I still remember the first date I had with my wife. After a nice meal, she toured me throughout the house, room by room. When we came to the basement, I noticed a large pool of water around the water heater. I quickly told her that it needed to be replaced right now. She hung her head in shame, and I could tell that she did not have the financial means to do so.
Well, I said "no problem!" "I'm not going to let you deal with this problem alone" We both drained the old tank, heaved it out of the basement, and headed to Lowe's to get a new one. I have to admit, this is where I was the most impressed with her, as she did the installation of the new one. Plumbed it, and wired it all! :) I was impressed, to say the least!
This has been pretty much my life's story. There are giver's and takers in life, and I have never really liked that term, although I do use it from time to time. I also would like to add that there are Giver's and "Gracious Receivers" in life as well. These, are people who humbly recieve help, and return it, if given a chance sometime later in life, maybe not to the giver, but to some other poor soul that needs it. Giving is giving, and not the kind that expects to recieve it back at some time in life.
The Golden rule is always best to live by in life (IMO).
Several times in my life I have given anomalously without the recipient ever knowing about it, and it just makes me gigle inside. Then, there are times that, just cannot be avoided.
Every weekend that I work, I prepare breakfast or dinner for the men in my shop. Many times, I get up at 2:00am to 3:00am to prepare it. Everyonce in a while, a few of them donate to the cause, but I never ask for it, nor do I expect it.
You will never find a single employee of mine that complained about what I paid them. They always were given much more than what we had agreed on as fair pay, and many times I doubled it. Then I usually took them all to lunch or dinner, at my expence. My company also donated several thousand dollars to the leagues, and before you think it is a tax wright off, Think again!
When I was diagnosed with Melanoma Cancer in 2007, I started up a program for my sports kid's, and wrote a personal letter to each child, along with a signed portrait of them and myself, who was either recovering from, or currently had Cancer, and then sent them to the movies with their friends.