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gumby44
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   Posted 5/8/2010 2:12 PM (GMT -7)   
My daughter has Prom tonight, and she and several of her friends were invited to a fancy dinner at her classmate's house prior to the Prom. The parents are invited to come over and take pictures before the dance. The hosting classmate happens to be the daughter of my GI. They live in a kazillion dollar house, and I'm sure everything will be ridiculously fancy. I know it is pretty silly, but I'm feeling anxious and intimidated about going over to their house. I think my GI is a great and very kind doc, but I'd rather leave my butt in his office. Also, since I'm just coming over to take pictures, do you think I can just show up in jeans? I tried talking my daughter into just bringing a camera and me skipping it, but she says all the other moms will be there, and she really wants me to come. In the scheme of life, this is a pretty silly problem, but I've been anxious about it all day! Send me some courage please!
51 yr. old female, diagnosed with Crohn's in small intestine and terminal ileum Sept-Oct. 2007. Also have IBS, and had Salmonella Dec. '07
currently taking Pentasa- 4 500mg pills per day, Metamucil and colace for constipation, probiotics


LanieG
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   Posted 5/8/2010 2:23 PM (GMT -7)   
I just saw your post and thought I'd give you some support since it's not specific to Crohn's (which I know nothing about)!  Go and take pictures.  Don't wear jeans if you already feel uncomfortable even going there.  Just wear some slacks and a nice top so you feel better about that.  If you see your GI, just smile and thank him for having the kids there.  Take your pictures, smile while you're there and take your cues from the other parents.  You'll be fine!
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Zanne
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   Posted 5/8/2010 3:08 PM (GMT -7)   
This may be too late, but I had a similar situation a few years ago. My daughter hung out with a very rich crowd in high school, so at prom time the pictures were at one of the nicest houses in town. I felt a bit like you do. I did gussy myself up a bit and put on a happy face. I didn't really know any of the other parents but I made an effort to be friendly and got through it for my daughter's sake. It only took about a half an hour and then I was home and I knew that she appreciated my efforts. You can do anything you set your mind to especially for your kids, and its only for a short time. Post how it goes, I'm sure it will be fine and all your worrying will be for nothing.
Suzanne

CD 20 years officially, 30 unofficially. 3 resections '93, '95 '97
Managing with strict low residue diet, keeping symptoms to a minimum. All test show small amount of ulceration, still have occasional blockages. But still have a great time with my 2 daughters and husband!


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ivy6
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   Posted 5/8/2010 3:14 PM (GMT -7)   
... And not many problems are dumb problems. I'd feel weird about going to my doctor's house too :-).

I agree with the person who suggested slacks: that way you're a bit dressier than usual, without looking as if you've gone overboard.

I hope the prom goes fabulously!
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DaveF
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   Posted 5/8/2010 3:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Go. Prom only happens a few times in your kids life. You will regret it if you do not. Remember, u and your daughter are what are importent and every one else, "to heck with em"
David
Diagnosed March 3rd 2010, Kapidex 60mg, Pentasa 3000 mg, D 50,000 (weekly), Probiotics, Probiotic Yougurt, SCD


CrohnieToo
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   Posted 5/8/2010 3:50 PM (GMT -7)   
There's no question. You HAVE to go or you will never forgive yourself. As to what to wear, what clothes do you feel most comfortable and self-confident in? THAT is what you should wear. I happen to feel most comfortable and self-confident in blue jeans and a long sleeve turtle neck and it would NOT bother me one iota to go to the Presidential innaugeration in blue jeans and long sleeve turtle neck. BUT - it may be that your daughter will be uncomfortable if you wear blue jeans so ask her what she would like you to wear and have her help you pick out YOUR clothes for that evening.
 
Keep in mind, the mucky-mucks put their jeans on the same as you do - one leg at a time.


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MAG102886
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   Posted 5/8/2010 4:31 PM (GMT -7)   
I typed out a big long message and I just deleted it.  You need to go, this is about your daughter, not you.  I agree with ask your daughter what you should wear.  You should NEVER feel intimidated or belittled by anyone.
Dianogsed with Crohns: At 16 years old. 23 years old now.
Surgeries:3 Bowel Resections, Gallbladder Removed, 3 Abscess Cleanings, Fistula Repair
Current Meds: Methorexate, Vitamin B12 (injections), Nexium.
Next Surgery: None.
 

gumby44
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   Posted 5/8/2010 5:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Gang....I went and all went well. My doc and his wife were gracious and friendly and I got fabulous pictures. I dragged my husband which gave me confidence. My daughter looked great. I'm so glad I went. Thanks for all of your support. I can be so insecure sometimes!!! I wore dark pants and a nice sweater and I fit right in.
51 yr. old female, diagnosed with Crohn's in small intestine and terminal ileum Sept-Oct. 2007. Also have IBS, and had Salmonella Dec. '07
currently taking Pentasa- 4 500mg pills per day, Metamucil and colace for constipation, probiotics


sammies
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   Posted 5/8/2010 5:17 PM (GMT -7)   
YAY Gumby YAY!! yeah
24+ years with Crohn's/colitis; fistulizing crohn's; ileostomy and proctocolectomy; TPN, propranolol and xanax; anemia of chronic disease


GDen
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   Posted 5/8/2010 5:40 PM (GMT -7)   
I woulda worn a hospital gown and made sure to use his bathroom.
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Grandpato2
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   Posted 5/8/2010 11:33 PM (GMT -7)   
tongue GDen gets the laugh of the day! tongue
Male, 54 years old with Crohn's since 15 years old, diagnosed at age 46. Terminal ileum resected 2002. 5 months of remission. Crohn's has now been active since early 2003. Had a gall bladder removed Nov. of 2009. Currently on Remicade every 8 weeks, Nexium, Iron, B-12 injection every 4 weeks,5-asa Asacol, Morphine Sulfate as needed for pain. Cymbalta for long term pain control. 5-asa Salofalk, Entecort, Imuran and Prednisone in the past.


DaveF
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   Posted 5/9/2010 3:43 PM (GMT -7)   
GOOD for You!!! and good for your daughter too :-)
Diagnosed March 3rd 2010, Kapidex 60mg, Pentasa 3000 mg, D 50,000 (weekly), Probiotics, Probiotic Yougurt, SCD

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