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Cookie's Wife
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   Posted 9/7/2008 8:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Well I started my new job last week and I've been there a total of 4 days... now here's the bad part cry
 
It's so stressful and not at all what I thought.  I'm stressed that I won't learn what I need to, they're SO busy that at times we don't get our breaks, I'm totally exhausted at the end of the day (I'm living on one income so I need to be there full time), restrooms breaks I can take now but once I learn the position and are on my own that won't happen as often as I may need them. So now I'm totally stressed!  I then had a couple of people I knew tell me stories that really freaked me out... one stated that her sister worked there and quit because she wasn't getting the bathroom breaks she needed (she doesn't even have any medical issues) and another person told me (they went there as a client) and they were so busy that the staff didn't get their breaks...UGH! 
 
I tried to talk to my family and they all say... "Well your not sick now so don't worry about it until you have to".  I try to have that attitude but I always have to plan when it comes to this DD and not knowing until I need to may be to late.  I try to explain to them that just being rundown and not getting enough rest will send me in a flare, they just don't get it.  The stress and anxiety of it all is starting to make me sick!
 
Do I talk to the manager and asked to be switched to another department (since I've only been there four days, that'e probably not going to look so good), tell her my situation and risk being fired, suck it up, or look for something else...AGAIN!  I'm blessed that I'm able to work so I don't want to come across as selfish. I also don't want to become sick after I've been feeling good by being stressed and rundown.  Thanks for the vent!
~april
 

 



MMMNAVY
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   Posted 9/7/2008 8:17 AM (GMT -7)   
the worse thing that manager can tell you is: no and fire you.
But only you can gauge the situation there.
Not getting bathroom breaks, especially when a disablity is involved is very touchy...especially during your pro-be period.


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LMills
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   Posted 9/7/2008 8:19 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm SO sorry you're in that environment :( That sounds awful...It's really unfair if you can't disclose your illness without consequences, and it's absolutely ridiculous that even people who don't have any problems like yours complain about not being able to go to the bathroom. Something isn't right there. I hope you find the right solution for you, and I hope if you can speak with your manager some more reasonable situation can be reached. Please, keep us updated!! And don't let yourself get sick over it argh..
20 years old, Diagnosed with severe Crohn's and colitis in May of 2008.
Currently taking:
Prednisone, pentasa, alinia, bentyl, prilosec, tandem plus, and the occasional ultracet
Surgery for ectopic pregnancy(very possibly due to Crohn's inflammation) in July of 2008.
Due to start Imuran September 17 depending on blood results.


sjs0018
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   Posted 9/7/2008 8:22 AM (GMT -7)   
If you are not getting your breaks which is required by law, there is an issue. No employer can pervent a person from using the restroom regardless of medical needs. I would either speak with HR or your states department of labor. You can file a report with your state and not have to give your name. They can then investigate the employer to make sure they are giving employees breaks.

Cookie's Wife
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   Posted 9/7/2008 8:31 AM (GMT -7)   
sjs-They don't work you a full 8 hours a day so they're not required to give you a lunch. And in the handbook it states that at times they may not allow time for breaks. They will try but the periods may be modified in accordance with state laws. When I worked the other day, I only got a break to use the restroom and get a drink, but it was on their time. They're REALLY good at covering all there bases!

I'm the one who always tells people that you shouldn't be ashamed of your disease and here I am the one that is!

Thank you all for your quick replies...
~april
 

 



FitzyK23
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   Posted 9/7/2008 1:12 PM (GMT -7)   
I just state things instead of asking things. I don't say, "may I use the restroom?" I would just say "I'll be right back, I'm going to the restroom." And if clients have to wait longer while you do that, tough cookies. And I would have a talk with your manager so she knows that when you go to the bathroom, you can't wait. And leave it at that. No need to suffer. Just stop what you are doing, say be right back, and leave.
26 Year old married female law student (last year!!). Diagnosed w/ CD 4 years ago, IBS for over 10 years before that, which was probably the CD. I am sort of lactose intollerant too but can handle anything cultured and do well w/ lactose pills and lactaid. For crohns I am currently on Pentasa 4 pills/4x day and hysociamine prn. I also have bad acid reflux and have been on PPI's since age 13. I have been through prilosec, prevacid, and nexium. Currently I am on Protonix in the morning and Zantac at night. I also take a birth control pill to allow some fun in my life.


aoccc
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   Posted 9/7/2008 1:45 PM (GMT -7)   
fitzy is right, you have to train these people how you want them. Once they get used to you going, it will be just part of the routine. Besides I always find the longer I am somewhere theres always someone that goes more than I do. There are a million jobs out there where there is a bathroom nearby, if they don't like it, bye bye.
SCD since 01, remission since 01, occasional Arby's breaks :)


Cookie's Wife
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   Posted 9/7/2008 7:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Unfortunatly I work in a medical type field and we can't leave people (clients) unattended...that's why the whole break thing is an issue.  Somebody has to stop doing their job to cover for you.  I didn't realize this until I actually started working.
Why does everything have to be SO difficult? confused  
 
All I want to do is work, go home and be happy...UGH!
 
I appreciate ALL your advice!  This forum has been a life saver for me!
~april
 

 



beartooth
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   Posted 9/7/2008 7:51 PM (GMT -7)   
April -

I feel for you. I've started two new jobs since my original diagnosis (I have UC) and being a private person, I'm fairly mortified of people learning about my illness. One place (I don't work there anymore) had a small crew, and my bosses were offended I didn't trust them enough to tell them. When I started a small flare, they were not very understanding about my reluctance to do certain tasks. My current employmer was in the dark about my inllness until recently when my flaring got so bad that I ended up missing a couple of days of work. They are extremely understanding, and are even willing to work with me during my current flare. I guess it depends on how well you like the job, and how much you trust them. If you're healthy now, why not give it some time, prove that you are a valuable employee, and worry about lots of bathroom breaks when the time comes?
Brandon
 
36 y.o. male
Diagnosed w/ moderate UC in May '06 - currently flaring
Asacol, Florastor, VSL#3, Wellbutrin XL, Prozac, multi-vitamin, Allegra, Lialda


Gracie Girl
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   Posted 9/8/2008 6:47 AM (GMT -7)   
April-
As if starting a new job is not stressful enough....
I guess what I would recommend is to keep working but since the work conditions are unlikely to change I would also continue to look for another job just in case. I do not know what you do in the medical field but have you ever considered working in clinical research? Usually you can find work in an University setting. The environment from my experience is relatively laid back and you generally have alot of autonomy and freedom to do what you need... i.e. use the bathroom :-)
Good luck...

Cookie's Wife
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   Posted 9/8/2008 11:47 AM (GMT -7)   
I appreciate all the advice!
I'm going to talk to my current employer about the possible move to another position.  My plan is not to leave until I have other employment. 
 
I guess it could be worse smilewinkgrin
~april
 

 



beartooth
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   Posted 9/8/2008 3:20 PM (GMT -7)   
April -

After rereading this thread, I had a thought (was a little painful since I don't have too many of 'em!). I used to work at a psychiatric residential treatment center for teens, and in order to use the bathroom, I had to have someone cover for me. Working the day shift, that wasn't always feasbile, all the clients being awake and doing stuff. Plus the staff restroom was attached to the very small staff office, and noises traveled well, quite embarassing for me. But I found that switching to the graveyard shift, as well as letting my co-workers and bosses know what was up helped out quite a bit. Don't know if this applies, but I had to get the thought out before it caused me any more pain.
Brandon
 
36 y.o. male
Diagnosed w/ moderate UC in May '06 - currently flaring
Asacol, Florastor, VSL#3, Wellbutrin XL, Prozac, multi-vitamin, Allegra, Lialda


sjkly
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   Posted 9/8/2008 6:15 PM (GMT -7)   
April-I work in a similar environment. My clients cannot be left alone at any time so if my staff have to leave the floor they have to have someone cover.
My advice is that you should always be willing to cover for others that way you will have lots of people who will be willing to cover for you.

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   Posted 9/8/2008 6:22 PM (GMT -7)   
(((April)))
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Cookie's Wife
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   Posted 9/8/2008 6:27 PM (GMT -7)   

beartooth- Thanks for going through all that pain just for me! tongue

I'm truly blessed to have the support of you all! THANK YOU! 


~april
 

 


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