Been struggling a bit these past few weeks.

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CheerDad
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   Posted 1/10/2008 6:38 PM (GMT -7)   
I am sure it is because of the holiday season, especially because I am not with my kids and they are with their mom, but have been feeling pretty down lately. There are big changes coming at work and I am not a change agent. Too comfortable in my own little niche. Compunded with the fact that both my wife and I have to deal with our ex's, which is a daily choice not to do so in a hateful way, concerning visitation and other things. I will tell  you, and those who have gone through it know, divorce only changes the problems you face, not eliminate them.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.

 
Randy

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   Posted 1/11/2008 2:26 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Randy,

Im sorry to hear your feeling so low at the moment. Do you know when you are next having the kids? The season for depression is certainly upon us. Aside from the jolly family times like xmas and new year, the days are short, the nights are dark and the weather is appauling. (Well, it is in the UK anyway!) Keep your chin up and it will soon be summer and you can look forward to taking the kids out for the day to the beach or something similar.

Take Care

Darren


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   Posted 1/11/2008 5:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Randy

I know what you mean about divorce,Ex's and kids. It is so hard.

I had to cut all contact with my Ex recently because it was causing way to many problems. He couldn't call me about one of the kids without being nasty.
It was easier for me though as my kids are now 18 and 21.

Stay strong and I hope things start to settle down.
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   Posted 1/14/2008 6:47 PM (GMT -7)   
((((Randy)))) Just wanted to let you know I've been thinking about you.

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   Posted 1/15/2008 3:00 AM (GMT -7)   

Hey Randy,

How you doing? Feelin any better as the season wears on? Have you seen the kids yet?

Darren


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   Posted 1/15/2008 11:42 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks all for yoru replys and support. Things are better but still feeling a bit blue. Add to the mess of life, some reorg at work has just been announced which I am not very happy about. I guess life is what it is and we all have to face different challenges.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.

 
Randy

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mrscrankywomen
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   Posted 1/15/2008 12:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Things will work out Randy . I too do not like change and have been suffering silently for many years until a year ago with I was perscriped Prozac for my moods. A new change opened up I was actually dealing with anything that came infront of me with a open mind and laughter.
The downfall hit me like a ton of bricks just before Christmas. I couldn't understand why I was piling on the weight. Realizing it was the prozac.
Now I had a choice to make relaxed or fat.
The truth is being fat made me really depressed. Now I am off the pills and dealing with depression again.
Just letting you know that there is medicines that can help and if you can afford the weight gain then I suggest the assistance because living with depression is hard not only on yourself but everyone around you.

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   Posted 1/16/2008 3:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Randy,
 
I dont think, deep down, that any of us like change. We get comfortable in our own little comfort zone and when things start moving around, we start to get insecure and anxious about the change which sometimes manifests as anger. (Just an opinion mind!) I think the bottom line is that the changes are going to happen regardless and that you need to make the most of them.
 
Good Luck
 
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