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Juliaa
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   Posted 1/19/2008 2:42 PM (GMT -7)   

I guess I need to vent or and stop pretending this isn't real.  I feel like I'm walking around with a fake smile on that everyone can see through.  My daughter is getting married; the only problem is that her husband to be "doesn't want to be in the same room with me."  He feels I'm not appropriate.  He says that me epileptic episodes are embarrassing or that I'm faking them.  My daughter agree's with him.  Ever since she told me I have been getting exceedingly more depressed.  I feeling my whole life  & I am futile.  He doesn’t want me at their wedding or part of their lives.  No medicine is going to fix this.  I feel so lost; I did everything for my children; I feel like a freak.  I can't stop crying how can I fix this.


DX:  Migraine; SLE;Depression; seizures; Sjogrens
 
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Post Edited (crozier) : 1/19/2008 4:06:43 PM (GMT-7)


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   Posted 1/19/2008 4:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Crozier,

I am so sorry that you are going through this. Do you think your daughter's boyfriend is turning her against you? Why does he think you are faking your seizures? Have you always not got along or is this something that just started?

We are here for you in any way that we can be. I hope that they change their attitudes towards you, this must be so difficult for you. You are in my thoughts and in my prayers.

hugs,

Karen
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asyouknow
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   Posted 1/20/2008 2:41 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Crozier,
I feel sorry for what happens to you. Let time tell everything. The best thing you can do when every choice seems unavailable is to do nothing at all. Hatred and selfishness can only be dissolved by love and kindness. Bless your daughter and her husband. The ice of misunderstanding will be thawed ultimately. Time will teach them a lesson that how mean they are to you now and you deserve more attention. Only then a sense of satisfaction will arise inside you.
Blissful yours,
asyouknow

Getting there
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   Posted 1/20/2008 4:34 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Crozier

That must be painful..to hear that you are faking an illness. You are not a freak so don't feel like one. ASYOUKNOW has said it best. Do nothing..cause what can you really do to change their attitudes and mind towards you. If you are a praying person, pray for them. Everything will work itself out when you let them be. Dont be hard on yourself.

I pray things will get better for you.

GT

ShynSassy
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   Posted 1/20/2008 6:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Crozier

I am in the middle of major family drama,and it is getting to the point to where no one wants to be around each other.
It is hard I know,but you are going to have to stand your ground. You deserve to be treated with respect...and if this man is already showing signs of not respecting you,it is going to be a long haul.

What if you wrote your daughter a letter and let her know how this situation is hurting you.
Also,it does worry me that he is showing control over your daughter before they are even married.
I would keep an eye out on her to be sure that she is not in a situation that she can't get out of.

Stay strong and again I am very sorry that you are going through this.
Shy


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Sad & Angry
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   Posted 1/20/2008 1:52 PM (GMT -7)   

Soory to hear of what you are going through. I think the best is for you to remain away from them for a while, so that your daughter will will realize that you are not faking an illness. It is useless trying to explain anything to them. It will only generate more haughtiness from their part.

Is there anyone else who might be of help? Someone you can talk to in the family?


 
 
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Juliaa
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   Posted 1/20/2008 3:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks everyone. BF does not believe that you can "forget" time. Part of my seizures is that I say or do things that happen when I appear concious but am actually having a siezure. They warn you that "Your behavior during a temporal lobe seizure may appear to be deliberate to onlookers. People having these types of seizures have been mistaken for being drunk, taking drugs or acting disorderly." Mine also cross over to the better-known grand-mal and petit-mal epilepsies, in which seizures are "generalized" throughout the brain and cause either unconsciousness and gross motor convulsions or brief lapses in awareness. After either I am very tired and sleep. BF has all the cards and I'm just swirling in a depressive state. I have spoken to friends and family but they can't change the way things are. Maybe I should have posted this on epilepsy page, but I feel so hopeless. The thought of not being in my daughters life is overwhelming. Thanks for listening.
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Another Day
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   Posted 1/20/2008 6:05 PM (GMT -7)   
Crozier,
 
I was also diagnosed with epilepsy about a year and a half ago.  I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through.  Thank goodness, my daughters and their families would never exclude me from anything just because I have epilepsy.
 
Please know you have a support team here at HealingWell.
 
Take care!
 
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   Posted 1/20/2008 6:11 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Crozier, this is Kitt and I am so sorry that you are going through this.  Is there a way you could bring your daughter to the Drs. visit with you and she could ask questions about your dx?  Sometimes when they hear it straight from the Dr. they understand better.
I know how painful this must be for you.  Gentle Hugs to you and let us be your family here.  We all care about you.


 
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Juliaa
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   Posted 1/20/2008 6:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh, I appreciate all of your wonderful and thoughtful suggestions. My daughter has gone to DX; but I truely believe she can't see past BF opions. ShynSassy commented on his control over her; well she is right and my illness doesn't help matters. Thank you for saying you care, I really needed that today. Feeling part of a family is going to get me through. God Bless
DX:  Migraine; SLE;Depression; seizures; Sjogrens
 
Micardis, plaquenil,Prednisone, anti seziure drug,anti depressants


ShynSassy
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   Posted 1/21/2008 4:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Hopefully she wakes up and realizes what she is doing.

For now,all you can do is take it one day at a time and worry about your health.



Stay strong and keep us posted.
Shy


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