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Love_Art_Baby
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   Posted 7/31/2010 11:41 PM (GMT -7)   
I just had the most humiliating moment of my life....
 
I went to see my best friends band play tonight, I had an "emergency" and went to the bathroom. I tried to hold it as long as I could to wait till everyone left the bathroom, but people kept coming in, so I went, it wasn't really noisy or anything, but a bunch of drunk girls started laughing, and cracking jokes, kept on going at it for at least 5 minutes, laughing carrying on, oinking like a pig blah blah blah, after I was done, I sat there crying and waited until they left..then flushed and left.
I darted to the door and left crying.
 
have any of you guys had an experience like this?
what would you do? Do you say something?
 
I know in high school etc, I would have a loud BM or something and would just be embarrassed and waited till the bathroom was empty to leave so noone would know that it was me...but NEVER had something like this happen to me.
 
I have never been so humiliated in my entie life.... :( cry
23 y/o
Diagnosed in 2007
Misdiagnosed w/ Lactose Intolerance @ 11 y/o
Misdiagnosed w/ IBS @ 16 y/o
3 hospital stays in the last 6 months
been on Asacol, Pentassa, Remicaide, Humira, Prednisone on and off (I think it's the devil) and lost more random things.
Right now 6MP ,Monthly B-12,Fish Oil, about to start Cimzia, just went off prednisone AGAIN, just stopped Humira
 
Married with a 3 y/o
~Want to get this back in control so I can try for another baby! :)

chocholic
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   Posted 8/1/2010 5:23 AM (GMT -7)   
LAB have a massive hug ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

People can be really rude and incondsiderate. I know i was before i was diagnosed with crohns. One thing to remember is these girls were drunk. That probably exacerbated their behaviour. I'm not saying forgive and forget but try to hold on to that. I have been in your shoes many times. The worse was when i was at uni. Think rich spoilt princesses and then add in loud noisy BM's!! They were not good times! Still one thing i used to notice was no matter what they did in the loo, they NEVER washed their hands! Bleurgh! Sorry i'm wandering off topic.

Huni, you need to remember that you are strong, you dont need to tackle them about it, cos in all likelyhood they still wouldnt get it especially if they were drunk. Hang on to the fact that your stronger than them.
Dx - Crohn's (2006), Depression (2010)
Currently - Humira fornightly, iron infusion weekly, B12 3 monthly, prenatal vits+minerals, 15mg prednisolone, calcium supplement, mirtazapine
Tried - aza, pentasa, questran, infliximab
No crohns' surgeries to date, Episcleritis for 3 weeks x 2, pains in hands, wrists, hips, lower back, knees and ankles

Allergic to Infliximab
Was at uni, but have paused the course to try to figure out my health!

Wolfie40
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   Posted 8/1/2010 5:51 AM (GMT -7)   
No worries, your better then them.
Diagnosed with Crohns in 2001
First and hopefully last Ileocecectomy 2/18/2009

Medications:Humira,  Asacol, FolicAcid,  Multivitamin, 1000mg Calcium, Vitamin D, Probiotics, Pepcid Complete, Questran,  Monthly B-12 injections.

Living a Great life with my Wife and my two Chocolate Labs
Hunter & Hailey.
I love them dearly.

MaryS
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   Posted 8/1/2010 5:58 AM (GMT -7)   
Having a bathroom emergency is a fact of life whether an IBDer or not! Granted a little tougher in a public setting with an immature, drunk audience. You are head and shoulders above those girls in compassion. One of these days, if they haven't already, they will have their own bathroom emergency in one way shape or form and maybe they will think next time before laughing.

Had you been a Guy in a Men's Room it probably would not have happened even though Men like bathroom humor with the best of them.

One small thing to be grateful for is that you made it to the bathroom in time. Have read too many stories where some have not.

{{{Hugs}}}
Mum of an IBDer since 1999. Daughter diagnosed at age 17 with Crohns/Colitis. This disease s*cks!!

CrohnieToo
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   Posted 8/1/2010 6:51 AM (GMT -7)   
Lab, consider the source: a bunch of drunks. Who gives a rat's rear about anything a drunk has to say?
My computer says I need to upgrade my brain to be compatible with its new software.

Nanners
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   Posted 8/1/2010 7:39 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry that happened to you, (((BIG HUGS))). I have had this darn disease for nearly 35 years and I still have a hard time going if there is another person in the bathroom.

After my recent kidney surgery I had explosive d alot. They had to put a portable potty next to my bed because sometimes I coulndn't make it all the way to the bathroom. A woman in the next bed had her husband visiting with her and one time I had to use the potty chair, as I couldn't wait. I passed alot of watery stool followed by alot gas. I just had to put my pride aside as there really nothing else I could do. I just politely apologized. But I was still embarrassed because later that evening I heard them asking to be moved. I wish people could understand that some folks are ill and have no control of their bowels. So sorry you had that experience.

Hugs
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Crohn's Disease for over 34 years. Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, Calcium, Vit D, and Xanax prn. Resections in 2002 & 2005. Also diagnosed w/ Fibromyalgia, Osteoarthritis, & Anxiety. Currently my Crohns is in remission, but my joints are going crazy!
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FunGuy
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   Posted 8/1/2010 7:58 AM (GMT -7)   
You don't know them? They don't know you? It never happened.

Frankly IF they meant it in the worst way then they need to be ashamed not you. Most folks find flatulence kind of funny and it may have been simply that.

We are such a hung up species. It is a natural process and we all do it.
 

Cyborg Ninja
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   Posted 8/1/2010 9:21 AM (GMT -7)   
*hugs* Everybody else had good words to say. I'm a 25 y/o girl and I just want to remind you that people laugh at embarrassing stuff like that all the time. If they knew you, they'd be laughing with you.
Current DX: Graves' disease, Crohn's disease, gallstones, scoliosis, syringomyelia

psygirl6
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   Posted 8/1/2010 11:41 AM (GMT -7)   
I have embarrassing bathroom issues all the time. I go to college where there are the immature kids. I have accidents because of diarrhea and have to wear diapers, especially at school. I always try to sit away from the other students, especially when I could be made fun of. The worst part about the bathroom trips, for me, is only when I have to change do I get embarrassed because I do not want anyone seeing that I have to change a diaper and get made fun of. As for actually using the bathroom, well there are other girls with worse problems. As for them girls that made fun of you, well if they were that drunk, chances are that they probably went home and had accidents in their beds from being so drunk. I figure that this would at least make you feel better. Trust me, I have been there.
Asperger's Syndrome
Rectal prolapse surgery Dec. 2006
total colectomy with ileo-rectal anamastosis for slow transit constipation: Aug 7, 2008
Numerous food intolerance:gluten,lactose,msg,wheat,and fructose intolerance
Now struggling with worse stomach, diarrhea issues, which are now uncontrollable.

sr5599
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   Posted 8/1/2010 12:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Yep, been there too. I didn't make it to the bathroom while at the mall with my daughter. Had to change... The younger (18?) girls were talking on and on about the smell and they were not even drunk, just rude and ignorant.

Another time I had really bad d, but tried to go for a run (I thought I was all emptied out and safe!). I had D running down my legs on a *busy* street. I found my way into a garbage dumpster gated space, used my socks to clean up then threw those away (obviously).

Then there was last week... Thankfully nobody was in the bathroom with me (at work) but I also know this is what prompted them to buy new scents for the ladies room! I didn't make it, had to throw away my underwear, got poop on the floor and all over the toilet. I found cleaner and cleaned it all up, went to my car and changed my clothes.

This is a horribly humiliating disease. No doubt about that! I just try to tell myself that nobody really has to know about these issues. The girls that laughed at me were people I don't know. Most of the time I can get away without others knowing I've had a "crohn's moment"... It's the lingering smell that is the worst of it. BTW - I went out and got a small, travel size bottle of Fabreeze to keep in my purse. This way I will not be caught like that again. I just spray it into the bowl a few times as I'm going. it seemed to do an alright job - at least it helped.

Hang in there!!!! You are not alone... Just stay strong!
1 fistula with two tracts, crohn's colitis, limited to large intestine
Compounded budesonide 3mg/daily, Cimzia. Dx Osteoporosis 10/08 started Forteo 1/27/09
Failed every other drug and about to prepare for ostomy surgery... In the process of gathering info and meeting with ET nurses.

MMMNAVY
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   Posted 8/1/2010 2:38 PM (GMT -7)   
(((((((((((((LAB))))))))))))))))))I think we have all been there at one time or another.  All I usually due is give fair warning if I have time.  Usually I just hope and pray that people do not see if I have not made it to the restroom in time.
Sometimes I have said something about "hey what part of everyone poops did you not understand?"
 
P.S. I do carry one of the purse size lysol's that you can get.
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Post Edited (MMMNAVY) : 8/1/2010 3:52:02 PM (GMT-6)


angela42
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   Posted 8/1/2010 9:12 PM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry this happened.

Only immature drunks think that a bathroom isn't for pooping.

I know there are no glamorous diseases, but Crohns can be soooo gross at times. The people who know you and love you don't care, the rest don't matter.
Diagnosed at 13, am now 38. Bowel resection at 17 and two additional surgeries following bowel obstructions.  Weekly shot of Humira.
Gave birth to a beautiful baby boy on 9-21-2005 after being on Remicade.

Joie1
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   Posted 8/2/2010 12:54 AM (GMT -7)   
~hugs hugs hugs!!!~

I'll repeat what everyone's said, "At least you MADE it TO the bathroom." When I had to share a room the first time I was hospitalized this year, this sweet old lady had a portapotty next to her since she couldn't walk to the bathroom that was on my side of the room. I ignored what she did on her potty and she ignored the smell that wafted from the bathroom after I had to go to the bathroom.

Still and all, I have an ENORMOUS problem with any kind of public bathroom. I even have problems with the employee bathrooms at my work. The smell can waft out after you or you can spray this overly scented disinfectant that they leave in the employee restrooms which tells everyone exactly the same thing as the stinky smell.

Drunk folks are stupid. They might've been nicer about it if they'd been by themselves or sober. Just try to keep compassion should you encounter the same situation.
29/f
Allergies and Asthma my whole life: Benadryl
Depression and PTSD after surgeries and illness of 2003 (turned out to be Crohns)
Crohns Dx'd: February 2008: Pentasa, Hyoscyamine
Fibromyalgia Dx'd: July 21, 2009: Lyrica, Cymbalta, Hydrocodone, Prenatal Vitamin

Stef17
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   Posted 8/2/2010 8:18 AM (GMT -7)   
((((HUGS)))) Like everyone else said - they were drunk so - who gives a rat's patoot about them. That being said... people can be horribly cruel. You were in a BATHROOM for heaven's sakes! What do people think happens in there??? Not everyone is there to powder their noses. This was humiliating to you, but with some distance from it and a little perspective you will recover. Maybe next time (let's hope there isn't one) you will even have the nerve to let one rip right out loud!!! :) The truth is - you DID make it to the bathroom and that is a MIRACLE! My most humiliating experience happened when I didn't make it and I messed myself. It was horrible. I really feel for you, but you survived it. Hugs from all of us and don't sweat the drunk girls. They won't remember any of it and you should put it out of your head too.

Becoming undone
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   Posted 8/2/2010 10:01 AM (GMT -7)   
this disease can really bite! I am sorry and can only offer (((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))),
come and vent all you like...I probably would have been in tears too...I have a "thing" about public restrooms anyway (not so good for a crohnnie)...I know in the dorms (before CD really flared) I waited until no-one else was in the restroom (our dorms had shared bathrooms) before I went (2)...not to mention I always wanted to be the first one after the cleaning crew was there...
I hope you never have to see those rude (insert curse word here)_______ again...
I know everyone gave you great advice...I just also know that it still hurts...
"The earth laughs in flowers"

Post Edited (Becoming undone) : 8/2/2010 1:23:34 PM (GMT-6)


misspriss82
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   Posted 8/2/2010 10:40 AM (GMT -7)   
oh we've allll been there!! 
 
I once had to run into a bank on a busy street while shopping and barely made it in time to the bathroom.  Then a little kid and her mom came in and the small child went ON AND ON about the "smell in the potty".  I was soo embarrassed!
 
Then at work one day, (I work in a spa), I went to the private bathroom and felt some what comfortable being able to have D in there without anyone hearing.  Then? I flushed and it just kept rising instead of going down!!!  I tried to plunge it, but after like 20 minutes of plunging, it still wouldn't go down, so I had to tell my boss, who then called someone to take care of it. We've had problems with that toilet clogging for years.  It was my nightmare!!!
28y/o F, diagnosed with Crohn's Disease at 25 y/o , 2000 units of Vitamin D , 1500 Units of Calcium
60mg of 6-MP once daily since Feb. 2010
 
 

Matthew
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   Posted 8/2/2010 4:21 PM (GMT -7)   
Frankly, in my case, had they'd been sober, any sane person would run for it! LOL

Matthew
BTW. They were just rude drunks, who gives a rat's behind what they said?

Bostongrl
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   Posted 8/2/2010 5:03 PM (GMT -7)   
That is so awful! It's their loss for being so immature in their life and missing out on the good stuff. They are not worth the stress. But I know it sucks. I know it is the worst when it happens and like everyone is saying here-YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

When I'm "bad" and go for a run, I bring a ziplock bag with toilet paper in it now because a couple of times I had to stop and find the most secluded spot I could to squat by a tree. Not D (thanks goodness!!) but an uncontrollable BM. I run with my dog in a path that is somewhat wooded--but right on a main street. I was really lucky that no one ran by while I was squatting!

Stay strong - we are with you! I know it is the REAL stuff that reminds you that you have the disease and it's hard. It brought me to tears too but I just go through the process.. it's all a part of the process.

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diagnosed with Crohns May 31 2007 -- managing with diet

Love_Art_Baby
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   Posted 8/2/2010 6:20 PM (GMT -7)   
It just sucked, again another remind that I have this disease...
I just cannot believe how these girls acted, drunk or not, was awful. Just to stand there my my bathroom stall mocking me and laughing, trying to look under the stall etc.
I have had MANY accidents where i've had to stop and waddle into the nearest Mcdonalds, but no one ever said anything, or laughed and I never felt like I did that night.
Just sucks...period...
:(
I cannot understand why on earth those girls felt it was ok to do that, or that it was an awesome idea...to Bully someone..
:(
23 y/o
Diagnosed in 2007
Misdiagnosed w/ Lactose Intolerance @ 11 y/o
Misdiagnosed w/ IBS @ 16 y/o
3 hospital stays in the last 6 months
been on Asacol, Pentassa, Remicaide, Humira, Prednisone on and off (I think it's the devil) and lost more random things.
Right now 6MP ,Monthly B-12,Fish Oil, about to start Cimzia, just went off prednisone AGAIN, just stopped Humira
 
Married with a 3 y/o
~Want to get this back in control so I can try for another baby! :)

ivy6
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   Posted 8/2/2010 6:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Nope, it's not ok. It's never ok.

Cruel as it sounds, all we can cope is that one day life (or karma, or consequences) will catch up with them and they'll learn, first-hand, how soul-destroying it can be to be mocked like that.

It's horrible, I know, but we CAN'T let this sort of treatment defeat us. The alternative is to stay at home and never go out, and that would be terrible and incredibly unhealthy.

Huge hugs,

Ivy.
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Love_Art_Baby
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   Posted 8/2/2010 6:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Ivy
Yeah I know, the thing that sucks is that I probably haven't gone out in probably about a year or so, and the first time I do, this happens.
I'm going to stay home a little longer :(
23 y/o
Diagnosed in 2007
Misdiagnosed w/ Lactose Intolerance @ 11 y/o
Misdiagnosed w/ IBS @ 16 y/o
3 hospital stays in the last 6 months
been on Asacol, Pentassa, Remicaide, Humira, Prednisone on and off (I think it's the devil) and lost more random things.
Right now 6MP ,Monthly B-12,Fish Oil, about to start Cimzia, just went off prednisone AGAIN, just stopped Humira
 
Married with a 3 y/o
~Want to get this back in control so I can try for another baby! :)

ivy6
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   Posted 8/2/2010 6:52 PM (GMT -7)   
:-(

Terrible when brave first steps backfire, isn't it?

But if this was your first time out, maybe you did too much? What about a little walk to the end of the street, instead, or a quick visit to an art gallery or something like that, so you know you don't have to stay out too long, and that a toilet will be nearby (either in your house or the gallery).

An evening concert is big and, I'm guessing, a few hours long?
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Love_Art_Baby
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   Posted 8/2/2010 6:57 PM (GMT -7)   
yeah, It lasted a few hours. I just started working again, so that's one step, but going out it's like another thing all together.
23 y/o
Diagnosed in 2007
Misdiagnosed w/ Lactose Intolerance @ 11 y/o
Misdiagnosed w/ IBS @ 16 y/o
3 hospital stays in the last 6 months
been on Asacol, Pentassa, Remicaide, Humira, Prednisone on and off (I think it's the devil) and lost more random things.
Right now 6MP ,Monthly B-12,Fish Oil, about to start Cimzia, just went off prednisone AGAIN, just stopped Humira
 
Married with a 3 y/o
~Want to get this back in control so I can try for another baby! :)

ski bum
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   Posted 8/2/2010 7:22 PM (GMT -7)   
I feel your pain! I have always disliked using public restrooms, waaay before I ever even knew what crohn's disease was. I do just about anything to make it to my bathroom for my business or use a private bathroom. about a month after my surgery, I went to my niece's bridal shower. The bathroom was not private at all. I'm sitting on the toilet, flushing and using Just a Drop like crazy. A little girl said something about it smelling in there. The mom, bless her heart, said "That's what bathroom are for." And you know what? She's right. But still, I hate using public restrooms!
50 y/o F. CD dx'd Aug 05. Initially on Pentasa, then Imuran 125 mg. Started Humira (very reluctantly) on 10/24/07. Ileocolectomy 4/08. Back on Pentasa as maintenance.

Roni
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   Posted 8/2/2010 8:16 PM (GMT -7)   
LoveArtBaby, try flushing whenever the diarrhea and flatulence is coming out, and keep flushing if you want to get rid of the noise and stink. Also, you can get Just A Drop as somebody else mentioned. You put a drop or two in the toilet and it totally wipes out the stink!
It's great for public places. I always keep mine in my purse.
Otherwise, I also suggest you use the handicap bathroom because it is more private.

Sorry you had a bad experience. Try to laugh it off. You'll probably never see them again anyway. ;-)
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