What a great friend you are, bless you.My input..................as a patient and as a visitor
Be cheerful.The most important result of your visit may be to raise your friend's spirits and give her hope. Don't be the bearer of bad news. Try to restrict your conversation to topics that will make your friend feel better. A sense of humor can often put things in perspective. Medical research is continually learning more about the healing power of humor.
Have a normal conversation, friend to friend. Talk about the things you would talk about in your usual setting. And don't get so carried away by nerves or a desire to entertain that you fail to let your friend talk as well. The most important rule is this: remember it's not about you. Be ready to listen as well as talk.
Offer to pray. Ask, "Would you like me to pray? Accept your friends answer and respect her wishes.
Remember the whole idea is to spend some warm, quality time with your friend.With a friend as concerned and caring as you, I think you friend will enjoy your visit and support. Gentle Hugs to youKItt
Where are you at in NC?
I am in the foothills, a little before you get to the foot of Black Mountain. My GI is at Baptist in Winston Salem. I have also seen drs and had surgery at UNC.
Yes, they do discharge before surgery especially if it is not an emergency and the hospital is full. It would depend on how bad and urgent the surgey is.
Hang in there she (or her faimly) will contact you when they need you.