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MMMNAVY
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   Posted 3/2/2008 6:49 PM (GMT -7)   
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Tennisdoc09 stated:
" And I have been struggling with something and I havent felt like I could talk to you all about it. But, do you all want to know... I was raped a few years ago ok. I have been struggling so much with that lately and I cant get my mind off of it. I am trying so hard to make it through. I havent shared that but with Baby. I talked some to my teacher but I neither of us said the actual word. That is so hard for me to do...but WOW I jus said the word! I am so proud of myself!

I have hit a crucial point. this is the part where I get better or I go back down and right now I am feeling down so... its super hard for me. I know you support me, but I dont have much support...or dont feel like I do. A friend understands what I have been through. But, its hard getting support. I feel a shortage or something. Alot of people dont respond. The same people reply everytime, ya know. Im trying my best to get past all of this. I wish we could forgive and forget....

I am just very lost at this point... I am not sure what to do or who to turn to. I feel as if i am missing somehting very important. I cant figure out where I am going in life. So much has happened and it feels like it has consumed me...

Uh well, I guess. I dont know what I can do about any of it, I have been trying my best."
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Post Edited (MMMNAVY) : 3/2/2008 7:13:12 PM (GMT-7)


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   Posted 3/2/2008 6:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Christi,

I agree, you have taken a huge step and I am proud of you. We will help you get through this.

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MMMNAVY
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   Posted 3/2/2008 7:03 PM (GMT -7)   
I am very proud of you and think you are very brave. Please stay on and keep talking with us. There is a catharsis to this, but also do not be suprised if alot of people do not respond because we have all be harmed in some way, and this might trigger for some. So please do not be offended by people's nonresponse. As it is normal, and I for one am thankful and treasure when people do respond. (Plus getting mad at people for not responding is not an effective tool for communication.) While I am not say this at all substitutes for professional therapy, which to anyone in your situation I would highly recommend, because it is such a difficult thing to have happen. Plus it is free in most communities, so please take advantage of it, as well as this site. I hope we can help guild you to some wellbeing and transcendence in your life.
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   Posted 3/2/2008 8:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Did you find it yet Tennis?

Something big and relaxing? I think that you got it.

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   Posted 3/2/2008 10:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Tennis- I wish there were someone near you that you could tell more to. For instance, you are now 16 and you said this happened "a few years ago," so this actually could be a case of child molestation rather than rape, which would get the person a bigger sentence in prison. You also eluded to something that you and Panike talked about in chat, and I believe I may have guessed what that is. You made comment toward it in another post a while back and it struck me then. It is definitely none of my business, and I could be very wrong in what I believe it to be...so I definitely won't push the issue, just know that you are free to contact me via email, if you wish.

Maybe the teacher that you have been talking to could help you out a bit with the getting to places. I bet your parents wouldn't object to you going to lunch or staying after school with your favorite teacher one day when you just so happen to have a doctor appointment. Then, if appropriate (which I believe it is), you can eventually get the police involved with what has happened to you, finding the perpetrator, and talking to your parents in a way they cannot ignore you or brush you off like you say your mom does.

I really want what is best for you. You have taken a HUGE step by saying this, writing about it, and remembering things. They are all steps toward healing and I am so glad you know that it is NOT YOUR FAULT...the person who did this is wrong on so many levels.
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   Posted 3/3/2008 6:04 AM (GMT -7)   
I am using transcendence in reference to therapeutic character growth, which flat out takes time, examination, change, and growth. You are very young and this self examination and growth happens over the course of a life time, so take your time and work the process.
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   Posted 3/3/2008 7:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Christi
That was not easy for you nor is it for anyone hun I am proud of you and I want you to know we are going to be here for you ...we always have been .....and will continue too

YOU do have so much to offer and a life to look forward too sweetie .......


Keep posting and like was said it will all work out
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   Posted 3/3/2008 7:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Tennis
We have all had a very hard time with this mess... it took alot of emotions,and quite frankly it was not fair to any of us.

Like I said before..for your own best interest,I would just be careful and let the situation go.

You have too much on your own plate,and you are the most important one in your life.
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   Posted 3/4/2008 5:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Tennis

All you can do is take things one day at a time..

I can relate to your secret. I was 12,it was my mom's b/f and it went on for 2 years before I finally found enough guts to run away from home and never go back

You will be forever scarred because of it,but you can get thru it. Therapy and talking about it.
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MMMNAVY
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   Posted 3/4/2008 6:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Tennis, chill about the other subject that is no longer allowed and we can help you with the issue as hand which is trying to find some help and healing for you. Yes I did edit your other other post because you brought up another situation that did not pertain to the issue of your healing. I want to help you with the issues that pertain to your healing and that was not conductive to that.

I do want to help, but unfortunately there are limits to what we can do here. I feel so inadequate to help you. I am sorry. I wish I could do more to help you.
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Post Edited (MMMNAVY) : 3/4/2008 8:18:42 AM (GMT-7)

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