hardly ever complained, and when she did, it was time to call an ambulance because it was serious!! I know she had a bunch of other things going on, also....things that caused pain, but she never said a word! She was smiling and laughing most the time and always had a shoulder to cry on! She is missed so much and she is my hero! I know she is still with us, pushing us along when we just want to give up!!

Sorry, I rambled on....this is an important subject for me!!

Take care everyone!
Beckey

Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 6/24/2010 2:35 PM (GMT -7)   

 

 

   Dear Michael & Beckey,

     It takes alot of courage to stand up and speak about such profound aspects of your lives.  It means a great deal to me that you both are able to share the struggles you have survived and the obsticles each of you had to overcome. I really appreciate your participation in todays daily question. From the bottom of my heart, I thank you both.

*warm hugg*
       dani


Two roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
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Lindaloo
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   Posted 6/24/2010 3:06 PM (GMT -7)   
I just recently discovered I have cancer and will go through chemotherapy starting next week.  I find my strength in my God and in my family, especially my husband and my daughters and granddaughters.  I will fight with every inch of me for a cure so I can stay with my family and help them any way that I can.  I feel I have been put on this earth for that reason. 
 
So my prayers are yes, for myself to be rid of this cancer completely and that it not come back.  My prayers are for my family and for all of you, my friends in my healing well exteneded family. I pray for you every day.
 
God bless.
 
Lindaloo
Co-Moderator Chronic Pain and Fibromyalgia Forums
 
Believe in yourself.  Be kind to fellow humans and animals.  Take time to smell the flowers and the coffee.
And by all means, when you are down, ask me for help.  I will be there.
 
Linda


Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 6/24/2010 5:17 PM (GMT -7)   
 
 
   Dear Linda,
 
       I feel so blessed to have this oppertunity to know you. You truly love everyone in your life equally. You are very courageous woman, no doubt. Thank you so much for sharing with us.
 
*hugg*
   dani
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
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Jim1969
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   Posted 6/24/2010 11:19 PM (GMT -7)   
My strength comes from my youngest son who I believe was sent to me from God to help me through the tough times in my life.

I don't know if I mentioned it here before or not but 4 years ago this coming July I was literally on my death bed. The doctors had told my wife she had better call the family together and tell them to get to the hospital soon if they wanted to say their goodbyes. I was in a drug induced coma and on a respirator due to a really bad case of pneumonia and a series of life threatening infections.

I have very few actual memories of that time but one thing I do remember is seeing my Bubber's in my mind's eye getting ready to turn 1 and I knew I had to be there for that and all his other mile stones. I remember holding on to that thought and pulled through.

Now he is the reason for me to get up in the morning and do everything I can to make it through the day.
2 confirmed herniated lumbar discs. Spinal Arthritis. Spinal Stenosis, diabetic peripheral nueropathy.


Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 6/25/2010 7:41 AM (GMT -7)   
 
 
  Dear JIm,
 
    I cannot thank you enough for sharing a frightening time in your life with us. You have a tremendous amount of love and devotion for your son. It is very touching and humbling knowing you were on deaths door, on the very brink, and the love you hold for you son brought you back. Thank you so much for sharing with us.
 
*warm hugg*
     dani
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
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MsBunky
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   Posted 6/25/2010 7:54 AM (GMT -7)   
My strength comes from the Lord.

“For I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13 (NLT)

I am also blessed with an amazing husband who knows me inside and out and has never failed to be there for me in whatever I need. He is truly a gift from God and I am eternally grateful to be married to Ray.

My family, my friends - they also give me strength. They genuinely care about how I'm feeling and how my day has gone...it's incredibly encouraging to know you have a whole team behind you, cheering you on. My medical team falls into this category as well...they all genuinely want me to feel better - there's no desire to simply over-medicate and ignore me.

And finally, although certainly not lightly, the many friends I've made on this site who "get it' because they suffer as well. My heart goes out to all of you who suffer and experience pain

hugs,
Pam
Conditions: Fibromyalgia, Severe Myofascial Pain, Chronic Pelvic Pain (with permanent muscle damage), Femoroacetabular Impingement (CAM and Pincer), Reynauds, IBS, Surgical Adhesions, Ophthalmic Migraines, Severe Hot Flashes (both Surgical Menopause and medication related), plus physically unable to vomit due to the Nissen, and I have extremely tiny veins with a lot of scar tissue...a joy when it comes to having to give blood or get an IV started

Surgeries: Appendix, Uterus, Nissen Fundoplication for GERD, Left Ovary, Gallbladder, Right Ovary, TVT

Medications: Oxycontin, Cesamet, Tramacet, Cymbalta, Flexeril and Clonidine plus Laxaday, Vitamin D and a Multi-Vitamin daily


flower123
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   Posted 6/26/2010 10:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi. I'm a little late to this Koffee Klatch. I am a Christian, so I get a lot of strength from the Lord. I pray and read the Bible and go to church. I feel like God gives me the strength that I need to go on living in pain. I also have support from my family and that helps me too. Also, everyone here helps me so much!!!!

Thanks,

Flower

tmjpain
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   Posted 6/26/2010 8:25 PM (GMT -7)   
This is an important subject for me. I have been suffering from these horrible headaches for ten years. And I feel like i have been searching for an answer this whole time. Just recently I have come to realize that this is the way my life will be. It is time to accept my chronic pain, that i have been given this cross to bear for a reason. No more searching for answers because it is killing me, it is stressing me. It is what it is and I must do the best I can each day. And yes i am going to have bad days where my pain is just too much to bear but tomorrow is another day. My faith defintely carries me. God has a plan but He work on His time not mine, I must be patient. When I was grieving for what is probably the loss of my dream job, a pediatric nurse, my priest told me, Suzane, you can nurse the children from home here, even when you are in bed. He said Suzane, you can take on the pain of the children at your hospital, so that they don't have to suffer. You are strong Suzane, and you can do this. You can bear their pain!! Wow, i had never thought of it like that!!!! A lady from my church comes every tues. to bring me communion as I am not able to get to church yet. She says prayers, and lights a candle. She listens to me about my pain, she understands me, she encourages me. And I pray every day with all the special books I have.
My husband is my rock, my saviour, my knight in shining armour. He has been with me every inch of this painful journey. Our love is stronger than ever, we are soulmates. He is my everything!!! My two boys, now 19 and 21 have been my bright lights along with my mother. What would I do without my mother, coming to stay with me weeks at a time. She too has saved me. Friends have been important but also the very special friendships I have made here on HW! You know who you are.
Sorry for the long post, but as others have said, this is important to me.
I continue to pray for everyone here in chronic pain that we all have the strength and courage to get thru each day.

hugs
   
SUZANE
      
 Chronic, severe and continuous bilateral temporal headaches since 2000.
 
           


Chutz
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   Posted 6/26/2010 11:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Great topic and very well put together, Dani!

Most days I'm not sure what keeps me going except maybe my stubbornness. I think that hope is what keeps me moving forward much of the time. I too am a Christian and do pray, mostly for others and sometimes for me, but I need to have some sort of 'spirit' of my own and mine is hope. Hope that life will get better in many ways and hope that my sweet friends here at HW will not suffer so much as they do. Behind the hope are a lot of things I try to do for others to make their lives better. Focusing on others helps keep my mind off of my troubles.

Chutz
If you're going through hell, keep going.

Winston Churchill

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