I've had several perianal abscesses opened and none were packed. One was so big and deep -- like an ice cream scoop taken out of me. I am still healing from a small one. It takes several weeks for these to heal completely (the big one took 2 months!). Patience! It will get better! Just make sure you sit in a warm tub several times a day. I use guaze because I need to cushion my 2 setons and I wet the guaze in sterile saline. The salt helps keep it clean and promotes healing. My Doc gave a script for the saline so I get large quantities really cheap! I also have to watch out for diaper rash -- skin yeast infection. Patience, patience, and more patience. And lots of lounging on my side like the Romans did!! I now think of these healing times as vacations. Fortunately my job allows me to work from home.