Hi Bella--welcome to the site! I, too, have an ileostomy which is now permanent. I did have a temporary one...twice! Once for three months for my sm intestines to heal, and the second one I elected because I was having so many problems which included fistulas and more...I just elected to go "permanent" and continue to enjoy my life "with Stanley"!
You should check out the ostomies forum here...there are many people dealing with the same questions/concerns that you are and how they are dealing with them. Hope to see you over there and good luck!
SouthPaw, you should check it out, too!