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Trigirl
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   Posted 2/27/2009 6:13 AM (GMT -7)   
YEah 4:00 am. Middle of night and up fuming. Can't sleep. Yesterday two of my young bosses called me in to tell me my job will be terminated Aug. 31 09. I have worked at this fitness center for 18 years and have started many programs and worked crazy to always trying to do my best. Most of my friends are here and I see them regularly.
I struggled for about two years having to give up work hours because I was not well and finally was diagnosed with crohn's after two years of "they couldn't decide" and had me on stomach relaxers, bottles of peptobismal?, antidepressants I didn't need, ect. (I'm just not sure I like Canadian health care.) Then I get really sick and go in the hospital for a week fistula fixed and have to quit work for two months. I mean I couldn't walk or eat or anything. I didn't mind the weight loss, felt like a new woman.
They say don't worry you can have your work back when you are ready. I came back but they have only given me back three hours a day and I drive and hour each way to go to work, so it sucks. Then they take away 2 hours a week more and then they take 2 more hours off. If you're counting I am now down to 5.5 hours of work a week. Luckily I am not the main bread winner at my house. It's not the money but the feeling of frustration that being sick has taken away my life that I love. I feel less than human to say the least.
I am much better and after 5 years of on and off preg. and every other med. they could try some old herbs from chinese med. worked and I can still hardly believe it. Maybe I was just meant to go into some relief but Although still sick not half so bad and not on any med. So here I was asking for more hours and having my fitness classes back and they "Let me Go". Enough to make me sick again. I am going to apply at other centers but feel so rejected and unsure of myself now. I have tried so hard for so long.
So long I had hope for every drug and they failed. Then I was hopeful because I was up for stem cell research study but when my last scope wasn't good they rejected me like old trash. Its been 4 months and Dr. haven't even gotten back to me on what next. luckily I am better than I have been in years.
It is amazing how cheerful and strong some of you people are. How you guys do it is beyond me. I read the struggles and pray for you all. I learn all the time as I read. Thanks for a safe place to come.

Nanners
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   Posted 2/27/2009 7:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Sorry to hear that you are losing your job. So many folks are going thru the same right now because of the economy. Are you sure they are cutting your job because of your Crohns or because of the economy? I sure will keep you in my prayers that you can find a new job soon.

Hugs,
Gail *Nanners*
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Been living with Crohn's Disease for 33 years. Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, and Calcium and Xanax as needed. Resections in 2002 and 2005. Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Osteoarthritis and Anxiety. Currently my Crohns is in remission.
*Every tomorrow has two handles.  We can take hold of it by the handle of anxiety, or by the handle of faith"*

snohare
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   Posted 2/27/2009 8:00 AM (GMT -7)   
((Hugs))
nono You have to remember, that the bosses being the bosses does not mean they are in any way fit to run a business, it just means they are trying to do so. Many's the time management just doesn't see a good worker, or throws away a perfectly good working system, just in the search for something or someone who is more "with it". Stupidity always wears the most fashionable clothes, and its pride in that is all there is to it.
I daresay they may have been afraid of further healthcare insurance costs or loss of working time, and you are thinking at the back of your mind, is this going to keep on happening with other prospective employers ? But the answer really is no, because only a fool borrows trouble from tomorrow. Yes, bosses need to be cautious, but any new worker may have who knows what health problems a week on Tuesday. That is what healthcare insurance is for. At least with you they had a known quantity, someone who was trained up, enthusiastic and conscientious. Someone who wants to come to work for the love of it. How rare is that !
Companies who ignore the possible advantages of win/lose situations are not going to compete well, particularly when the economy is bad; that's where the money is made. Any bosses who might not want to employ you would be filtering out the bad jobs for you.
eyes It's a hard thing to learn, but it's always good to be able to take a little emotional step back from your work sometimes and say, "They're screwing up, more fool them, oh well it doesn't make any difference to how good I am".
They have not discarded you - they have LOST you. yeah
ideaAnd now you are off the leash, without the millstone of that two hours of driving and lousy management to deal with. You've got all the abilities you used in your last job, all the experience, plus all the underutilised ideas and skills that were going to waste. You don't even need to stay in the same field; there is no industry where they are not looking for someone with get up and go - Go gettem, Trigirl ! wink

73monte
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   Posted 2/27/2009 8:48 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Trigirl,

First off, I'm very sorry about the fact that you're losing you're job. I don't want to sound all motivator like or anything, but at times like this, it really helps to dwell on the positives in your life and try to pick a starting point and build on that. You did get 18yrs. there which is a great run, and I'm sure you made some good friends and clients, that are likely to follow you. I'm sure once you get out and test the waters, you'll find a new place that you will enjoy to work at. Most importantly you say that you are feeling good health wise. That of course if the most important thing of all. You must praise feeling healthy each day, it's an absolute gift. You also say that you're not the main bread winner, which tells me that you have a good support network at home.

I hope in a few days when the shock turns into strength, you will be ready to build on the assets you have. Good Luck with everything. Just curious, where in Canada are you located as I'm in Southern Ontario.

Tom.


My daughter was diagnosed Feb. 19/07, (13 yrs. old at time of diagnosis), with Crohn's of the Terminal Illium. Has used Prednisone and Pentasa. Started Imuran (02/09), had an abdominal abscess (12/08). 2cm of Stricture.


gachrons
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   Posted 2/27/2009 5:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi I hope you find strength in yourself to not let this get you down and some employers don't seem to appreciate years of dedication ..we all know how hard it is sometimes to get threw our days and know you are not alone .There seems to be alot of lay offs now and am hoping that things will improve for you .Keep some good thoughts about you ..lol gail
Hallarious woman over 50 ,CD ,IBS 27 years--resection,fistula's,obstructions,hemmies,and still alive.lol gail


Trigirl
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   Posted 2/28/2009 1:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks so much for the comments. OK You are all right of course. Think more positive and stay healthy. I can do those. Someone told me about a thankful journal they wrote everyday for awhile and that tangible thing might just be constructive and help.
I live in Calgary and the downturn hasn't hit us too bad yet. Some oil companies are bad off but my sports center is reroofing a soft roof and has to be closed for 8 months (As if the time line is ever what they first tell people) The project is like mega bucks but needs to be done. maybe I could join the construction crew.lol
I have thought long and hard about the resume I will write. Haven't had to do that for 18 years either. I made some phone calls to clubs but am going to my sons to babysit for a week and will have to pick up when I get home. The shock IS lessening and reaching forward is better than falling back. Snohare "they have lost me" that's a real "pick me up" thought. I'll remember that.
Matter of fact I am printing these off and saving for special need occasion. What encouragement. My heart feels warm because of you !!
Off to bed for now and will start conquering the world (my little one anyway) tomorrow.
Hugs and good wishes to you all.

sassy28
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   Posted 2/28/2009 6:07 AM (GMT -7)   
I know you said money isn't the issue, but you are likely eligible for EI if you have enough hours because it sounds like they terminated you without justifiable cause. So, if you were wondering about that I would encourage you to apply.

I have heard of others getting let go because of symptoms of IBS and other diseases and it is just awful, I am so sorry for the stress (which just makes you sicker!) Hopefully you will end up finding a job that makes this one look like a crap job! I have had friends who were devastated to be let go but who then got their dream job and looking back they realized they never would have gone for the dream job if they hadn't been fired. I hope that happens to you!

Wolfie40
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   Posted 2/28/2009 7:32 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm sorry to hear about your job loss.
I too worry about my job as I'm on medical leave after surgery.
I have 23 yrs in my small family owned company in which I think I'm a huge cog in the wheel, but you never know.It's all about $$$$ to them and nothing else. They say they care,but do they really?
When I go back to work I will wonder if they are going to say Hey! We don't need you anymore. But you know what! I'm just going to say thank you and move on.
Life is to short to worry!
Diagnosed with Crohns in 2001

First and hopefully last Ileocecectomy 2/18/2009

Medications: Asacol,Folic Acid,Multivitamin,Dbl. Calcium,Probiotics,Bi-monthly B-12 injections.

Living a Great life with my Wife and my two Chocolate Labs
Hunter & Hailey.
I love them dearly.


snohare
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   Posted 2/28/2009 11:53 AM (GMT -7)   
yeah Good to know the advice helps ! If you do decide to join the roofing crew, I may yet come to you for advice...just discovered the shed roof I "fixed" is leaking like a tap ! eyes shocked shakehead
Wolfie, I agree totally with your "move on" philosophy.... eyes but sometimes I can't help but worry that I worry too much.... smilewinkgrin

FitzyK23
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   Posted 2/28/2009 1:09 PM (GMT -7)   
snohare, could it be an ice dam?
27 Year old married female law student (last year!!). Diagnosed w/ CD 4 years ago, IBS for over 10 years before that, which was probably the CD. I am sort of lactose intollerant too but can handle anything cultured and do well w/ lactose pills and lactaid. For crohns I am currently on Pentasa 4 pills/4x day and hysociamine prn. I also have bad acid reflux and have been on PPI's since age 13. I have been through prilosec, prevacid, and nexium. Currently I am on Protonix in the morning and Zantac at night. I also take a birth control pill to allow some fun in my life.


snohare
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   Posted 2/28/2009 4:44 PM (GMT -7)   
confused What's an ice dam, Fitzy ?

FitzyK23
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   Posted 2/28/2009 4:58 PM (GMT -7)   
We just had one. A shingled roof works by the force of gravity sending water downhill. If water was to go uphill it can get under the shingles and down into the house/shed. If you have a whole bunch of snow followed by a really warm day followed by a really cold day the melted snow (now water) trapped under the rest of the snow turns to a block of ice. Then on the next warm day the melting snow has now where to go as the giant block of ice blocks the water from rolling off the roof or getting into the gutters. It then starts flowing back up the roof, under the shingles, and into the structure.

They are not considered roof leaks and there really is nothing you can do to stop a shingled roof (like on a cape) from having this happen except to try to scrape the snow off the roof before it turns into a dam. If you have one it will probably dry out and go away in a few days.
27 Year old married female law student (last year!!). Diagnosed w/ CD 4 years ago, IBS for over 10 years before that, which was probably the CD. I am sort of lactose intollerant too but can handle anything cultured and do well w/ lactose pills and lactaid. For crohns I am currently on Pentasa 4 pills/4x day and hysociamine prn. I also have bad acid reflux and have been on PPI's since age 13. I have been through prilosec, prevacid, and nexium. Currently I am on Protonix in the morning and Zantac at night. I also take a birth control pill to allow some fun in my life.


Becky77
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   Posted 2/28/2009 7:30 PM (GMT -7)   
I think for any of us with health issues, work is always an issue. I feel like I always have to prove myself because I do have absences that have recently piled up. Here in the US there is are things like the Family Medical Leave Act to protect us with documented health problems, but I still worry that if they wanted to get rid of me because of absences, they would find a way. I work at a hospital, which you would think would not be as affected by the economy, but our "numbers" are down, and we have had a cut of our hours once, and rumor is that it's gonna happen again soon...

Stay positive! Hopefully you'll find something better soon.

P.S. How is it that some of you write so elequently? I feel like a little kid sometimes responding after some of you...like snohare! Are you a writer or something?
Becky

31 yr old female-dx with Crohn's in '97 after emergency resection and appendectomy, 2nd resection '05
Currently on Humira, Prilosec, Effexor, Calcium, Vit D, sublingual B12


snohare
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   Posted 3/1/2009 6:41 AM (GMT -7)   
Actually Becky, I am a punctuation obsessed dyslexic with clumsy typing fingers - you wouldn't believe how many typos I delete in a typical post ! idea But if you spend enough time posting, then your written communication skills improve - you learn to plan ahead in what you are saying, and you're exposed to more new words. (Definition of a Crohnie - someone who can spell "diarrhoea" and "sigmoidoscopy" without thinking. wink)
No snow here Fitzy, I have a dreadful feeling it is going to be a bodge-it and scarper job with sealant !
Back on the real subject, I have over the years come to believe that it is pretty well vital to have a second skill set different to the ones you actually use for making money. History is never kind to people, the economy doesn't give a darn, it pays to always have a second string to your bow. But the other thing I have found, judging by my own observations of others, is that most people have far more skills, and a more extensive range of skills, than they think they have. But most people don't break them down into subsets and look at jobs as needing such specific skill groups - I suppose I do that because I am so interested in how the brain works that I automatically look at the mechanics of how things get done. But anyone who has ever been a mother will know how many skills that needs, right ?
That's where you have an advantage here Trigirl - having been an instructor you are used to in-depth assessment, analysis, and interpersonal communication, all skills that have a wide spread of "subskills" that are applicable to just about every type of activity known to (wo)man. yeah And even more to the point, most people will not be as good as you at doing them. (Imagine that bit as being in italics.) You get yourself a good set of references from ex-pupils, particularly ones that can do management speak, and...well, I'm just glad I don't have to compete against you in the job market ! smilewinkgrin

Jordan59
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   Posted 3/1/2009 1:35 PM (GMT -7)   
trigirl,

I'm an employment lawyer and can't give you legal advice on this forum, but it would not hurt for you to consult with a competent lawyer. Also, in my many years as a lawyer in this field, I have learned that getting fired is often the best thing that can happen to a person. Consider this as a new door opening.

Best wishes,

Jordan59

annyb
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   Posted 3/1/2009 2:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Trigirl,

You bosses are mean and have stupid hair! OK - now that my first gut reaction is out I have to agree with Jordan59. I would consult with an unemployment lawyer. I don't know the laws in Canada but I do know that those actions are bad here in the States. I have had simular situations in my battles with health and I have slowly learned that they are just doing me a favor in the end. I don't like it but accept it. Remember, being upset over the situation will only hurt you in the end (literally and figuratitively). Your being upset has no bearing on them.

This may also give you a chance to find something closer to home with less of a commute.

Good Luck,

AnnyB
Crohn's Disease - 29 years
Diagnosed at age 10 in 1979
1st ileosecal resection 1989
2nd colon resection 1993
Chronic "D" and arthritis
Chronic rectal stricture with colonoscopy every 3 months to dialate
Insomnia since 1980 - I love my ambien!
 
SCUBA diver, Master's degree student, college graduate, Pet therapist
 


snohare
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   Posted 3/1/2009 2:57 PM (GMT -7)   
yeah I agree totally with the stupid hair and sore end comments ! smilewinkgrin
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