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confusedgirl22
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   Posted 3/10/2008 1:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello.
    I started talking to a guy online about 3 months ago...on facebook (not the guy who got me pregnant). I saw his pictures and everything online and he seemed like on good guy. I sent him some pictures of myself like he asked to. He told me I was hot and I felt good about myself when he complimented me. Then today I saw he has a new gf. He was single when I started talking to him. I don't know why but I got sad when I saw he had a gf. We had been talking almost every day. I asked him in a text if he had a gf and at first he said no it was a joke. And then he told me to stop texting him or his gf would kill him. Then he told me to send pics of myself to him.  Then he said he wanted to see more.. I said no. And then he told me to send them to "another number." And I said no. That I didn't believe he had another number. Then he texted me "from his other number" telling me that it in fact was his second number. But I still didn't send the pics to that number. Then I got a call from that number...and it was a guy saying that it wasn't the online guy and that I made a mistake...he said he didn't know the online guy I met. I'm REALLY confused. Did this online guy and his friend play a joke on me? And why would they do this to me? Why????? Why am I so gullable? :-( I texted the online guy and told him him and his "Friend" whoever it was are playing some kind of joke. And of course he said he didnt know what I was talking about. What do you think is going on with him? Do you think he played a joke on me? And why would he?
 
 
Sorry confused, I had to edit your post due to adult nature.  We get very young adults, 13 years old and I didn't think that would be appropriate for them to read.
Sorry sweetie.
Karen

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 3/10/2008 2:31:06 PM (GMT-6)


getting by
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   Posted 3/10/2008 1:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Confused,

I am sorry that I had to edit your post. It still puts the message acrossed without the explicit things.

You really need to be more careful about who you send pictures to and the content of them. You never know who is going to see them. You don't know who the other guy is or if he knows where you live. This could be dangerous to you. So please think before you act. There are a lot of wierdos out there.

It sounds like they are having fun at your expense. There are some bad people out there that don't care about other's feelings and it sounds like these guys are like that.

I am sorry that this happened to you.

Hugs, Karen
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djdaz_1985
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   Posted 3/10/2008 2:07 PM (GMT -7)   

I agree with Karen, I think it was just someone having fun at your expense. I think its really sad that people do these kinds of things and it makes me so mad! mad

Please dont think that this is a reflection on you. It could have been anyone and if you hadnt been there at the right time, they would have got someone else. Just be grateful that this all ended relatively painlessly... it could have been much worse.

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confusedgirl22
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   Posted 3/10/2008 4:07 PM (GMT -7)   
I don't understand why he did something like this. First my ex, then the guy who got me pregnant (who I met online and then in person a few times), and now him. I don't understand, is something wrong with me? Why did these guys take advantage of me? Why did this recent guy tell me to stop talking to him after I told him I was mad at the joke he played. Then I kept calling him and texting him why he didn't want to talk to me and he didn't answer. What's wrong with me? :-(

Sadsong
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   Posted 3/10/2008 5:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Confused,

It sounds like your best option is just to forget about this creep. Who knows why some people act the way they do, but if someone hurts you or plays tricks on you on purpose, it's usually best to walk away and not let them hurt you again. I know it can be hard, since you want answers, but it's worth it to take the high road. Always remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and if someone doesn't treat you the way you should be treated, then they don't deserve any of your time or energy.

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   Posted 3/10/2008 8:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Confused,

I don't think that it is anything wrong with you, I think that if it wasn't you it would have been somebody else.

hugs, Karen
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ShynSassy
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   Posted 3/11/2008 4:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Confused

Please be careful on who you contact from the internet... there are alot of strange people out there and that is the last thing you need right now.
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djdaz_1985
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   Posted 3/11/2008 6:10 AM (GMT -7)   
I dont think there is anything wrong with you either but as Shy has said, I would just be very careful about who you meet on the internet. If you are going to do it, do it with a friend so that you are safer.

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confusedgirl22
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   Posted 3/11/2008 6:37 AM (GMT -7)   
I think you all are right. I'm never going to meet anyone online again (not even with a friend). He lives in FL and he wanted to meet me when I went down there for grad school. Also, I'm never sending pictures of myself anymore. I can't trust people out there anymore. I regret I sent pictures to him. I regret it very much. I just felt good about myself after he told me that I was hot. It made me feel better. But I realized it's not worth it if he's going to treat me like this now. I cried almost all day yesterday because I was so hurt with that joke he played on me and how he's treating me now. I feel (just as I did with my ex) that it's my fault. Well I'm never talking to him again. Now that he has a girlfriend he won't talk to me. I thought him and I were friends...I guess not. Do you think part of the reason I think it's my fault these guys are not talking to me is because of my low self-esteem? Am I falling for bad guys because of my low self-esteem? Should I tell my therapist what happened with this guy I met online? I'm supposed to see him on Friday. How do I prevent myself from falling for another guy like this again? I'm so scared. I want to work on raising my self-esteem but I don't know what to do.

Post Edited (confusedgirl22) : 3/11/2008 9:38:13 AM (GMT-6)


djdaz_1985
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   Posted 3/11/2008 9:00 AM (GMT -7)   

Hiya,

I think your low SE is probably one of the main reasons why you blame yourself. I dont think your SE is a factor in why you fall for these people though. 90% of single people would be very flattered to receive compliments from strangers and I think its that which builds on a false idea.

I would tell your therapist what has happened and tell him that you think your SE is a problem. He should be able to give you exercises to help boost your SE.

Darren


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   Posted 3/11/2008 4:29 PM (GMT -7)   
Confused

I do believe that we seem to lower our standards to what we want out of life because of our depression. I know I have done it many times.
Don't let this guy bring you down anymore than you already are.. you will find someone,just give it time.
Guys that do that crap are not someone that you want anything to do with..it is very immature.

You are a beautiful person and have your whole life ahead of you.. get through school and figure out who you are.

We want you to get through this,and will be here for you.....
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Post Edited (ShynSassy) : 3/12/2008 6:12:01 AM (GMT-6)

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