I too take effexor and xanax for depression and they both work good for me. I have been on them for quite a long time also. Probably will be for the rest of my life.
I understand where you are coming from my friend. Are they certain of the lupus. With the symptoms you are describing it almost sounds like fibromyalgia. The forgetting I mean. Though that could be because you have so much on your mind at the time. I had that problem and they put me on risperdol, it made me gain weight so now I take abilify. I haven't lost, but quit gaining. I often am in the middle of a sentence and forget what I am saying. Or I will go into another room and forget what I went in there for. It can get embarrassing. If you don't know whether you have lupus or not, check out the fibro forum. There are some good threads on forgetting (fibrofog). If you are experiencing pain and fatigue, you will find some information on that. We have had quite a few that have been diagnosed with lupus only to find out it is fibro.
I wish for the best for you. You have come to a good place. You will find a lot of kind and compassionate people here.
Hi there Carol,
From what you describe, you have been through more than your fair share of heart-ache and pain and I am sorry that you have had to experience that. Effexor is not a drug I have taken, but from the responses I have read here on HW, I would say that it is a very popular drug at the moment which seems to be very effective. I am from the UK and Effexor (Alanzepine, I think we call it) is certainly what I often describe as a 'cool' drug. (A drug which is newer, popular and is effective) As for the crying, my experience personally is that I always lie at one extreme or the other. Sometimes I cannot stop crying (or wanting to) and sometimes I want to and I just cant because I am so disconnected from my feelings. So Yes, not crying with depression is normal. Memory (lack of) is usually a side effect of the meds. I also suffer bad memory but its difficult to tell whether its the meds or not since my memory was bad before! lol
Please keep us posted as to how you are getting on
Effexor and xanax works really well for me, but it isn't always the best for others. If you are feeling better though, chances are it will help you. Just never, ever try to go off of it without having your doctor gradually cut you down. It is a horrible experience to go cold turkey. The fibro tenderpoints aren't always there everytime they are checked. I guess I would rather see you have fibro than lupus. But that is up to the doctors to determine.
I am sorry about the copd. Were you a smoker? I smoke and I know that I have to quit. I have tried so many times. But with all the nasty stuff that they put in the cigarettes now, it is hard. You know the lack of oxygen could be adding to your thinking problems. But I suffer from that, I can get introduced to a person and forget there name in an instant. I hate that.
I see a psycologist, but I have had good social workers and other types of therapists. It helps me. The psycologists seem to be more perceptive, but just having someone to vent to and bounce things off of is therapeudic. So yes, if you can I would talk to somebody. And remember you have us here. We can give you different experiences and ways to look at things. But an objective counselor would help you too. They can help you set small goals to take your mind off of things. And cognitive therapy helps you to focus and clear your mind so that you are in the now. And not leaving the stove on LOL. Be careful with that. I use to be so bad that when I did dishes, I had to take each dish and say out loud,'I am washing a bowl, I will rinse the bowl and put it in the rack'. If I didn't do that I was dropping things, and getting really frustrated. So try to slow your mind down, write things down on a piece of paper so you can put them out of your mind and not have to worry about forgetting them. That works for me.
I wish you a wonderful relaxing day.
Luv and hugs,