This has always confussed me too. I don't think i've ever been in remission as my bowels are very far from normal and i have to really watch what i eat but i've been able to reduce my meds right down and am maintaining a healthy weight.
So, while im not flaring, i'm not in remission either.
When i'm in a flare i have severe pain, blood in stools, D, weight loss, vomiting- all of the time. Right now i have gas, bloating, nauseau, mush. So kind of a watered down version of a flare. I suppose these symptoms are now my 'normal'.
27 years old, diagnosed 1998
mercaptopurine, prednisolone, azathiaprine, actonol
currently on pentasa, calcium and folic acid, trying for a baby but it's a secret-don't tell anyone!