falling apart, I have a list as long as yours and I'm only 28. Yes, life has dealt us a crappy hand but I believe we have to make the most out of it and just do what we can each day. Find comfort where you can and try not to focus on the negative. Just the other day, I found out that a coworker who had just had a tragedy in her life has RA and her family member was very sick with Crohn's. I was able to offer some advise and she said that my phone call that day was like a call from an angel. It gave me some comfort to know that my troubles and pain had helped spare someone else some pain and hopefully guide them in the right direction as far as treatment goes.
I see a psychiatrist and believe the medications have really helped me. If your doctor didn't pay attention last time you asked, tell him again that you really feel that you need to see a specialist. If you can't find a local support group, there are tons of people on here that can offer support and advice.