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dreamer06
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   Posted 8/13/2009 2:25 PM (GMT -7)   
I have been really sick since March and had to come home early from a year abroad.  I was unable to take my finals at the time and have postpned them until now.  I am doing better overall, not sick, but still recovering.  So now I have to write 5 essays around 5000 words each.  I am finding them really hard to do and it is begining to stress me out.  Since I am in Washington State the school I was at is in London. I can't talk to them face to face or over the phone.  Most of what has been said has been through e-mail.  This is the last chance I get to make up my finals or they go down as fails.  My parents are telling me to do my best. They look at me and see that I am better both mentally and physically.  But I still get tired easily.  Even if I was in school and perfectly fine I would have a hard time writing these papers. I am not a good writer and I find it really hard to do. 
 
But being recently sick and being new to a colosotomy and having a yeast infection from HE**.  I am finding writing these papers even more difficult. It has been 5 months since I was in these classes and studying the work and one of the papers I have to write was a class I took in the fall.  I just want to give up and take the "F"s but I also dont want it to show on my GPA.  But at the same time I am so sick of school.  I got sick at the begining of my Sophmore year and have had to take off 3.5 semesters.  I feel like I am never going to finish school and why should I bother with these finals. 
 
I know this might not make a lot of since but I just needed to vent.  Its just making me really stressed and as Im sure you all know stress and crohns dont go well together.
Diagnosed with Crohns Oct. '07.  Have had 9 abcess/ fistula surgeries.  Colostomy 20 March 2009.
 
Current Meds:
Imuran 200 mg                            Omeprazole 20mg                     Vitamin D 2000 i.u.          Remicade 10mg x8wks
Synthroid 112mg                          Lexapro 20mg                           Tylenol  50mg
Birth Control                                 Calcium  500mg                         Morphine 40mg
Sucralfate 1gm x4                         Multi Vit                                     Cyclizine   50mg
 


SydneyJo
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   Posted 8/13/2009 5:25 PM (GMT -7)   
(((Dreamer))) You've been through so much while still studying, I cant imagine how you have done this, so far. Just wanted to encourage you to keep going. Is there someone you know from your classes that could help inspire you to write? I know my Uni daughter has a few friends she confers with when there are tests and essays and that helps her.
Good luck and I hope you find the inspiration to write soon.
Jo

Laslow
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   Posted 8/14/2009 7:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Good vent. It will all work out in the end. Stress is a major problem with Crohns so take it easy.
Hope everything goes well

Jay

Irishmom4
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   Posted 8/14/2009 8:38 PM (GMT -7)   
I have a friend that hires a tutor when she has to write a difficult essay. She gives him the info and together they create the essay. Some people just have a knack for that kind of thing. I am definitely not one of them so I can't imagine how much stess this is causing. Good luck and I hope all goes well.

Ellizabeth
Dx'd with Crohns 1984 and polycystic kidney disease in 1996
Bowel Resection surgery 2006, Now on Asacol, folic acid, and Enalapril,
 


ivy6
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   Posted 8/14/2009 8:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Unfortunately, Dreamer, in these situations you have to be like a Nike ad and "just do it".

One thing that used to help me is to set myself a goal to write a certain number of words per day, at which point I could stop and do whatever I wanted to. It can be a lot easier to refine and polish an essay once the words are there on the screen... and it's mentally reassuring, too, because once you reach the word limit you know you can submit and at least have a shot at *passing*, and then any extra polishing can only boost your grade.

Remember, no words = no essay = no passing grade.

Hang in there,

Ivy.
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FallColors
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   Posted 8/15/2009 7:17 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Dreamer,

I agree with the others that this is a decision only you can make. When I was in college I got the flu in December. I missed all of my finals. I took them in Febuary and was disappointed to find that I didn't do well. Maybe you could do better. Honestly, I think it would be so hard to do well after being out of a class for so many months -- especially after having the serious health problems you have had. Just the brain fog alone would make it difficult. I am not saying you should give up, I am suggesting that the reality of the situation may mean it would be best to ask for a medical withdraw. I personnally am worried about the stress you are under, and then if you don't do well, I think you will feel even worse.

Taking a withdraw or even failing all of the classes won't define you as a peson. Things like this happen to other people too, and they pick up later and do fine. You may not return to that school in London but that is OK. But you will make your own way regardless. I sure you can find a school that will admit you even if you fail all of the classes due to a medical emergency. Once they hear how serious you were, how you had to fly home, and the surgeries, they will ignore the failed classes and let you start fresh. I am sure they have seen this type of thing before.

So it comes down to your decision. Try to do well now but have realistic expectations. Or choose the path of less stress and get a withdraw or let them fail the classes. What ever you choose, just remember that you are experiencing a rough patch now, but you will have many opportunities later.

Take care.
Diagnosed with Crohn's in early 2007.  Several peri-rectal abscesses and two fistulae with setons.  Allergic to Remicade and Humira.  Currently on 6MP, and vitamins D and B-12.


frogeleita
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Date Joined Jul 2009
Total Posts : 342
   Posted 8/15/2009 9:33 AM (GMT -7)   
I hear you..i really do..sometimes its all too much...just do what you can..but ease up on yourself..my little brother had a colostomy because he was born with hirshprungs's disease (i might have spelled that wrong..sorry) so i really saw the struggle that he went through..so i know its really tough..and a yeast infection is just the icing on the cake so to say! Take a break...take a deep breath and tell yourself that you are a fighter..and you can do this...good luck..i will be thinking of you!

FitzyK23
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   Posted 8/17/2009 5:44 PM (GMT -7)   
I think you will kick yourself for a really long time if you don't push through this last bit. Were you ever a runner? You know when you are running a long distance that voice in the back of your head keeps telling you to just stop and you say no, I am going to run at least to the next curve, and by the time you are there you realize you can run another lap? You need to channel that. This is your marathon. Once you get these written you are done and can put it behind you. If you do nothing, you fail. If you just do it, you might fail, but at least you tried. At least these are essays that you get to write from home and research and look up. You are not trying to memorize stuff or write it all down in an hour. I'm not saying it is easy. I'm just saying you should buckle down, get it done, and don't look back. I agree with Ivy, just get stuff on paper. Give yourself assignments. Tonight, no matter how lousy I feel, I will do the research. Tomorrow, I will outline. The next day, write the introduction and conclusion, etc. You can do this!!!!!!
27 Year old married female.  Graduated law school this year and waiting for results of the bar exam.  Start a new job sometime in September.  Diagnosed w/ CD 4 years ago, IBS for over 10 years before that, which was probably the CD. I am sort of lactose intollerant too but can handle anything cultured and do well w/ lactose pills and lactaid. For crohns I am currently on Pentasa 4 pills/4x day and hysociamine prn. I also have bad acid reflux and have been on PPI's since age 13. I have been through prilosec, prevacid, and nexium. Currently I am on Protonix in the morning and Zantac at night.  I take xanax prn for situational anxiety (aka no easy bathroom access). 

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