Hello ladies, can't speak for all men but if a guy can't look past a simple scar you don't want to be with them anyway. I know its tough being young coping with a difficult disease but you need to live your life not worrying about what other people think. I'm speaking from experience having problems at a young age with crohns. I was very fortunate to find a great wife who understood my circumstance and I'm sure you both will. Keep your heads up
I agree with everything the others have said. I too like everyone here have had those issues especially when I found myself separated from my husband of 22 years 5 years ago, I am still young enough to be starting in a relationship as I am 46 and my crohns has been so out of control its not funny, but I have been dating a great guy now for 2 years and he now lives with me and believe me he has seen some bad times with me, on a daily basis I lose control of my bowel, I have had surgery before and have scars and now looking down the barrel of getting an ileostomy and he is not phased by it at all, he couldnt be more supportive I truely am lucky as I know u will be too. There are good guys out there regardless of age. Yellowfin put it all perfectly I agree wholeheartedly. Take care and keep your head held high
35/f proud single mom of 2
Diagnosed with GERD/Acid Reflex 2002
Diagnosed with IBS 2007
Diagnosed with UC, then Crohn’s 2008
Don't give up. I was married when I found out and I was still worried about how my hubby would feel. He told me he is not going anywhere no matter what. He is understanding and I am glad to have him.
I agree that if the person can not handle your disease then you know up front this is not the person for you. I know it must be tough but don't give up on dating. you can find someone in other places like book clubs, classes etc... the right person is out there for you...
Diagnosed w/ Crohn’s Disease March 2007 Started Humira June 2008 (have been on other cd meds)
Diagnosed w/ Fibromyalgia May 2007 on Soma and Lyrica
Dx CD 2003 but probably had it 10 years prior
Dx Primary Sclerossing Cholangitis 2006
GB out '95, Appendix out '96, Kidney stent '02/stone removal '02, Resection '04, fistulectomy '06 2x, tubal '05
Currently on 100mg 6mp-50 mg, and Remicade every 8 weeks, Ambien, predsnisone, humira 1x wk, flagyl, cypro, diflucan, probiotic
I'm 19 and have similar issues - to the point where I don't even wish to tell anyone that I have Crohn's - especially friends you go clubbing with and potential boys. It's not that I think they would be mean about it - just that the pity thing would affect how they see me. And it's just something I hate admitting to.
So far - I have been avoiding relationships. Although I have always wanted one, I've only just realised that it has been me avoiding it all along. Negative reinforcement i suppose. But the more you avoid these things the harder it gets. I suppose what I am trying to say is that sometimes it is us that have the problem - not other people. And if we could be honest about it - a lot a people probably wouldn't be that bothered! I'm only just realising this though. And still I find myself avoiding relationships becuase I have got so used to not having them. But lifes too short - and I know I will regret it in the future.
It's not about meeting mr right - just about having fun.
Hope this helps.