tell him you said no to lunch...and you are saying no to everything else including any further contact...if possible do this writing or with a witness and then if he contacts you again report him to HR and file a harrassment charge...it sounds like he has aproblem with the word NO or at the very least he is not hearing it correctly from you.
When or if you do "run" into him simply nod or give a flat hello only if he acknowledges you first, but do not engage him in converstaion and if he tries to engage you in any conversation or stands in your way impeding your travels...Say very sternly and in a strong but level voice "I have asked you to leave me alone and not to speak with me, if you persist I will have to file a complaint." leave it at that and walk away.
I agree with the rest. Let him know you are not interested in lunch and inform him not to contact you anymore. He is harassing you and could be effecting your work.
o need to explain too much too him just be obvious you do not want to talk to him. He definitely needs a strong "no" and let him know you won't change your mind. Send an email or a note if you have to but make sure he knows you have no desire to socialize with him. I would contact HR also if the firm no does not work.
I had a ex contact me when I was engaged a million years ago :) and I told him I was getting married and happy and he never called back. He must have hoped I was available.
good luck and try not to stress yourself over it!
I am glad you found a keeper! Have a great marriage.
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