My heart and thoughts are with you. I cannot imagine the loss you have had. If I could reach out and hug you I sure would! ((Hugs!))
Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Take care and blessings from above,
Dear Bell,I have only known you here for a short time but my heart goes out to you. Our 3rd boy died at age 21 in a car crash only 22 miles from home.That was in 1990. I found that people were uncomfortable after a couple of years out when I would bring up his name but I learned in therapy there is no time frame on grieving for your child. There is not a magical day when you say ok, my baby is gone now and I will just let it be and go on. I never tried to do that but like you I tried not to bring his name up while I would cry alone at home.
It is ok to feel sad and to reach out to people, we want to know about your Sarah. She is part of who you are. You are Sarah's Mother and what a special Mother God gave Sarah. Self-indulge, it is ok, give yourself permission to do that. It is a need you have and if just saying her name makes you feel better we are here to listen. Your Sarah will remain forever in your heart so whisper her name if it helps. (((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))
Thinking of you with great empathy.Gentle Hugs,Kitt
I think you should light a candle for her or say a little prayer to her. Maybe a ritual on the day of her passing could help a bit. I can only imagine how you must feel. I am glad you shared with us... that is why we are here!
I agree with Kit, talk about Sarah and then people will get used to it. they may have simply forgot and I am sure your family and friends would help you honor her.
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I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter,Sarah. I know that being her Mom was a gift.
I am a Perinatal Loss Counselor along with being a Maternal / Child RN .We tell our Mom's who have had losses that there are many nice things to do in memory of their child,lighting candles,planting trees,holding onto special stones,and charm bracelets or necklaces.My friend loss a baby at 5months gestation,seven years ago,and she made a beautiful scrapbook,and has a charm necklace with her two living boys birth stone,then a angel with her son,Timmy's birthstone.
I think it's a nice idea for the parents to be able to be alone ,if possible on that anniversary.
Please let me know if I can do anything. I had two miscarriages,and it was very hard.