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Magicfun
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Date Joined Dec 2007
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   Posted 12/29/2007 4:03 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi, I just registered here tonight. My name is Emily and I'm 16 years old. I've suffered from depression for the past two years, and it only seems to be getting worse. I don't have very many friends and my relationship with my parents can be pretty disconnected at times. When I'm not at school, I isolate myself in my room. I feel so incredibly hopeless and defeated. I've had low self-esteem as far back as I can remember but it's plummeted to an all-time low recently. I feel all alone in the world and it's killing me, little by little. I'm so sad. If anyone has any uplifting words to spare, I need them now, please. I would really appreciate it as I'm just in such a desperate, lonely spot right now. sad

getting by
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Date Joined Sep 2007
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   Posted 12/29/2007 4:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Emily,

I am here to listen. You have to realize that you are a hu,am being and are worthy of love just like everybody else.

You say that you feel hopeless and defeated. Do you want to talk about why you feel that way? Because believe me you are not hopeless and you are not defeated. You just have to figure out what makes you feel that way.

Do you go to counseling? It sounds like you may be depressed. Do you always stay in your room when you are not at school? It doesn't matter if you don't have a lot of friends, but it is nice to have some. I never had a lot of friends, mostly aquaintences (sp). But the friends I have made in life were good friends.

Why don't you write more and we can see if we can sort some of the stuff that is bothering you out and see if we can't get some answers.

I will be here for a while.

hugs,

getting by
fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, clinically depressed and allergies


stkitt
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   Posted 12/29/2007 4:53 PM (GMT -7)   

Emily

Welcome to Healing Well and we are very happy you found us. 16 is a tough age, some days you feel like a kid and other days  an adult.  You have lots going on in school and your looking ahead to what you may choose as a career.

It seems to me that girls have an even tougher time then the guys as everything is changing so fast for you.  Making friends is difficult. One day they like you the next day they don't, it is a time when you are still learning how to deal with your feelings toward your parents, friends and teachers.

I know how you feel, your sitting there thinking you are a loser and who would want to be your friend?  Guess what, there are lots of people out there that will be your friend and enjoy getting to know you.  Just reach out and let us try to help you.

I would like to see you sit down with your parents or Mom and tell them how you feel right now.  I agree a bit of counseling would be a wise choice for you.  It will teach you skills on how to choose friends and how to be a good friend.  First however, you have to learn to love you.  You are a good person and very deserving of happiness so lets get you started on the journey of losing this depression that is hanging over you. 

I think if you would, writing here what is going on would be helpful for you. We do not judge but we do support.

Gentle Hugs to you

Kitt


 
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TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 12/29/2007 6:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Wow.....thats almost the same thing I posted 5 months ago....
 
Hello Emily,
 
I am very glad you found this place....I have so much more to say...I am just shocked!
 
Let me explain a bit to you...my is Christi, I am also 16. I came here in July. I sounded just like you do. I wrote almost that thing in my first post. Since then, I have found a family here. I have been way way down....but right now I am more up. I hope that I can help you.
 
I was/ and still am the same as you described. You sound exactly like me! yeah Wow...someone here my own age going through the same thing.....tear....I dont know what to say...
 
I really hope I can help you out. I have depression and it started about 2 years ago also. Mine hit rock bottom this summer. Luckily, I found this place and I got some of the support I needed. I have a 'group' of friends at school, but I really only talk to one friend. I have social phobia, so I really dont like being around people. Which makes school even harder! As if it isnt hard enough already! As for my parents....we are very disconnected. I had a hard trying to tell them about my feelings, and unfortunatly, they rejected them. I got much worse, and they didnt even know it...I thought...goh how could they miss this....But, I have gotten better on my own.
 
I do the same thing as you also, when I am not at school.....I am in my room. I go out when I get thristy! And I actually want to leave my room, but I find that difficult. I dont like to go places because of the social phobia. Plus, I have panic and anxiety attacks...I am always afraid something will happen. I hate being in places with a bunch of people. Its horrible for me. I think I a bit of agoraphobia.... eyes
 
Goh, I keep looking back at your post and you are so much like me! I have felt everything you wrote. And let me tell you, it can be better. And I want to help you as much as possible, because I was just there....and I am still struggling with it, but I am so much better than I was.
 
If you'd like, you can email me. Just go to my profile. Feel free to connect me anytime. I will do my best. And if you have AOL you can get my screename! I am always on! Feel free to! Anything!
 
Keep posting. Tell us a bit more if you would like. And we will try to help you. But, we are always here to listen and we are very supportive. Feel free to post whenever you need to! I am so glad you found this place! I promise it can be better! An dI hope you are able to get better! It takes time and patience....I know how hard it is....but it is so very worth it!
 
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Dx: Tendonitis(L knee 02'), Chondromalacia Patella(R knee 02'), Fibromyalgia (07'), Plantar Fascitis(L foot Nov.04' erased with surgery July 05')
Not Dx: Depression, Anxiety/Panic Attacks, Social Phobia, Mild OCD

Meds tried: all the OTC stuff, Mobic, and Lyrica.
"Healing is an energy phenomenon. Hope is another word for Healing.
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"If I talk and laugh too loud...its because I am trying to forget that I am sad."
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
"Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."


Magicfun
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Date Joined Dec 2007
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   Posted 12/29/2007 6:55 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi getting by, Kitt, and Christi! It's a pleasure to meet you all. Thanks so much for your words of encouragement and support. I was feeling really low at the time and am now feeling in a bit better of spirits. :-)
 
Getting by, no, I'm currently not in counseling, although that's something I've considered. Maybe I'll have a discussion with my parents and see if that could be arranged in the future. Not sure if they'll listen or even care, but it's worth a shot. My low self-esteem stems largely from the fact that I have a skin condition called rosacea. It's mild but it still brings me down often. It's hard for me to look people in the eye because I always assume that they're thinking negative things about me. Logically, I know they are not, but emotionally, I can't remove the thought from my head. sad Thanks very much for your supportive words.
 
Kitt, thanks for the support. You're right, 16 is a tough age. Lots of school and social stressors going on. I think I liked being 12 better. tongue And, you were spot on when you said that making friends is difficult, especially for those of us who suffer from low self-esteem. sad  Thanks again for your words, it is much appreciated. It is so nice to have an understanding ear when feeling down.
 
Christi, wow...I'm relieved to hear (but, sad, too) that someone else can really relate to my feelings. :-) And, we're the same age. That's really cool. Thank you for sharing your story. You're not alone in dealing with the social issues...I have them too. I'm not sure if it's social phobia or not, but I'm a very shy and quiet person. Making friends is difficult for me, but I do have one friend that I'm quite close with. It truly does help to know someone out there has relatable experiences to those of my own. I am very glad to hear that you have gotten better. That gives me hope that maybe, I will too. I will add you to my AOL buddy list...Maybe we could help each other out. :-)   
 
 
Thanks, again, everyone. The support truly means a lot to me.

TeNNiSd0C09
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Date Joined Jul 2007
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   Posted 12/29/2007 7:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Its a pleasure to meet you as well.

I went to my school counselor. My parents wouldnt listen to me when I tried talking to them. I was really afraid also. I wasnt sure how to express my feelings. But, I wrote a letter to my school counselor and gave it to her. Then, we talked about it. Talking to her did help. I still go to her usually once a week. She helps. But, talking to your parents is a very good idea. Hopefully, they will be more understanding than mine. My mom told me it was just a phase and it would 'probably' go away...boy was she wrong!

I know exactly what rosacea is. I dont have it, but my aunt does. She has struggled with it for some time. I know it really affects your self esteem. I am always afradi people are staring at me or thinking negative thoughts.

16 is very hard. Or has been for me! School is crazy! I dont like being around people and there are alot of people at my school. I take like all advanced classes, which have so much more homework! And I never feel like I have time to do it all! It is very overwhelming....I dont make a lot of new friends myself. But, I have one cloase friend so...guess thats good. I dont go out so that I can meet new people....

I hope you get better and I hope you dont have to go through what I did to get there! Hopefully, your rollercoaster ride will be less bumpy than mine! Thats great. I am almost always on AOL so feel free to talk whenever. Since I stay in my room I am always here to talk!! Never to busy to help!

Glad you found us. Hope you keep posting. If you talk to your parents, let us know how it goes! You are strong and you will get through this....remember that!

Take Care of Yourself
Dx: Tendonitis(L knee 02'), Chondromalacia Patella(R knee 02'), Fibromyalgia (07'), Plantar Fascitis(L foot Nov.04' erased with surgery July 05')
Not Dx: Depression, Anxiety/Panic Attacks, Social Phobia, Mild OCD

Meds tried: all the OTC stuff, Mobic, and Lyrica.
"Healing is an energy phenomenon. Hope is another word for Healing.
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"If I talk and laugh too loud...its because I am trying to forget that I am sad."
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
"Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."

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