Not having any blood in your stool is not a sign that you are not in a flare. While it is very common to have some sort of bleeding during a flare, it is more indicative of having an ulcer or internal hemroid. Thid disease is a very complicated disease that can rear its' ugly face at any time in a variety of ways. For some a flare is D. or Constipation, while for others it may be pain, nausea, bleeding, vommiting, or a combination of all of the above. To me, a flare is when I get to a point where the inflammation of the Crohn's is not being control through my medications, causing many of the above symptoms.
Unfortunately, this disease is not the same for everyone, so you really have just got to come to an understanding of what a flare is personally for you. As you become more and more familiar with your body and the way that the reactions that come from the different types of medications, you will come to know what being in a flare is for you.
This has been great info for me too. SOmetimes I think it is in my head and I need to buck up, then I have severe D and other symptoms and I know it is not in my head.
ElainePearl- Iam a special education teacher and at times it is difficult with the disease it is doable. One thing I am trying to do is work part time. That is still 1-2 years away. I also have small children of my own, but I love my students like my own. I take a lot of sick days and they are still making phenominal progress. I LOVE teaching and I feel blessed that I have a hand in my students succeeding. Please stay in school. There are so many options for teachers to work partial weeks and days and we do get summers off. I don't kinow what you are in school for, but don't let the disease make decisions for you. I am currently in a herendous flare and all I do is work and sleep, but I know it will pass. I have a great husband to help out and this year I am counting down to Spring break.
I hope this helps!