I know that it has been recommended that my daughter go to a therapist. They need to talk to someone other than a family member to be able to get out their feelings and they do not want to put more on you, but they need a safe place to talk. If you cannot get a therapist then sometimes a good pastor would be an answer. They need a safe place to say how scared they are. My daughter is dealing with 2 parents that are not well. So long as I keep doing well she has one of us to hold on to. But I know she is terrified one of us will die. I also know that she does not want to talk to either of us about
her feelings because she sees us being strong and wants to be strong too.
My pedi did tell us to stop protecting her so much and to be as honest as we could be. Regarding my husband - who is the sicker of the two of us - she said to tell my daughter things like - daddy is doing as well as he can today. But to stop trying to hide it because it scares her more because she can imagine more than what is really happening and that is worse. So she does better now and we are a little more
open with her about
him. Me we just make fun of the passing of gas.
Good luck. We are always here to listen.
Red (Lee Ann)
When life gives you lemons, squirt juice in your enemy's eyes.