Dear Monty's Mom,
Reading your script is like reading a chapter out of my biography. Wanting so desperately to take care of your family like you want to but having a body that refuses to allow you to do that. I've lived this sort of life for 30 years or more. I can't tell you the last day that I didn't hurt physically and then hurt even more emotionally because of it.
It sounds like you have a terrific guy that cares a lot about you and wants to help you as much as he can. I know that it is hard to accept help sometimes even when we desperately need it. I was lucky enough to find that sort of guy, too. The only disagreements that we have are over me doing something that he thinks I shouldn't because he knows that it causes me discomfort.
It is hard to give up the reins and let someone else take over but sometimes it's the best for you.
I totally understand where you are coming from, girl. My prayers are with you and please know that you are not alone in this.