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ebeye
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   Posted 1/21/2008 2:54 PM (GMT -7)   
This is an embarassing question, but I'll go ahead and ask it. I FINALLY went to see a doctor about my down-in-the-dumps general feeling that I have all the time, no break. Finally, I went to see a local MD/psychiatrist (my first time) and have to admit I'm not much of a talker. Anyway, he finally put me on Lexapro - which, after a few weeks seemed to do the trick. That was in October. Problem is, I drink an average of a bottle of wine a day - alone - and I have the same feeling of withdrawn, down in the dumps feeling. I do understand that I probably have an alcohol problem, but frankly, I don't know if the Lexapro works or not - or if the wine drinking prevents it from working. I'm a college educated (Master's electrical engineering), single woman and I want to change - but nothing ever changes. Not sure where to go next.

eileen

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   Posted 1/21/2008 3:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Eileen
First of all welcome to the forum.

Anti depressants and drinking do not mix period.
Alcohol is a downer,so therefore you are doubling up on the depression per say and the Lexapro does not stand a chance.

Try a test. Don't drink any wine for a couple of weeks and see how you feel then.
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Post Edited (ShynSassy) : 1/22/2008 5:27:26 AM (GMT-7)


getting by
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   Posted 1/21/2008 3:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Shy is right,

alcohol is a depressant, and mixing it with the antidepressants is not good. Like she said, it doesn't give your lexapro a chance. If you go off the alcohol for a while and the lexapro doesn't work, you might need to bump up the lexapro. But don't start drinking again. It is too self defeating.

I hope that this helps some.

hugs,

Karen
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   Posted 1/21/2008 5:12 PM (GMT -7)   

Eileen

Hello and welcome to HealingWell. I agree alcohol and antidepressants do not mix. Did you share with your Pdoc that you drink daily and the amount. I am thinking you need therapy and the help of your Doctor to get passed the alcohol problem and yes alcohol is a depressant.

I hope you stay with us and let us help you through this tough time.  The members of HealingWell are very warm and caring and you are family here. You can talk about what bothers you and feel safe.

Gentle Hugs to You.


 
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ebeye
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   Posted 1/21/2008 5:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks to everyone for their reply. I've been quite honest with my MD on my level of drinking - the problem I'm facing is quitting. He's mentioned AA, but I must admit I'm very leery of going - not sure why, but as I've said - I don't like talking about personal matters, and AA seems like a seedy place to go and vent. My apologies to anyone who's been. I'm at a point where I can't live like this - perpetually in a state of sadness and not caring or giving a darn about anyone or anything. A friend of mine lost her mother several months back - and what did I do? Nothing. This has got to stop.

eileen

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   Posted 1/21/2008 6:19 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Eileen,

You have taken a big step talking on the forum.  This is a start.  The fact that you talked to your doctor is another big step.  Therefore, I really feel that you want to help yourself, and I think that you will. 

It sounds to me like therapy would be cool for you.  One on one.  You can take things slow so that you don't feel uncomfortable.  I think that it would really work for you. 

I had a psychiatrist tell me once that I should go to AA even though I wasn't even drinking at that time.  He said there was the alcoholic gene in my family.  I felt the way you do about opening up to a group of people and talking about something I don't want to get into.  So I can understand.  For some it is cool, for others not.  So I didn't go.

But I have a good psycologist, that I can talk to about anything.  She is very understanding and can spot things that I can't be objective about at the time.  I have a feeling that you have a reason for numbing your emotions.  If you can talk to a good therapist, I think that the drinking situation will go away. 

In the meantime, we are here for you.  You can come here to vent, ask questions or just to talk.  There is always somebody close by who would love to help you any way that they can.

Keep us posted,

hugs,

Karen


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asyouknow
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   Posted 1/21/2008 7:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi ebeye,
Can you drink cola instead of wine? I find wine neither delicious nor refreshing. Or maybe you can start from having beer rather than wine. The alcohol lures you out of reality. And hence you feel depressed when you face the authenticity of real life. Try hard and get rid of it!
I believe you can do it!

ebeye
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   Posted 1/22/2008 1:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Once again, thanks for the replies. I've never joined an online group discussion forum before, so if I ask a few dumb questions, please forgive me. I must admit I don't have outlets to "vent", but this sense of doom and gloom has gone on way too long and what honestly scares me is I have a sense that my life will end early - and maybe by my own hand, which is a very hard thing to admit, but it's the truth.

I've been talking with the MD/psychiatrist my doctor recommended, but maybe because I'm new in the arena of "talking-about-myself", I just feel like I'm not getting anywhere. I'm feeling like a complete idiot that I can't (or won't) get out of the blues, but I've been this way my whole life. It can't be normal that I wake up, go to work, can't concentrate, don't care at all about my job - I muddle through, I stop by the grocery store on the way home and pick up something easy to cook and pick up a bottle of wine and go on home. Once home, I open the bottle, pour a glass, don't talk with anyone, don't answer the phone, make dinner, watch a bit of TV and finish the bottle and go to bed. Same scenario each day.

Ironically, I enjoy people, but I've been isolating myself - most weekends, I don't see a soul unless I force myself to go out. This sounds like such feeling sorry for myself crap, but at least it's being honest.

eileen

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   Posted 1/22/2008 5:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Eileen

Don't apologize and there are no stupid questions when it comes to depression.
As Getting by said you are taking huge steps by talking about it on here.

I can relate to what you are going through. After my divorce my depression was at the lowest it could get.
I too drank until I fell asleep..but it was a never ending battle of being lonely.

Use this forum to talk,we will always be here for you!

((((((((Hugs)))))))))))
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getting by
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   Posted 1/22/2008 12:03 PM (GMT -7)   

I see a psychiatrist and a psycologist.  My psychiatrist usually only prescribes meds.  We talk very little.  My psycologist is the one I talk to.  I get a lot out of the sessions.  She is very good.  And very understanding.  I think that you need somebody to talk to along with seeing your psychiatrist.  (those are such long words to type).

I think there is a reason you drink and isolate yourself.  I use to drink alone too.  I didn't need an occasion to drink, I just did it everyday, it became a part of my life.  After a while I quit.  I realized that all I was doing was stifiling my feelings with alcohol.  That is what we tend to do when life becomes over whelming to us. 

You might need something for ADD too.  If your mind is wandering while you are trying to work.  You should mention that to your psych.  I could never concentrate, even as a child.  But I had trauma going on at home and I was always worried what I would be coming home to after school. 

Please seek help for this.  I know you think that the wine is making you feel better, but it is adding to your depression hon.  You don't notice that until you stop for a while, you will feel better I promise.  Though it takes a little time for the good feelings to come back.  They will.

In the meantime, keep posting and let us know how you are doing.  We are here for you, we want you to feel better.   You deserve it.

Luv and hugs,

Karen


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ebeye
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   Posted 1/22/2008 6:35 PM (GMT -7)   
I think part of this issue is I suffer from severe migraines. I've just got out of the hospital after a few days for this past one, and the down side is they really bring you down in the dumps. Trouble is, I can't get out of it - even before the migraine. I'm just worried about myself...

getting by
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   Posted 1/22/2008 7:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Do you drink RED wine? If so, it has sulfer in it and is a trigger to migraines.

Hugs,

Karen
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ebeye
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   Posted 1/22/2008 7:54 PM (GMT -7)   
Karen,
No, mainly white wine. I'm having a very tough time the past two days getting out of this slide into deeper sadness. I almost called a hotline (can't believe I'm even saying that!) this weekend, but chickened out. I'm not crazy, but I sure as hell feel like I'm going that way.

eileen

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   Posted 1/22/2008 10:28 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Eileen,

Maybe you should call a hotline or somebody so you can get a little help, you are truly struggling.  It seems like myself and others are depressed right now.  This is really a hard time of year.  Just remember that we are here for you. 

I wish I could give you a big hug of encouragement right now.  Because I know that things will get better.  It is just hard at this time.  ((((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))

You are in my thoughts and in my prayers.  I will be around if you ever want to vent or just talk.  Take things one day at a time and try to keep in mind that things will get better.

Luv and hugs,

Karen


fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, clinically depressed and allergies


ebeye
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   Posted 1/23/2008 1:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for your thoughts. But I've had enough. I can't stand this anymore.

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   Posted 1/23/2008 5:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Ebeye

I am so sorry that you are so down. But,you can make it through this..it is going to take you being strong and making the right decisions.
We are all here for you,and will do the best we can in helping you..
Below are some resources for you..

suicidehotlines.com/
N THE WEB: The Suicide Prevention Resource Center has a Web site at www.sprc.org

BY PHONE: National Suicide hot lines can be reached at (800) 273-8255 or (800) 784-2433
Shy


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ebeye
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   Posted 1/28/2008 12:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Well, the rest of the story is I've been in the hospital now for most of the past two weeks for #&%* migraines. I suppose my mood is a derivative of all this, but my mood really needs help. Thanks to everyone who's written.

eileen

ShynSassy
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   Posted 1/28/2008 6:01 AM (GMT -7)   
Eileen
I get migraines myself,some can last for days. They make you physically ill and of course they darken your mood because you are in so much pain.

I found out that my migraines were caused by pms.

They wanted to put me on a birth control pill to try to help with that,but I have had blood clots in the past so therefore that is out.

Just something to think about on the causes...so many things can cause them.
Shy


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