wow....now i know i am gonna wait longer for my reversal if i can help it. maybe i should have had the whole colon and rectum out instead of just the temp. ileostomy. i am so scared about returning back to "normal"
I find that working with this disease is my own saving grace, when i don't work, I get down on myself. But, sometimes you can't do it no matter what.
Good luck, and yes, if you have a loving wife, talk to her openly and earnestly. How is your relationship with your old boss, can you trust him to speak frankly?