crohn's makes you special

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mrs.atohame
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   Posted 9/2/2007 9:46 AM (GMT -6)   

CD makes you special

Hello again; I wish that everyone who is reading this topic is healthy and well.

In one of the researches which research on the needs of crohn's patients, I read this statement for one of cases:" IBD doesn't have to be a negative , sometimes you can turn it into a positive , like having a more laidback point of view of life" . I stopped a long time on this statement and tried to make a relationship between it and what I am living now as a patient of Crohn's Desease  .  However, I realized that I think I had got a new point of view for my former life and presenting life, also I had my specific sight for my future life. I was always comparing my achievements with my peers, and try to go on and maintain my studying level which is high once, to be honest, that is because I like to be special, or to be higher than others on my study, who doesn't!? but now, I don't feel that I have to make this comparative because what I am doing now , however it is a small thing , I can define it as an achievement which I can feel and enjoy it, all of that because while I am doing it I am enjoying a good health.

 

Also when I am findout that my abilities are equal to others, it is in the fact a superiority because they are healthy and they don't have my fears or they are not living with the circumstances  which I live with.

 

I had realized all that recently when one of my friends told me that if she was me she wouldn't handle it for even a minute and she would leave the college..( that's because I failed on my first semester in my college as a result of my illness) but I am still in the same college , struggling  and handling my stuff to not allow for myself get nervous, other wise it will effect on my health.

 

What I am feeling now is exactly what I read once that " It gives you a drive to do things and succeed".

 

On the other hand one of the advantages which I learnt is that " you really get to know who your friends are".

 

Do you feel like me? Is it true?

 


pb4
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   Posted 9/2/2007 11:30 AM (GMT -6)   
I know many crohnies feel they are over-achievers and that may be true but of course not for every single crohnie (or IBDer in general)...there are also those who feel that they may as well have gotten sick and be unable to work because they were under-achievers anyway...

What's important is that people come to terms with their illness and not let it hold them back from pursuing whatever in life they wish....as hard as that can often be with many limitations we face as long as each of us feels we're doing the best we can under the circumstances then at least that's better then being totally controlled by this DD.

:)
My bum is broken....there's a big crack down the middle of it!  LOL  :)


belleenstein
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   Posted 9/2/2007 3:40 PM (GMT -6)   
Every life experience brings with it responsibility. We do not choose to get crohns, but we do get to choose how we live with our disease. There is no one right or wrong way, any more than there is one right or wrong way to parent a child or any right or wrong way to sustain a relationship.

But there are paths that will lead you towards health -- physical, emotional and spiritual. I'm finally trying to live in the real world with my disease, not in the world of denial.

This disease has taught me a lot about myself. For that I am grateful.
Belleenstein:

30+ years living with Crohn's.


gardenlady
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   Posted 9/2/2007 4:40 PM (GMT -6)   
I get what you're saying. Totally.

When I was in various music departments and training to be a violinist, I learned VERY hard not to compare myself to others. It's great to be motivated, and to work hard, but you can only compare you to you. I was playing Lalo's Symphonie Espagnole, and I had to play it right after another person -- who I considered to be much better than myself -- had to play it. Not only was the judge going to hear it twice in a row, but he was going to hear the best version first -- man did I think I was dead in teh water. Big time. But afterwards, not only did I get the highest marks, but people were telling me that they liked both of our performances equally; where they felt hers was weak mine was stronger and vice versa.

Doesn't keep me from being a total over achiever. I'm afraid that will never change.

But you made another good point. Crohn's CAN be a positive, even though I would never have believed that a few years ago. My perspective on life has definitely changed. When Kerry and I run into problems, remembering how rough things were when I was on TPN and in the hospital and all that is sort of a reality check. Things have, indeed, been worse. We can figure whatever problem is in front of us out. And it helps me take a long view of things. Yeah, the phone got shut off. In a few years will we even remember? Will it be important in the grand scheme of our lives? Probably not. So you deal wtih things as you can and do your best, and keep your perspective about the problems you run into in life.

Back to things that never change. Crohn's also made me accept myself for who and what I am. Between my first and second flares, I spent a lot of time stressing and worrying over how to control my temper and anxiety and that very driven-ness that seem to be inherent to my nature. During the second flare, I realized that all the effort I put into changing WHO I am was probably a mistake. Instead, I needed to learn how to handle those tendencies and channel them in a positive way.
"Let me light my lamp,"
Says the star,
"And never debate
If it will help to remove the darkness."
-- Indian poet, Rabindranath Tagore


gardenlady
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   Posted 9/2/2007 4:44 PM (GMT -6)   
PS: not that there are some days when I would like to be "not so darn special." LOL.

Crohn's very specifically instilled in me a need to not waste my life on the petty things. After my second flare, it took me two years to find work, but that was because I knew that I needed to find work that was positive and worth bringing home, since I'm incapable of leaving work at the door. I either throw myself at things with both feet, or not at all. So working at Wendy's again, was OUT -- there's no sense in taking the stress of that job home with me. Working with AmeriCorps on the other hand, I was doing good things, reaching out to a community that needed help, learning all sorts of cool geology stuff...I was never bored, even if the pay sucked, and the job itself was the outlet for all that energy and drive that I have.

Now that my contract with AmeriCorps is up, I'm working to find something that will be similarly positive to do with my life -- aside from getting into law school.
"Let me light my lamp,"
Says the star,
"And never debate
If it will help to remove the darkness."
-- Indian poet, Rabindranath Tagore


mrs.atohame
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   Posted 9/5/2007 3:16 AM (GMT -6)   
hello everyone tongue
pb4:
(What's important is that people come to terms with their illness and not let it hold them back from pursuing whatever in life they wish)
yes that's true..but with any disease the (under-achievers) in fact are (achievers) , I think! eyes
(This disease has taught me a lot about myself. For that I am grateful.)
ofcourse..
(Every life experience brings with it responsibility. We do not choose to get crohns, but we do get to choose how we live with our disease)
this is what I mean by an achievement: thinking positive smurf
( I learned VERY hard not to compare myself to others.)
oh.. yes, it's really hard.. confused ...I really got exciting with your experience..
 
thankyou for sharing me your ideas and feelings. yeah

mmckenna
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   Posted 9/5/2007 10:41 AM (GMT -6)   
"That which does not kill you, makes you stronger".

Amen, I understand 100% and agree.

I was lucky enough to discover that pretty quick. The fact that I made it through basic training and a year and a half in the service really made me open my eyes. I had made it that far with this disease, and I sure as heck wasn't going to give up just because a doctor diagnosed it.

It does make you stronger, and it continues to do so until you die, or decide to give up.
Matthew McKenna,

"I'm just along for the ride."

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