My husband was also diagnosed with Rectal cancer at age 37, 14 years after diganosis of UC or Crohn's (still undetermined which one, even after surgery). He had an abscess and was very ill for several months, including being on TPN for a few weeks to get him strong enough to have surgery. He had a total prococolectomy and permanent ilsotomy 2/2005. After the surgery, the pathology showed cancer, which we were not expecting. He was advised to do chemo and radiation after the surgery. He had 1 round of chemo (Oxiliplatin and 5-FU) but had a reaction to the 5-FU and could not take any more chem. He had 30 radiation treatments over 6 weeks and is now cancer free. When you are going through the diagnosis and treatment, I think it is important to take it one day at a time. I made a calander and marked it off day by day as a sort of count down until the end of the treatments. Looking back now (it has now been 3 years), we feel this whole ordeal brought us closer together and closer to God. Remember, God does not make mistakes, but He sometimes allows bad things to come into our lives for a reason. We cannot always understand why, but be reassurred there is a reason you are going through this. It's hard to understand why bad things happen to good people, but there is a reason. My huisband was hospitalized 8 times over a 6 month period with serious complication related to his Crohn's and surgery, but if you were to ask him about his experience, he would tell you it has changed his life for the better. I do not wish cancer, or Crohn's, or any other serious illness on anyone, but it is in the valley's of our lives is where we do the growing. We cannot always live life on the mountain tops. I am sorry you and your family have to deal with this. Try to keep a positive mind and just take it one day at a time.