Parents -- how do you get your kids to eat well when you can't?

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inflamed
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   Posted 3/5/2010 2:25 PM (GMT -7)   
My daughter is too young to understand my different diet, but she's starting to notice that I won't eat the same things that I make for the rest of the family. I have a severe stricture, so veggies in nearly all forms are out, most fruit, whole grain, seeds, nuts ... I want my daughter to eat these things, but if she sees me with something else, she wants what I have. I don't want to wait til she's in bed either, she needs to know that I actually do eat food too.

I guess this is a two-parter:
(1) How do you manage making healthy meals for them (veggies, raw or cooked, whole grain, or whatever healthy thing you can't eat) while still having something to eat yourself?
(2) How can you teach healthy eating when you can't exactly do a balanced diet yourself to lead by example?
Mom to a healthy Pentasa baby and pregnant with #2. 5+ years remission, woo hoo!

Post Edited (inflamed) : 3/5/2010 2:47:10 PM (GMT-7)


Nanners
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   Posted 3/5/2010 2:45 PM (GMT -7)   
I have had Crohns since before my kids were born, but was still able to eat more things than I can now. But...there were still things I couldn't eat (i.e. really fibrous foods). I use to tell them to at least try it to see if they liked it. If they asked why I didn't eat that, I just told them Mommy has a sick stomach today, and that food will just make Mommy's tummy hurt if I ate it. I would tell them that I liked it (even if I didn't), but just couldn't eat it today. They have always somehow known that Mommy had a sick tummy alot. I will look forward to seeing what others have to say about this as my kids are grown now, and all eat very healthy now. Good luck!
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Zanne
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   Posted 3/5/2010 4:44 PM (GMT -7)   
I approached it basically the same way Nanners did. I always made the traditional American family dinner, meat, starch and veggie. My husband is not a big starch eater, so he would eat a small serving of starch and a healthy serving of the veggie, I would eat the meat and starch. My kids always knew that I couldn't always eat veggies, but on my good days I could eat some and I would. I always told them how much I love fruit and vegetables. Both my daughters are grown now and are good eaters, so it must have worked.
Suzanne

CD 20 years officially, 30 unofficially. 3 resections '93, '95 '97
Managing with strict low residue diet, keeping symptoms to a minimum. All test show small amount of ulceration, still have occasional blockages. But still have a great time with my 2 daughters and husband!


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spookyh
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   Posted 3/5/2010 5:09 PM (GMT -7)   
I have the opposite problem, trying to get my dad (who also has crohn's) to eat healthy wink. My mom and I are both healthy eaters, but we can't get anywhere with him. He will eat cooked spinach now, but that's about it.

If you cook a vegetable or fruit to death, and then puree it, maybe you could tolerate eating a little bit of it. Also, if you run it through a food mill, it will remove all the fiber and leave you with soft mush that's the consistency of baby food. I tried that with butternut squash, and was surprised at how smooth it came out.
34 years old, Crohn's disease for 15 of them
Resection of ileocecal valve on 09/22/09
Current Meds: LDN, Pentasa, Effexor XR, Zyrtec
Supplements: 3 kinds of Fish Oil, Multi-Vitamin, Vitamin D, Calcium, Magnesium, Coconut Oil, Garlic Oil, CoQ10, Enzymes
SCD since 12/01/08 - eating Stage 3 foods


debilitated
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   Posted 3/5/2010 5:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Im not a parent but the trick is... COLOR and SHINY, things like that. Make kids go WOW i want that.

You can also be straight up with them. Hit hurts Mommy, Or it Hurts daddy. Which is why. You can tell them You WISH you could eat that stuff and they are lucky they are able to. Tell them you are jealous. Tell them if you could you would.

Honesty is the best policy.

spookyh
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   Posted 3/5/2010 6:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh, I thought of something! How about employing some Sneaky Chef ideas (http://www.thesneakychef.com/). I know some parents that hide lots of vegetables in stuff the kids like. It's pretty easy to hide stuff in meatballs, meatloaf, chicken nuggets, pancakes, etc. My mom and I have hid avocado, squash, liver, (and bison) in meatloaf. The bison part comes from my dad refusing to eat it, even though it tastes the same as beef. What's really funny is that the last time we had hamburger patties (made entirely from ground bison), he commented on how good they were. My mom and I just smiled :-).
34 years old, Crohn's disease for 15 of them
Resection of ileocecal valve on 09/22/09
Current Meds: LDN, Pentasa, Effexor XR, Zyrtec
Supplements: 3 kinds of Fish Oil, Multi-Vitamin, Vitamin D, Calcium, Magnesium, Coconut Oil, Garlic Oil, CoQ10, Enzymes
SCD since 12/01/08 - eating Stage 3 foods


spookyh
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   Posted 3/6/2010 5:45 PM (GMT -7)   
I thought of one other thing...Bento Boxes! Time consuming, but a great way to interest your kid in foods they don't normally want to eat. Look at the slideshow at http://www.nytimes.com/slideshow/2009/09/08/dining/20090909-bento-slideshow_index.html . Slides 6, 8, 9, & 10 are my favorites. Also look at these pics at google images: http://images.google.com/images?q=bento+images&oe=utf-8&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&um=1&ie=UTF-8&ei=9PaSS4q9IJCGNsTWgJgN&sa=X&oi=image_result_group&ct=title&resnum=1&ved=0CBMQsAQwAA
34 years old, Crohn's disease for 15 of them
Resection of ileocecal valve on 09/22/09
Current Meds: LDN, Pentasa, Effexor XR, Zyrtec
Supplements: 3 kinds of Fish Oil, Multi-Vitamin, Vitamin D, Calcium, Magnesium, Coconut Oil, Garlic Oil, CoQ10, Enzymes
SCD since 12/01/08 - eating Stage 3 foods


inflamed
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   Posted 3/8/2010 8:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for the suggestions. She does eat them well now, I just worried about being a bad example. Guess kids will understand the "Mommy's tummy hurts" thing. I can see how saying I wish I could eat them would help a lot.

I worried that she might say that back about something she didn't like, just to avoid eating it (I know I would have). I would want to take that seriously because my husband has GI issues too and we want to be extra careful if she shows signs. I was worried that if she does that I wouldn't know if I should take her seriously or not. Probably just over thinking it.
Mom to a healthy Pentasa baby and pregnant with #2. 5+ years remission, woo hoo!


Peaceandhappiness
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   Posted 3/11/2010 3:30 PM (GMT -7)   
I don't know I'm all new to this. I'm used to eating nut bars, nuts, ground turkey, bison and lots of veggies and cooking with quinoa and things. But now my stomach issue, I've been letting the family sort of get their own dinner until I figure out how to cook/what to do. I'm gonna make chicken soup tonight so I can eat it too! I already avoid wheat/gluten/milk so it took awhile for me to figure out how to make our dinners, but once I got into the groove of it, we had some great meals and I love cooking! So this is a *challenge* but I will get back to my love for cooking! And hopefully influence my kids to eat well. My son can't have milk/cheese products either, so this is a challenge since he was used to string cheese and macaroni and stuff.
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Becky77
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   Posted 3/12/2010 8:50 PM (GMT -7)   
I don't have kids, but just wanted to thank you guys for bringing this up. I was talking to my sis (who doesn't have any GI issues) and was telling her I didn't know what I'd do once I have kids....there's always something to think about with this DD!
Becky

32 yr old female-dx with Crohn's in '97 after emergency resection and appendectomy, 2nd resection '05, Bilateral pulmonary emboli 10/09
Currently on Humira, Omeprazole, Effexor, Seroquel, Calcium, Vit D, Coumadin


Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/13/2010 6:59 AM (GMT -7)   
I have lived with this DD for many years as well and the approach Nanners n Zanne uses worked for daughter ...i do miss my veggies but telling her it hurts my tummy helped in the long run..i hv to say i do kind salivitate..sp..when she is sitting with a plate of raw veggies n a great dip she makes...i miss them but not enough to go thru the suffering..just happy she eats them...good luck..lyn
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