I don’t think it’s a question of whether you laugh more than you cry – rather, what is your ongoing, consistent feeling of wellness more likely to be – happy, or sad?
I am betting that some people here will consider themselves happier than others despite having more severe symptoms than that other person. So I don’t consider one’s happiness to be completely dependent on their symptoms – although symptoms are always going to affect your quality of life.
I am sort of the belief that in general, at least to a certain extent, people are as happy as they choose to be. I guess if you believe this, you can find your own happiness. I have to acknowledge that outside influences are always going to be there to make my life hard – and in my case, I believe having Crohn’s is an influencing factor which makes my life ‘harder’ than anyone else I happen to know my age – but this is just my experience. I don’t have any friends from a war-torn country or know anyone else with a chronic, debilitating illness.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that I try to not reflect on my current situation and circumstances when looking for happiness. I try not to let the words of others affect my happiness. I try to do these things, but it doesn’t always happen – especially when my health is as bad as it is right now, trying to maintain a relationship, full time job and friendships when I can’t really move much and am in constant pain. But at least I am striving to do these things.
My question is – do you consider yourself happy? Has this disease made you a ‘less happy’ person than you were before? I cannot tell if this disease has made me happier or sadder, but I know it has made me more mindful, that’s for sure. More resilient, and stronger, even though it has made me weaker (physically).
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