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Cookie's Wife
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   Posted 12/31/2008 5:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi all!  I'm feel that I'm at a crossroad here... I haven't been feeling well and let's just say I'm frustrated! mad
 
I want to get healthy which I haven't been in many years but I don't think I can do it alone.  Not only financially but emotionally.  I'm thinking about talking to my parents about moving in with them for awhile to get back on my feet and to concentrate on my health without all the stressors of being out on my own.  It's such a big decision so I need some thoughts/advice on what I should do.  Thanks so much!
 
April
 
 

 



HanooN
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   Posted 12/31/2008 7:58 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi,

I think it would be a great idea that you are willing to move in with your parents simply because family can play an important rule in fighting this disease.
i strongly recommend you need to be surrounded with family and good friends who can help you to pass this crises.

remember you are not alone and it is not your fault. watch what you eat and have diary.

you will make it , just be strong and have a hope
Best of luck for all
HanooN
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Nanners
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   Posted 12/31/2008 9:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Well if your parents agree with the idea I think it would be a good idea. But as a parent of adult children myself, I want you to ask them first, not tell them you are moving in (my girls have tried this). They (parents) have developed their own lifestyle since their children have left the home, so you have to make sure that it is okay with them. Also, what kind of income do you have coming in right now? You need to at least be able to contribute to their household for your own expenses. I don't think your parents should be responsible for your expenses now as you are an adult. But............I agree with the above that being surrounded by family can help folks like yourself who are suffering healthwise. Having someone to help prepare your meals when you are feeling too weak to cook, or picking up medications for you at the pharmacy etc.

I hope I didn't sound too harsh April, I just want you to keep in mind your parents needs too. As I stated, I am the parent of adult children. I would definetly help my girls out in tough times, but I can't afford to support myself and them too. So they would have to help out with their own expenses, although I believe they would still save alot living back at home too, and the emotional support they would receive would be priceless.

Just wanted to give you both sides of the picture.
Been living with Crohn's Disease for 33 years.  Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, and Calcium.  Resections in 2002 and 2005.  Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Osteoarthritis. Currently my Crohns is in remission.


Cookie's Wife
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   Posted 12/31/2008 10:35 AM (GMT -7)   

Nanners- I'm glad you gave me both sides.  I think that's why I'm having such a hard time because I don't want to interfere or be a burden on their lives.  I would definitely ask...my mom jokes about me moving back with them all the time. LOL

I would take care of all my own bills and give them some money for "rent".  I'm working part time and looking for another part time job to help supplement my income but there's not much out there.  And I have to have a job that is flexible with me and my Crohn's.  I would also set a time line on how long I will stay. (6-9 months)

I just need to bring to my parents attention so we can discuss my options.


 
 

 



Nanners
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   Posted 12/31/2008 10:40 AM (GMT -7)   
Well maybe April you should talk to your folks first and see what their requirements are before looking for that second job. I really think you need to get your health in order first before taking on a second job. Plus it sounds like Mom would love having her baby back at home to take care of:) I just had my oldest daughter stay with us for 5 days, and even though I like my space, I loved having her here. Now if it was her and her 3 kids, I am not so sure I would enjoy that on a long term basis:) Don't get me wrong, I love my grandbabies, but in increments LOL. Good luck to you.
Been living with Crohn's Disease for 33 years.  Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, and Calcium.  Resections in 2002 and 2005.  Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Osteoarthritis. Currently my Crohns is in remission.


ivy6
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   Posted 12/31/2008 4:43 PM (GMT -7)   
And April, it might be a good idea to think about your parents' attitude to illness and their lifestyle. Will they accept and understand your illness, or will they criticise and make you feel guilty? Will they help you to get back on your own feet and continue to treat you like an adult, even though you have moved home, or will you have to revert back to your teenage role?

I'm sorry things are so tough for you right now.

Ivy.
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