I read your story and many other made good points. I am also on narcotics and I am scarred of being addicted myself. I have a friend who has back pain as well and I think she is addicted and I worry about her too because she is always asking me for extra medicine and that really concerns me. Also her husband is an alcoholic, who steals her pain meds that she really needs. It is scary and it is real, I know that there is a line and we all have to understand that as most of us are on or have been on addictive medications. I would recommend counseling for the both of you together, maybe a couselor can help you communicate your concerns to your husband, without him feeling attacked or not taken seriously. Sometimes it does feel like you have to take more I am going through that myself, I only do if it is really bad and I try for example 1 and 1/2 instead of to that way the tolerance doesn't go up too much. It is hard to understand and hard to control when you are constantly in pain. Maybe there is a treatment or surgery that may be of help to your husband. What is exactly affected in his back, nerves? discs? vertebrae? I might be able to come up with some ideas, As I have searched and tried just about everything natural and prescribed. Hope you find some answers, Take Care.
Thanks for your thougths and ideas. Like I said, this has been going on for 17 years. After his first spurt in rehab, we believed all was rosie. We had two kids. When I was 8 mo. preg with the second...I found meds in his possession (he did not have an injury at the time). It was only a month later that he fell and did get hurt. We have tried counseling together, individually, numerous attempts to get to docs that can balance this ugly monster but none have been successful. Living with him was more impacted by the addiction part than the chronic pain. We were living with the "elephant in the corner" sydrome. My kids were increasingly being effected by his drugged out times, which became more and more often. We had numerous hospital runs for OD scares. He has depression (chicken or egg question) but it cannot be effectively dealt with because he has SOOOO much meds on board. Two years ago, after a deceptive ploy with a kook doc that he will not let go of he took literally handfuls, hundreds of pills and we got him to a hospital. His parents took him from there. I told them I needed to focus on the kids, and me while he needs to focus on himself. He has lived away from us for almost 2 years now. He has had ups and down times since then, but has worn out his welcome at his dad and has brought a tornado of ugly to his mom's. The kids and I are very active in a variety of different help programs for families in crisis. We have healed sooooo much and I am very very proud of how strong my kids have gotten. I know it will forever effect them, but I believe that all struggles can effect you by making you stronger and wiser. My son has said things that blow me away. He 'gets' it. As for my husband, like I said he has his ups and downs but he always falls right back into the same-o-same-o. I love him very much and hope and pray he is able to conquer this. I know thought that there is nothing I can 'do' to help. Medically he has been handed the world on a platter and has sabotaged all of it.
You asked what meds and amounts that he is taking? Currently I am not 100% sure. I try to not overwhelm myself with knowing. Even when he lived with me I didn't always know because of the dishonesty and deception. I know at one point he had 14X80mg oxi prescribed per day as well as 1200mg Demerol per day, and others that I don't remember the amounts of...hydrocodone, valuim, soma - ALL AT THE SAME TIME! Now he has a pain pump with dilaudid and brobivicane (spelling?). He also takes orals but I'm not sure what or how many - he still sees the kook doc regularly so I could be anything.
Welcome to the CP forum! The post here is an old one, although I know you have in interest in it.
I would invite you to repost this question on a separate topic, so that all of the members can properly welcome you here. Please tell us a little about yourself there as well.
Also theere is a topic at the top of our forum page listed as Chronic Pain 101, and I invite you to read that as well. Lots of good information there.
Hope to see you repost this again, and Welcome!
Good morning and welcome to Healing Well! I would like to invite you to start an introduction about yourself. That way we can give you a proper welcome and get to know you!
We have many care providers of persons with chronic pain here. I know it is very hard to care for someone in chronic pain, let alone your own father. When it comes to pain medications, I would urge you to go with your father to his appointments. Speak your concerns freely with his doctor. There may be nerve damage or other reasons why he needs the medication long term. So, it will be important to first find out why he had been on the medication so long.
Again, it was very nice to meet you! Welcome to Healing Well!
(p.s. I think I might copy and paste your post into a new topic. I will use your "member name" in the title so you can find it easier)
Retired, Unique, JCG. This topic is 5yrs old. It was started back in 2007