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castel
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   Posted 3/3/2008 1:32 PM (GMT -7)   
Anyone that is out there that can help me I would be very grateful.
My girlfriend suffers from depression and had an opperation just after x mas so she is in bed all week and I need to know how to get her to go out and enjoy life cause I dont now much about depression. I d be very grateful for advise cause I try my best but she is just not herself and im afraid if she leaves me she will only get worse on her own. and believe me i want the best for her

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   Posted 3/3/2008 1:53 PM (GMT -7)   
What was her operation? It is important to know, because we need to know what stage of healing she is at.
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   Posted 3/3/2008 4:40 PM (GMT -7)   
It takes a long time for the mind and body to get over an operation, it is a shock to the system.

Good luck
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castel
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   Posted 3/3/2008 4:42 PM (GMT -7)   
she had some of her disk shaved off her cause she could not walk properly thats why she is in bed so long

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   Posted 3/3/2008 5:51 PM (GMT -7)   
I would say have patience because this could take a long time to heal. Have you talked to her doctor? Maybe they could let you know if she is getting better like she should.

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Mochiah
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   Posted 3/3/2008 7:01 PM (GMT -7)   
I have had back surgery and my doctor advised walking...A LOT. Maybe you can start by just getting her to go outside for a walk with you (or an indoor track if it is too cold out). She is probably pretty bummed because she has been cooped up so long, I know I was.
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behindtheseeyes00987
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   Posted 3/3/2008 8:07 PM (GMT -7)   
i hope she recovers quickly! it's no fun being in bed and not able to do anything for a while, but i bet she'd be happy if you just came to see her and make her laugh. get comfortable and watch a movie maybe? do something that doesnt require a lot of physical movement. and when she's well enough, like mochiah said, go for a nice walk and have a nice talk. she probably needs you now more than ever to get her to feel better physically and emotionally again. best of luck.
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   Posted 3/4/2008 5:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Castel

Lots of love and patience. She needs to have time to heal and get used to feeling better.

Here are some good resources that I have found:
www.rd.com/content/how-to-cope-with-a-depressed-spouse/

www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5014_qa.html
www.mental-health-matters.com/articles/article.php?artid=526

Good Luck and keep us posted!
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