thanks guys. im taking the benefiber and the doc said its ok. i ended up getting glycerin suppositories to get things moving. until im back on a "schedule" thats what im gonna do. i hope upping the fiber, the water and eating a little bit more fibrous foods (i have a stricture, its 10 cm but its not too skinny so if im careful i can eat a bit as long as i eat that kind of stuff with a soulable fiber like bread or pasta) will work. at least somtimes im feeling like i have to go. i still am not on my own but , at least i am feeling it now.
anyhow thanks you guys for your help i really appreciate it
oh yeah and thanks for reading all the details and not getting grossed out. i knew i could count on my chronies for this poop talk. who else could i go to :)