Update on Mom's breast cancer....

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mama6
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   Posted 8/24/2010 6:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Just got off the phone with my mom. She saw the breast surgeon today. She seems to like her a lot and said the dr. spent over an hour with her going over everything, which of course makes me feel a little better. They told her she has to go off of all of her meds for 10 days in order for them to go in and remove one of the masses that reached 2cm. Then be able to do a biopsy to find out how far it has spread. She says she feels better but she just sounds completely drained. It makes me so sad. So now it's more waiting. I don't want them to rush because it is my mom's health and I want them to get everything, but the waiting is so frustrating. confused   We all just need some answers!! I had a horrid day at work on top of that and go to new pr. dr tommorrow, so i was already stressed. I had to pull myself back because of course my mom wanted to know about me..and we all know once I start rambling..well you know smilewinkgrin . So I'm anxious and irritated, and just kind of over it all. Does anyone know what I mean? I don't mean in an uncaring way..just I don't know what I mean. Just wanted to post an update..thanks for all your support. Take care Heather
Big Hugs, Mama6

DX. with Fibromyalgia, Narcolepsy, Poss. RA or Psoratic Arthritis, Herniated disc 3x in last 7 months
Meds: Nuvigl, Cymbalta, Tramadol

Mother to 5 wonderfull kids. Oldest is 18 and just left the nest for animation school. Youngest just started 2nd grade. So I am crazy, and feeling my age plus some.

Chutz
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   Posted 8/24/2010 9:49 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Heather!

I think I do know what you mean. When all of my illness was being diagnosed we were in the throws of dealing with dad dying of cancer. There's no way either of them needed to hear my miseries yet I was quite worried about myself too. Two weeks after he passed mother had a massive heart attack and we almost lost here. Her recovery was long and not total. She worried about me without knowing all of my problems so there was no purpose in telling her about the fibro either.

So trying to keep your head above water and at the same time be there for someone you love who is in need is about more than the mind can handle. Always feel free to come here and share your feeling and thoughts even if you don't want or need others to respond. Like you alluded to, sometimes just writing id down is therapy enough.

Warm hugs for you and Mom,
Chutz
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skeye
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   Posted 8/25/2010 6:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Heather,

I'm sorry that you and your family are going through such a rough time right now. Having just been through this with my mother, I know that having a loved one go through a cancer scare is incredibly tough and stressful on all involved. It's certainly not what you need right now. Hang in there! You & your mom are both in my thoughts & prayers!

hugs,
Skeye

mama6
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   Posted 8/27/2010 2:39 PM (GMT -7)   
underthebus,
I can completely understand what you mean. I don't want to get harsh with my mom either. Last night we were on the phone and I was trying to grocery shop, and had to get oldest daughter and her friend from a school dance, I had a horrible day at work(to the point I would have quit if i could), my mom was telling me how my 18 year old, college student, shouldn't get his own place. Oh and I shouldn't be grocery shopping after all the dr. just put me on weight restrictions, my hubby who works 55+ hours a week and is gone every night should have done it. I'm thinking ok, I get it. Then in the middle of that I'm checking out and my atm card won't go through after they had already bagged all the groceries...I'm trying to tell her to hold on so i can deal with this and she's on and on about how my son and his girlfriend could be having sex at his house if he has his own place. Finally, I got short with her and said you know they probably do now..I mean come on. I didn't need it. I finally told her I have to get off here. I feel bad. I didn't call her back. My stress levels are through the roof..ugh if I had money I'd take a trip..nope can't do that. Good luck with you's I know you'll need it!! smilewinkgrin
Chutz,
I am so sorry to hear about your father, your mother as well. That had to be such a difficult time in your life!! It is so hard when you are going through your stuff and see what they are going through. It makes you feel like with all that they have to endure is it really appropriate to complain about my stuff? I don't know, I guess it's just difficult all the way around,ya know? I used to write poems and stories and let it all flood out that way but writing here seems to let my frustrations ease, besides no time to write any other way. Take care .
Skeye,
I'm sorry you have had to experience this as well. It's a very scary situation. I never know the right thing to say or do. It doesn't help that I had all these test this week because I felt like just hiding it all, or just spilling it all. I don't know if I should even burden her with it. She acts like she wants to know but then forgets the conversation. The next time we talk she asked again or gets it all confused(I know it's because of stress) I hate to get frustrated about that but I don't want to rehash it all over again. Well take care. Heather
Big Hugs, Mama6

DX. with Fibromyalgia, Narcolepsy, Poss. RA or Psoratic Arthritis, Herniated disc 3x in last 7 months
Meds: Nuvigl, Cymbalta, Tramadol

Mother to 5 wonderfull kids. Oldest is 18 and just left the nest for animation school. Youngest just started 2nd grade. So I am crazy, and feeling my age plus some.

tmjpain
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   Posted 8/28/2010 2:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Dear mama,
I hope you are having a better weekend and are able to relax a bit.
Just wanted you to know i care and my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Hang in there girl!!
One day at a time!!

SUZANE

mama6
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   Posted 8/28/2010 3:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Paula & Suzane,
Thank you both for all the support. I am actually having a better weekend. I took the kids to the local family fun and fitness center(hubby had to work again), just to check it out. I ended up getting a memebership. They have a lot of arthritis water classes and even a couple of arthritis yoga and pilates. They had a huge rock wall, and obstacle course that the kids fell in love with. Now we are waiting for the hubby to get home so we can go back over there just to burn some calories and get everyone's mind off of their gma. I think it will be good for me. I def. need to lose some weight but have a hard time with some of the other stuff. Talked to mom last night and she is not in the best mood, which of course I'm not surprised by. I just hope they hurry up and get the biopsy over...the waiting is making her a nervous wreck. That's all she needs with all the pain she's in and not being able to take her meds. I hope the both of you are having a really nice weekend. It is 6:30 here and still 93 degrees. Uhgg! Take care and I will keep everyone posted. Thanks again, I couldn't make it through this without all of you. Heather
Big Hugs, Mama6

DX. with Fibromyalgia, Narcolepsy, Poss. RA or Psoratic Arthritis, Herniated disc 3x in last 7 months
Meds: Nuvigl, Cymbalta, Tramadol

Mother to 5 wonderfull kids. Oldest is 18 and just left the nest for animation school. Youngest just started 2nd grade. So I am crazy, and feeling my age plus some.
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