Wedding Planning ?!?

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tabicat
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   Posted 4/28/2010 5:40 AM (GMT -7)   
Over the weekend, I got engaged to my wonderful boyfriend of 2 years.
He knows about my Crohns and is very understanding.
 
I know planning a wedding can be very stressful in itself. But planning one and dealing with Crohns??? I'm reallllly nervous and stressing out about this!
 
Any advice? Anyone going through the same thing?
26 y/o female from Kentucky.
Diagnosed with Crohn's in 2004. Colon resection in 2004
Had symptoms since about 2002.
Not currently on any medication. On Pentasa and Entocort in the past, with no results.
 
*we're all okay until the day we're not. the surface shines, while the inside rots*
 


almost30inMI
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   Posted 4/28/2010 6:00 AM (GMT -7)   
Congratulations tabicat! What an exciting time. I was blessed to be feeling good during my wedding. I would recommend not stressing too much. Weddings are mostly for mothers, so I let her do most of the planning and just had her run the ideas by me. Luckly, I wasn't one of those girls that had dreamed of this day since childhood. Remember what is important - you and your love coming together and making a commitment. Don't stress the small stuff. Our photographer was late and we had to stall the beginning of the wedding for him. But no one will remember that. Good luck! and have fun
Diagnosed with Crohns in 1998. Been on and off pred, entocort, immuran, asacol. Currently on Remicade every 6 weeks along with Asacol. Began having joint pain 01/2010.


Bammer
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   Posted 4/28/2010 7:27 AM (GMT -7)   

I was diagnosed with Crohn's after a colonoscopy three months before my daughter's wedding. Came as a shock and initially they thought it was colon cancer. 

I was amazed how my daughter handled everything and it brought us closer together. Reminded us what was important in life and we did not sweat the small stuff. Everything went off beautifully (that was over two years ago) and she is now expecting her first child.

The only time I was ever on Prednisone and had moon face but also lots of energy. (Was somewhat hyper on steroids.)

Congratulations and good luck!


58 yr. old F dx. CD 07/07
Started weekly methotrexate injections 09/22/08.
Lap assisted sigmoidoscopy done May 11/2009


flowery
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   Posted 4/28/2010 6:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Bammer,
Interesting subject:) I do wedding flowers (a florist) and my daughter is getting married this July! I so here ya on the stress!!
I work with Brides and teach classes on Floral/Centerpieces n' stuff for Weddings and some Wedding planning. WHEW!  Just part part time now...cuz of Crohns:( I have a few suggestions for you!
Don't be engaged long..it's too much stress..I find Brides do better with a year engagement or less with the stress.  Also, just know that things ARE NOT going to be perfect and most importantly "let your loved ones help" !!! So many people want to come together and help it's natural...let them!!! Learn to delicate jobs...and let it go. Now, after learning of you dx... you do know what is important and it's to be with your loved one the rest ofyour life!
I tell Brides it's o.k. and actually nicer to have a smaller intimate Wedding. You can do more for your guests and it makes them feel special. I love small Wedding...then maybe for a honeymoon you can Hoop it up!!!
Don't buy your dress too early either. Especially with Crohns are belly's change alot.
 Pick a Personal Attendant..meet with them and share your wishes and let them do some of the talking..be it your mother or a close friend. Ask them if it is O.K. to put THEIR cell phone number on things...for decesions. I wouldn't recommend giving your cell out...just saying it will ring like crzy! and that is stressful.
Realize that the days around your Wedding are going to be long...schedule your days so you can get good rest. Possibly plan on an earlier Wedding say...morning or early afternoon...so your night doesn't get too late. Seriously, you will be exhausted! Wouldn't be good walking around all corps like..haha
Also, make sure that the meal or meals are catered for YOUR diet.
Congratulations..and good luck! try to just enjoy your time:)
Flowery
 "Get busy living or get busy dying"
Dx in 2005 with Crohns after a Hysterectomy. Re-section in 2006...came apart so got to do it again! Frequent Kidney stones and Shingles... a new present as of 08-09 Diabetes Type 2. Total of 12 surgerys.
Imran, Asacol, Colestid, Bentyl, Lamotil, Paxil, Nexium, Probiodicts, Vit D, Folic Acid, Lots of Potassium, Fish Oil, up to 6 Immodium a day. Oh, and one Giant Pill holder!
 
 
               
                        


tabicat
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   Posted 4/28/2010 7:46 PM (GMT -7)   
thank you all soo much for the suggestions!
I was thinking of maybe a year long engagement, but the more I think of it.. the courthouse is looking pretty good! lol :)

I'm usually a pretty low stress person, but I get anxious a lot. There are tons of family and friends already offering to help, though, so I am very grateful for that.

As for the meals being catered to my diet... I was thinking Chick-Fil-A! lol
26 y/o female from Kentucky.
Diagnosed with Crohn's in 2004. Colon resection in 2004
Had symptoms since about 2002.
Not currently on any medication. On Pentasa and Entocort in the past, with no results.
 
*we're all okay until the day we're not. the surface shines, while the inside rots*
 


Lady G
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   Posted 4/28/2010 8:28 PM (GMT -7)   
I had a year long engagement, maybe year and a half, worked wonders for me in being able to time out things, take my time on others and plan (though he lived a few provinces over til a month before the wedding so I really was planning it alone, and with parents).
I did mine in a hotel, so I stayed in the hotel room night before, has bathrooms and all right? then just left to get hair and makeup done, go back to hotel, get dressed. The ceremony was upstairs in a special conference room so I was always in the building, near bathrooms, not having to travel much. We didnt have a hugely long ceremony, maybe half hour. For pics and all we travelled but I had a breakfast probably 5 hours prior to ceremony, and didnt eat after, so I was okay. As someone with a small bladder I almost worried about that more then my crohns, but found the excitement kept me distracted enough. Then back to the hotel and to the same conference room switched over for dinner....so again, always near bathrooms and since we were spending the next two nights there that still cut down on travel and such. Found it helped take some stress away planning like that.
29 year old Crohns patient of 10 years. Currently on Imuran and Vitamin B12 injections.


flowery
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Total Posts : 440
   Posted 4/28/2010 10:30 PM (GMT -7)   
oooppss, meant tabicat not Bammer...sorrry!
Flowery
 "Get busy living or get busy dying"
Dx in 2005 with Crohns after a Hysterectomy. Re-section in 2006...came apart so got to do it again! Frequent Kidney stones and Shingles... a new present as of 08-09 Diabetes Type 2. Total of 12 surgerys.
Imran, Asacol, Colestid, Bentyl, Lamotil, Paxil, Nexium, Probiodicts, Vit D, Folic Acid, Lots of Potassium, Fish Oil, up to 6 Immodium a day. Oh, and one Giant Pill holder!
 
 
               
                        

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