In His Grip
AlwaysRosie "We can't control the waves, but we can learn how to surf!!"
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UCTD, Inflammatory Arthritis, Diverticulosis, (recent dx - Sjogrens, Crohn’s 4/08)
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I love a man who has both CD and celiac disease. He has the double whammy and he eliminated relationships from his life for over 8 years. I look at it this way; life throws curves; at least I know going in what the score is. I could be dx'd with cancer or some other awful illness at any time too and he wouldn't stop loving me. Don't take away the choice of a good lady to care about you - you are much more than CD. It's up to you whether you allow it to be the verdict on your life. Sick or not, you will have to kiss some witches before you find the right lady. In my humble opinion.
I totally understand what you are going through. my first few bf's I hid it from them, they didn't last very long. I found that it made me sicker. I am 22 now. I have been in my current relationship for 2 years and 4 months, we now have a 3 1/2 month old daughter. I'm really lucky though because my bf lived with a really good friend of his who had crohn's 10 times worse than I do. To the point where he has been told that he won't live very long because he treats his body like crap. He always jokes with me that I don't stink up the bathroom halfs as bad as friend. LOL. Anyways when I was 18 it was really hard with all the symptoms staying at the guys house and all that goes with that . I eventually learned over time to be very open. If people ask I tell them exactly what they want to know. . . .sometimes being a little to open lol. I'm not scared anymore to do the things I have to do to make myself feel better. Like let her rip in the bathroom when I can't hold it anymore waiting for people to leave the bathroom. Just time will make things easier, trust me it will come. I always thought I would be embarassed, but now everything is out of necessity, not how I want things to be. One thing I have to say though is, I never dated anyone my own age. My bf is 8 yrs older than I am. The older the better I think, they have more experience with issues. The good ones are very far and few between so if you find one hold on tight. I hope to ask my sweetie next year on our 3rd yr anniversary to marry me. Unfortunately he's not the romantic kind so I am going to take things into my own hands . Smiles :). I hope things go well for you in the search for love. Another tip don't rush things, let them flow and slow. You will know when you've found the right one. They support everything you do and go through. Good luck once again and good travels.