I haven't posted for a while. Background: Anal Abcess (large) Surgery - March 2009
Surgery to place 2 seton? drains - June 2009
Surgery to remove drains and check on abcess - October 2009
Currently it seems that the abcess has not reoccurred. However, I have a small fissure towards the back which will not heal. Surgeon does not think I have IBS or Crohn's but she has not done biopsies (that seems dumb to me - she had 3 opportunities - why not do biopsies while I'm under anesthesia just to check on other possible issues?)
So now she says let's do more surgery and "have a look". Easy for her to say - it takes me quite a while to recover from anesthesia, I am overweight, and have sleep apnea, and I'm am getting really tired of signing forms acknowledging that I can die from these "simple & quick" (her words) precedures.
My concerns: She says she cannot find any fistula but that "doesn't mean I don't have one".
She says that she can cut a muscle inside to help heal the fissure. Sounds ok until you read that the risk of incontinence is 15-36%!
It just seems like a cycle of surgery every 3-4 months until "something" works. Really? - How can I do that for years - I'm 58.
She said the 2nd surgery would probably take care of things, then the 3rd, and now she says the 4th will probably do it - Really? Seriously this time?
A part of me wants to get a second opinion, but I know the next surgeon would just say "don't know - have to put you under to have a look"
Bottom line - please help with advice - I don't know if it's better to live with the moderate pain and irritation of a small skin tear (and it is miserable, I'll admit that) or continue to risk my life (and incontinence) with repeated "minor" surgeries that may or may not make things better. What's worse is that I don't know for sure that I don't have a small cancer or IBS or Crohn's cause the stupid surgeon didn't check.........
Thank you for your help.