Post Edited (Chartreux) : 7/14/2010 9:13:36 AM (GMT-6)
I hate to even say it out loud... usually about 3 or 5 minutes. The problem is that I can understand someone elses point of view and sympathize with how they feel. I will tell them as much as well. I will repeat what I have been told, in my own words so they know that I am listening. That I do, indeed, understand how they feel. But, it doesnt mean for one moment I will allow someone to emotionally black-mail, belittle, or redicule me either. Just because I sympathize doesnt means I will be part of someone elses anrgy little whirl wind. Besides, when people are angry they say things they really regret. After I tell them I understand, I usually remove or excuse myself.
The worst people are the ones going out of their way to find conflict. They will do anything, and I mean anything to lure you into their emotional co-dependancy *shiver* (that would be the 5 mins to cool down.) Those types of people give me the heebie-jeebies. I dont say a word in those instances, just steer clear and avoid. Nothing I say or do with those types of people will help.