Hi exjohnson, hope you’re feeling better. I was also petrified of pooping. I took fallcolour’s advice and got a shower head which can be moved around – they’re low cost and so effective. That way you don’t have to use paper or wipes while it’s so tender and raw down there. Are you doing lots of salt baths? I was told at least twice a day.
Did it leave much of a ‘hole’? When I had my 2 setons inserted about 1 ½ months ago I was so scared at the appearance of my butt. I cried and cried. It heals up faster than you’d expect, though. I also didn’t ask for decent meds – I’m glad you’ve got some that will work for you.
Mine also drained like crazy and leaked onto absolutely everything I sat or sleeped on. That bloody leakage should slow down soon and then it will just be normal yelloy discharge. Well that’s my experience anyway. Here I am with failed setons and a catheter, and its still draining one month after having the catheter put in!